THIS POST IS CONTINUED FROM PART 16, BELOW-
Just as you have positive, empowering beliefs, you can also have negative, is empowering beliefs. If you had the misfortune of being bullied at school. You may have developed a belief that people, in general, aren’t pleasant.
Being bullied at school is a very traumatic experience . I saw a Hollywood movie where after several decades , at an old school reunion, the school bully started off all over again .
Trauma inflicted by bullies at school can scar the soul. You may not even notice when someone responds in a friendly manner because your belief filters aren’t geared to noticing pleasant people.
A friendly remark will always be subjected to the LOADED REMARK filter –and this is most unfortunate
A belief or belief system can support a particular value. Values are the why you do something.
Beliefs direct your behavior, which then helps you to fulfil a value – provided of course your unconscious mind creates no conflicts.
Values are the ‘hot buttons’ that drive all your behaviours and are your unconscious motivators and demotivators: you act because of your values.
After you’ve acted, you use these values to judge whether the deed was good or bad. For instance, if you value honesty you may decide to pick up a wallet you find in the street for safe-keeping and feel good about handing it over to the police.
Values affect the choice of your friends and partners, the types of goods you purchase, the interests you pursue, and how you spend your free time.
The values at the top of the hierarchy are usually more abstract than those further down and exert the most influence in your life.
Your values are essentially formed over three periods in your life:--
### The imprint period occurs from the time of your birth to when you’re approximately seven years old. During this time you learn largely unconsciously from your parents.
### The modelling period occurs between the ages of 8 and 13 when you learn by consciously and unconsciously copying friends. Some of your most important values – core values – are formed when you’re around 10 years old.
### The socialisation period occurs between the ages of 14 and 21 years. The socialisation period occurs between the ages of 14 and 21 years. During this time you acquire values that affect your relationships.
Beliefs are contextual-- they arise from learned experiences, resulting from the cultural and environmental situations we have faced. Values are not based on information from the past and they are not contextual. Values are universal. Values transcend contexts because they are based on what is important to us: They arise from the experience of being human.
Values are intimately related to our needs: Whatever we need—whatever is important to us or what is missing from our lives—is what we value. As our life conditions change, and as we mature and grow in our psychological development, our value priorities change. values guide the way we live our lives and the decisions we make.
A value may be defined as something that we hold dear, those things/qualities which we consider to be of worth.
An attitude is a belief about something. It usually describes what we think is the ‘proper’ way of doing something. The attitudes that we feel very strongly about are usually called values. Other attitudes are not so important and are more like opinions.
Sometimes our own attitudes can make us blind to other people’s values, opinions and needs. Attitudes will always have a positive and negative element and when you hold an attitude you will have a tendency to behave in a certain way toward that person or object.
Beliefs and values (and criteria) are closely related. In fact, they are interdependent. That is, they cannot be separated from each other. In essence, beliefs provide context for our experiences, and connect our experiences to our values and criteria.
Core values can help people to know what is right from wrong; they can help companies to determine if they are on the right path and fulfilling their business goals; and they create an unwavering and unchanging guide
IN ANCIENT INDIA WE WENT TO THE HIGHEST NOTCH –DHARMA
Memories can be a wonderful gift or a terrible scourge. They can cradle you softly or bind you in coils of barbed wire; they can propel you towards your dreams or trap you in the past.
HANG PICTURES IN YOUR HOME AND OFFICE WHICH GIVE BRINGS YOU JOYFUL MEMORIES
NOBODY CAN INSULT YOU WITHOUT YOUR CONSENT
Your brain is a learning machine that needs to be kept occupied. If it isn’t, it can start to dwell on the negative and get you into all kinds of trouble. An idle mind is a devil’s workshop. As a human being, you need to use all your ingenuity to direct your brain towards helping you to achieve your goals.
TO FINISH A JOB FIRST BEGIN
A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step, For you to turn your dream into a concrete reality you have to take that first vital step, because without it you may not build up sufficient momentum to take the next step . . . and then the next step.
‘In interactions between people, the person with the most flexibility of behaviour can control the interaction.’ Or more directly: ‘If it ain’t working, do something different.’
In a normal life, however, expecting to score perfect 10s for everything, all the time, is unrealistic. Life just isn’t like that. When you’re working hard, another aspect of your life may slip down the agenda
The act of writing down your goal switches on your RAS-- Reticular Activating System . The RAS works by filtering all sensory information we receive, and channelling them into either our unconscious or conscious mind.
The RAS is that little bundle of cells you have in the back of your brain known as the "control center", it serves as the filter for what enters your conscious and unconscious mind.
We are able to act on only those information that are currently in our conscious mind. The capacity of our conscious mind is limited, while that of our unconscious mind is unlimited. Our beliefs, attitudes, values, and conditioning act as the filters in our RAS.
Setting goals is one of the best ways to set our RAS filters.
Everything deemed irrelevant by our filters, “disappears” into our unconscious. They become “unseen” by us. You can think of the RAS as a camera lens as it focuses on a subject and blurs the unnecessary things in the background to produce a good photograph.
The RAS is a self-filtering system that chooses what you accept and reject based upon your beliefs, values and prejudices.. Your brain is assaulted by thousands of messages each second. Everything you see, hear, smell, feel and touch is a message entering your brain. The RAS filters through all these messages and decides which ones will get page one treatment - that is, arouse the brain.
The RAS is a structure in the brain stem that is responsible for arousal and sleep. The RAS is responsible for getting your up in the morning and putting you asleep at night - it makes sense then why your RAS awakens you, alerts you like an alarm to those things that are in the forefront of your consciousness.
AT SEA MY SHORE BOSSES ALWAYS WONDERED HOW CAPTAIN MET EACH AND EVERY OF HIS SCHEDULES AND HIS GOALS
I HAVE A WHITE BOARD ON THE WALL IN FRONT OF MY OFFICE CHAIR
ON IT WAS WRITTEN DOWN IN MY OWN HAND, MY LIST OF PRIORITIES FOR THE DAY. THESE PRIORITIES CHANGED EVERY SINGLE HOUR .
I USED THREE COLOURS – RED FOR IMMINENT TASKS
BASICALLY THIS “RAS STIMULATION” BOARD DID PERFECT TIME MANANAGEMENT FOR ME
OUT OF HINDSIGHT CREW AND SHORE BOSSES KNOW WHAT CAPTAIN WANTS
BEFORE I JOIN A SHIP THE WHITE BOARD AND 16 KILO DUMBELLS ARE ALREADY ON BOARD
16 KILO DUMB BELLS?
MY CREW GETS THE FEELING-- IF CAPTAIN DOES NOT THROW THE RULE BOOK ON YOU FACE , HE MIGHT PREFER TO BEAT THE LIVING DAYLIGHTS OUT OF YOU ( JUST THAT SNEAKY FEELIN' )
CAPT STEVAN SEGAL IS A BETTER CAPTAIN THAN CAPT MAHATMA GANDHI
Below: Even a child can pull down a man by twisting his finger to beyond the pain barrier -- a Kalari art.
RAS is a small group of cells at the base of your brain stem. Its function is to act like a sorting office, evaluating the incoming information and prioritising that information in the form of messages that need your attention.
At home I have an external filter ( my own white board ) before my water RO purifier, which I installed myself. The technician who comes to service always says— insides of internal filters are very clean.
Write down your goals as it will increase the chances of you achieving those goals. It is NOT possible to keep their goals inside the head on a dynamic place like a chemical tankers where priorities keep shifting every hour.
If you write your goals down and post them in visible places to remind yourself of those goals, you will be more able to achieve those goals.
MORE IMPORTANT, I CALL THIS WHITE BOARD , MY NO 1 TOOL IN STRESS MANAGEMENT
PEOPLE ALWAYS WONDERED WHY CAPTAIN NEVER APPEARED RUFFLED— WHY HE WAS LIKE THE QUINTESSENTIAL “COOL CAT”
Memories are normally created when information from the RAS is sent to the part of the brain called the amygdala, where the data are given an emotional weighting before being passed on to the hippocampus. The hippocampus evaluates the data against those held in long-term memory and presents them to the cortex for analysis and re-filing back into long-term memory.
Discovering how to say ‘no’ sometimes is one of the greatest skills for modern living, if you’re to protect yourself from being overloaded and then becoming sick with the stress.
To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time from time bandits.
It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them.
This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.”
At least you gave it some consideration. Saying “yes”, all the time can be draining and you need to draw the line on when and how to say “no”. It may feel like you are disappointing others by saying no but if you constantly say yes, people will take advantage of you.
IF SOME CUNT INSIST ON KNOWING WHY YOU SAID NO—TELL HIM IT IS PART OF YOUR PERSONAL POLICY.
OR BLUNTLY SAY THAT YOU ARE MAKING ROOM FOR SAYING “YES” TO SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT DESERVE A "NO" ( IF THIS PERSON DESERVED NO TACT )
Some requests are unreasonable or inappropriate, and they issue from people who have no power over you OR misrepresent their powers over you
I WAS BLUNT AT SEA WITH MY SHORE BOSSES –IT WAS THE USUAL “FUCK OFF” --DONT DO THIS UNLESS YOUR SHIT DOES NOT SMELL IN THAT COMPANY .
Time displays a strange, elastic quality: it goes fast when you’re engaged in something interesting and stretches when you allow yourself to get bored. Some people are stuck in the past, others have their gaze firmly staring into the future, and some people just live in the moment.
Your unconscious mind needs direction Yogis liken the unconscious mind to a mischievous monkey, always leaping from tree to tree. The way to keep the monkey occupied and out of mischief is to stick a pole in the ground and direct the monkey to climb up and down the pole. If your conscious mind doesn’t provide a direction for your unconscious mind, the latter looks to find direction wherever it can.
Your unconscious mind needs direction and focus or it may create destructive behaviours in you. In order to direct the unconscious mind, you need to open up communication channels between your conscious and your unconscious minds. This rapport is developed by finding a quiet time for meditation or relaxation and examining the memories presented to you by your unconscious mind.
Your unconscious mind – the preserver of memories that all your experiences are recorded faithfully in memory. Part of the function of the unconscious mind is to repress memories with unresolved negative emotions.
Your unconscious mind is a lean, mean learning machine. Your unconscious thrives on new experiences. It needs to be fed with new possibilities and gets you into trouble when you don’t keep it from getting bored.
You can find constructive ways of keeping your mind occupied, such as reading, or taking up a hobby which interests you . Activities like these make your brain cells grow more physical dendrites (the branches of a brain cell) and keep you mentally fitter. Blogging has wired by own brain via different pathways.
A terrorist can kill and destroy without qualms because his moral code teaches him that he’s a freedom fighter. He therefore believes that he’s in fact being amoral person in fighting against a criminal society.
If, however, your unconscious mind decides that you deserve to be punished, you can be wracked with guilt and exhibit behaviors designed to punish yourself
IS THIS JNU COMMIE PROFESSOR NIVEDITA MENON MENTALLY FIT TO TEACH INDIAN STUDENTS ?
TO BE CONTINUED--
CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL