Ethical NLP, Neuro-Linguistic Programming sans covert manipulation and predatory deception, Part 8 - Capt Ajit Vadakayil

THIS POST IS CONTINUED FROM PART 7, BELOW--

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2017/04/ethical-nlp-neuro-linguistic_10.html

NLP claims that each of us has a Primary Representational System (PRS), a tendency to think in specific modes: visual, auditory, kinaesthetic, olfactory or gustatory.  That a person's PRS can be determined by words the person tends to use or by the direction of one's eye movements.

Representational systems is a postulated model from neuro-linguistic programming, a collection of theories, regarding how the human mind  processes and stores information. The central idea of this model is that experience is represented in the mind in sensorial terms, i.e. in terms of the putative five senses.

According to NLP founders conmen Bandler and Grinder our chosen words, phrases and sentences are indicative of our referencing of each of the representational systems.  

So for example the words "black", "clear", "spiral" and "image" reference the visual representation system; similarly the words "tinkling", "silent", "squeal" and "blast" reference the auditory representation system. 

Conmen  Bandler and Grinder also propose that ostensibly metaphorical or figurative language indicates a reference to a representational system such that it is actually literal. For example, the comment "I see what you're saying" is taken to indicate a visual representation.

At the core of NLP is the belief that, when people are engaged in activities, they are also making use of a representational system; that is, they are using some internal representation of the materials they are involved with, such as a conversation, a rifle shot, a spelling task. 

These representations can be visual, auditory, kinesthetic, or involve the other senses. In addition, a person may be creating a representation or recalling one. For example, a person asked to spell a word may visualize that word printed on a piece of paper, may hear it being sounded out, or may construct the spelling from the application of a series of logical rules.

According to NLP, mental processing of events and memories can be treated as if performed by the five senses. For example, Albert Einstein credited his discovery of special relativity to a mental visualization strategy of "sitting on the end of a ray of light".

NLP lies that for most circumstances and most people, three of the five sensory based modes seem to dominate in mental processing:--

visual thoughts - sight, mental imagery, spatial awareness

auditory (or linguistic) thoughts - sound, speech, dialog, white noise

kinesthetic (or proprioceptive) sense - somatic feelings in the body, temperature, pressure, and also emotion.

The other two senses, gustatory (taste) and olfactory (smell), which are closely associated, often seem to be less significant in general mental processing, and are often considered jointly as one.

ALL ABOVE PRS IS TOTAL BULLSHIT !

FIRST OF ALL ALBERT EINSTEIN IS A THIEF.  

NOTHING FOR WHICH HE GOT AWARDS IS HIS ORIGINAL THOUGHT.    

EVERYTHING  --100%--  WAS STOLEN FROM VEDAS WITHOUT ELEMENTARY UNDERSTANDING

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2014/08/yellapragada-subbarow-nobel-prize-and.html

People are only able to perceive a small part of the world using their conscious awareness, and that this view of the world is filtered by experience, beliefs, values, assumptions, and of course biological sensory systems.  People act and feel based on their perception of the world rather than the real world.

Let me talk about PERCEPTION .

Three friends go to a bar for drinking beer ( costing 10 dollars a bottle )

As usual they take out one 10 dollar bill each from their wallets and gives the waiter,  3 nos 10 dollar  notes or 30 dollars.

The bar owner is in a expansive mood and he tells the waiter -- "happy hour time! -- give them 5 dollars back!!-- i will charge only 25 dollars for 3 beers today ".

The clever waiter knows 5 dollars cannot be split between 3 regular dutchmen. so he pockets 2 dollars and returns 3 one dollar notes .

The three of them put back one dollar each into their respective wallets.  Initially each wallet had one 10 dollar bill--now it has only one single dollar bill.

Now comes the perception part:---

All three of them spent 9 dollars each-- 27 dollars total.

The waiter got 2 dollars.

WHERE IS ONE DOLLAR GONE-- POOF??? 

Be honest to yourself and dont read further, till you figure this out.

You tell an accountant without perception to give you a debit/ credit accounts statement-- and see the way he sweats.

See literacy has nothing to do with perception.   A illiterate chaiwala boy in Mumbai can make an ass out of you, when it comes to accounts.

Daft accountants make a mistake when it comes to "receipts" and " balance ".

Here in this case it is - 30+0= 27+3.

Opening cash + receipts = spent cash+ balance cash.  It can never ever be 30-3+2=29

See, you cant argue with dorks.   2 dollars is something which happened in the mann mandir of the waiter.   How do you know that he stole 2 dollars ?   Accounting has to be objective.

Now let me talk about another case -- It is about RELATIVITY

There was this blind man, who used to constantly bitch about his bad luck-- again and again to whoever bothered to listen to him.

Fed up of this broken record, one day a wise man suggested to him, listen I have an idea -- let us put you misfortune in a basket, and so will everybody else .  Then we will shake up these misfortunes and you can pick up another man's misfortune.  You cannot lose as you will gain your eye sight, which you so sorely miss.

Before the wise man completed , the blind man told him to FO.

He was happy with his own misfortune.  At least he could get a massive hard on and with that he could enjoy with his girl friend, or all by himself if she was at work, or busy.  His girl friend was his fan, as he could sing well and and she loved his sense of humor and his performance in bed.  And his friends had given him bull  that she was attractive, while in reality she looked YUCCKK.

Suddenly he saw the light,  as soon as he related his misfortune with another man's.  He never bitched after that. 

So sometimes a leper could be the happier , that a guy in a wheel chair with a broken spine. 

It is necessary to compare things in life.  There are no absolutes like happy, sad, big, small, beautiful, ugly , strong , weak, rich, poor etc.

So sometimes when you feel you are happy,  it is just your comparison, to what you felt before.

There has to be a base for every thing.   Relativity is the only thing which allows anything to exist.   This extends from atoms to living beings to the cosmos.  There has to be a reference point.  People who do NOT understand this truth usually paint themselves into a corner.

You cant think in black and white. Everything cannot be termed in groups of right and wrong. There are shades of grey.  Like President Bush said, either you are with me or against me.  Hey, how about "who the fu#k are you" , or “how about a kick on your ass" ? 

When dealing with the law you must pinch and remind yourself, that absolutes could rule the day. "Do you plead guity or non-guilty", asked the judge.     You will piss him off if you say " I am only a little guilty!"   Like the 12 year old girl telling her mother " Ma, looks like I am a little pregnant!" 

Unlike Hinduism, most modern religions like Christianity , Islam etc are absolute.  Members of these religions  see their own religion as the one that is right and will regard all others as wrong. Religious intolerance is due to this perception. 

According to the New Testament, the way it reads today’s abridged Bible , Jesus Christ (who never existed ) said that nobody will be saved except through him.    If the "Hour of Judgment" were to take place today, do you truly believe that all non-Christians would be doomed to hell forever?" A priest will answer this with a huge YES.

Literal and narrow interpretation of holy books as is done on evangelist TV channels or in a place of worship, can be dangerous. Many spiritual statements need to be analyzed and interpreted broadly.

This is the reason why this planet had to suffer Inquisitions and crucifications.  Many of the Popes of Vatican were involved in simony, nepotism, torture, murder, sexual promiscuity, or other sins unbefitting anyone claim to spread the word of God. 

Mahatma Gandhi, had said "A votary of truth (a person fervently devoted to truth)  is often obliged to grope in the dark." 

Hey Gandhi--how about taking endless enemas from naked teenaged girls ?

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2017/01/mahatma-gandhi-and-his-endless.html

Our challenge therefore lies in our blind spots, not in our vision.   Unlike correcting a blind spot in the rear view of an automobile, which can be rectified simply by adding a different kind or a supplemental mirror, at another angle, we cannot correct our personal blind spots so easily. 

To correct them, we must grow in our perception and in our acceptance of what is. "Perceive" means to "seize wholly," to "see all the way through." Perception, therefore, is the act of seeing in the mind, of understanding.

Our perceptions grow and change as we mature, but not everyone's perceptions mature at the same rate, which accounts for the widely differing degrees of consciousness with respect to cause-and-effect relationships, as we see different truths.

So let me quote John Godfrey Saxe's ( 1816-1887) version of the famous Indian legend--the six blind men of Hindoostan-

It was six men of Indostan

To learning much inclined,

 Who went to see the Elephant

(Though all of them were blind),

That each by observation

Might satisfy his mind.

The First approach'd the Elephant,

And happening to fall

Against his broad and sturdy side,

At once began to bawl:

"God bless me! but the Elephant

Is very like a wall!"

The Second, feeling of the tusk,

Cried, -"Ho! what have we here

So very round and smooth and sharp?

To me 'tis mighty clear

This wonder of an Elephant

Is very like a spear!"

The Third approached the animal,

And happening to take

The squirming trunk within his hands,

Thus boldly up and spake:

"I see," quoth he, "the Elephant

Is very like a snake!"

The Fourth reached out his eager hand,

And felt about the knee.

"What most this wondrous beast is like

Is mighty plain," quoth he,

"'Tis clear enough the Elephant

Is very like a tree!"

The Fifth, who chanced to touch the ear,

Said: "E'en the blindest man

Can tell what this resembles most;

Deny the fact who can,

This marvel of an Elephant

Is very like a fan!"

The Sixth no sooner had begun

About the beast to grope,

Then, seizing on the swinging tail

That fell within his scope,

"I see," quoth he, "the Elephant

Is very like a rope!"

And so these men of Indostan

Disputed loud and long,

Each in his own opinion

Exceeding stiff and strong,

Though each was partly in the right,

And all were in the wrong! 

MORAL.

So oft in theologic wars,

The disputants, I ween,

Rail on in utter ignorance

Of what each other mean,

And prate about an Elephant

Not one of them has seen! 

Well these were blind men.  Let us talk about people who are NOT blind.

The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend.  People see what they want to see and what people want to see , never has anything to do with the truth. 

Perception determines how a person responds to the world.  This means there is no reality- only perception. This is why people all over the world get fooled by clever advertisements and branding. However, the more you already know about a topic, the harder it is for anyone to mislead or misinform you.

  

“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” – Albert Einstein 

Perception is not always to be trusted, as our perceptions are colored by our beliefs, expectations and experiences. Everything you see or hear or experience in any way at all is specific to you. You create a universe by perceiving it, so everything in the universe you perceive is you-specific. You get upset with people as they do NOT conform to your personal rules for the situation. 

Perception determines reality but at the same time your "perception" of reality does not mean that it is indeed reality... it is just your reality.

Our memories are not the equivalent of video recordings of events. Instead, memories are our interpretative summaries of the information gathered by your senses. 

Perception is the process of translating the outside world to an inside representation into the perceiver.  What we perceive as being true is often conditionally true rather than empirically true. 

Your beliefs, values and references are what make your reality.  You may see a situation as being bad while a  person who is more optimistic sees it as an opportunity for growth.  One man’s meat is another man’s poison.  One man’s  success is another man’s failure. 

Business is all about perceptions.  The essence of leading, managing, marketing and selling is coming to grips with people's perceptions. There is only one perceived reality, the way each of us chooses to perceive a communication, the value of a service, the value of a particular product feature, the quality of a product. 

Most of your judgments result from decisional shortcuts and thumb rules you use to generate solutions that are good enough most of the time.   When you perceive a situation that looks familiar to you, doesn't your past experience cause you to see the event in terms of what you expect?  Doesn't your limited span of attention lead you to categorize things by aspects that appear similar to what you already know?

"We are constantly bombarded with so much sensory information that it is impossible for us to pay attention to everything.  Our subconscious mind scans our environment and selects what it deems may be important for us to notice.  Even then, people not only see things the way they are, they also tend to see what they expect to see, as well as what they want to see.  

Much of human perception is based not based on information flowing into the brain from the outside world ,the brain, based on previous experience, expects to happen next. 

Perception is the process of feeling and understanding the environment by ways of sensory data processing. These sensory data are the results of interactions between sensors and outer stimuli.

Our brains and sense organs are wired in specific ways to aid in the purpose of survival. This machine is built with specific perceptual functionality that intentionally orders thought in ways that allow for prime survival strategies. It doesn’t follow the physical rules or laws of the universe. It runs with a specific purpose. 

Our human machine not only perceives the world, it intentionally creates and re-creates the world around it. It drives and shapes reality even though this would seem to contradict its purpose and function. This machine functions through the exploitation of an active paradox. It sees what is out there and it creates what it sees.

Truth is absolute. Perceptions of truth are relative. Therefore, facts, which are perceptions of truth, are relative.  Paradoxes is something in which the same information may lead to two contradictory conclusions--give us pleasure and torment at the same time . 

Truth is singular and perceptions plural. The universe functions perfectly . Our perception of how the universe functions is imperfect. 

Truth is perfect understanding of that which is.  It is neither the spoken word nor the written word, although these may have a ring of truth to them. Truth cannot be defined; it can only be experienced and lived. 

Truth is universal. Perception of truth is not.  Perception in the broadest sense is a matter of interaction between the world and the self. 

All our knowledge is the offspring of our perceptions.  Attitude can effect perception of the real world and the real world can effect attitude. 

Perception is hence more like a reflection of reality than reality itself.  It is an interpretation of reality that is erroneous to some degree and cannot be perfectly correct. 

You can’t touch or feel or see perceived value, yet it affects our actions more than we’d like to admit.   Knowledge has everything to do with the social acceptability of perception and nothing to do with Truth.  Did someone say God Particle ? 

Truth can exist only , only in the present, in this instant, in the here and now. The past and the future are both illusions, and like all illusions, they are devoid of Truth.  Distinguish truth and reality. Truth is is real.   Reality is not known, it is realised,experienced. 

We're prone to accepting and using all "shades" of truth. Truth is absolute and simply is, so there is only Truth and untruth. Truth never needs defense, although it may require explanation.  And where Truth abides, no judgment of human value is possible. 

The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.  There is little difference in people, but that difference makes a big difference.   The little difference is attitude.

Any idea or thought that you accept as true will be accepted as a command by your subconscious mind. 

Brain is not capable of distinguishing between reality and memory—the same neurons are sparked when we see something as when we merely remember it. Brain cannot distinguish between an image of experience and one of vivid imagination. You can participate in an orgy or think of an orgy, your wee willie winkie will give the same standing ovation.

Any passing comment or trivial statements can have a devastating effect on our subconscious mind because it is not argumentative or analytical. It accepts all statements directly on the face value. Even prayers and beliefs are positive signals which we give to our subconscious mind as something acceptable and true.

The subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between a real experience and one that you vividly imagine. You can fool it. It cannot tell the difference between real and imaginary experience.

The conscious and subconscious minds are connected through a filter. So we cant read the contents of our subconscious mind.

Thinking is not an action of the mind , but an action of our entire body. Tell your subconscious what you want repeatedly and it will produce it. . Every thing you have experienced using your 5 senses is part of the permanent memory of the subconscious mind, which never sleeps.

 The subconscious mind acts on old beliefs stored over a lifetime.

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/04/rape-of-subconscious-mind-capt-ajit.html

WHEN YOU ARE IN THE ZONE OR IN THE FLOW—NOBODY CAN READ YOUR MIND

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/12/in-zone-capt-ajit-vadakayil.html

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2011/02/in-flow-capt-ajit-vadakayil.html

Many of those beliefs you may have accepted without thinking.  Or you may have absorbed them when you were too young to exercise choice.  Negative suggestions with growing children gets rooted in their subconscious mind and is reflected later in their behavior.

By the way, you cannot talk anyone into 'happiness' because happiness is an inside job.

Hark, all patriotic Indians . 

When you get a message on foreign funded TVs   “ Do you think Team Anna must form a new political party,  to fight corruption in India— answer in YES or NO,  by giving missed call to this number 123456789. “   be very careful.

This is one way to know who all can be called on to the streets for mass scale flash protests , to pull down a lawfully elected government, so that the wheels of governance grinds to a halt..

Virtue words like anti-corruption, truth,  freedom , peace, our way of life,  etc are such easy platforms to ask such YES/ NO questions and polarize perceptions.

Being naïve , you will send a missed call YES.  Now your number is in the call list of potential revolutionaries in a computer which can send mass SMS messages.

HAVE YOU NOTICED THAT IN AN NDTV STUDIO AUDIENCE –THE SAME PICKLE JOHNS, CHUTNEY MARYs ,COMMIES AND STOOGES COME EVERY TIME –SELECTED ON BASIS OF THEIR TWITTER LEANINGS ?

Don’t get polarized by such message schemes.  Example:  “ Do you think as an Indian Muslim, the Babri Masjid incident and Godhra riots are good or bad—please send a missed call to 123456789 saying YES/ NO.   Again this is a fear/ discontent  platform .

Mark my words – as one day you will wonder why so may Indians came on the streets in a few seconds , exercising their right to recall  ( just because India preferred a MIG plane over a F16 fighter jet plane -OR why a particular minority community suddenly did mass exodus,  from a sensitive area.   This can be revenge or retribution,  just because someone patriot in power did NOT allow USA  to steal our nation’s resources or sign away further nuclear rights.

This is the age of mis-information.   PR and propaganda is interchangeable.   When US put embedded CNN reporters in every army unit during the Iraq war , you must understand that these are not truth reporters— rather they are PROFESSIONAL  LIE MANUFACTURERS,  who are trained by psychologists to reshape reality.   They are trained to manufacture content.

You have no idea how you can get  carried away by such vague  branding logos like “just do it” , “I am loving it”,  “yes, we can”  etc .   

Hollow placards displaying  "Support our troops.  Help save American lives",  before dropping a bomb on women and children in one corner of the globe, to fill the pockets of greedy American corporates , must be  treated for what they is worth. 

My younger son who never would ask me for sweets , one day asked my wife for more Wriggley Double Mint chewing gum.  He asked with big round eyes as a 4 year old boy  “ Mummy, can I have some more?”— like Oliver Twist.   

Knowing that this piece of dialogue does NOT belong to my son, I searched for the empty carton and found out that Wriggleys had it printed on the bottom “ When you chewing gum gets over , ask for some more”.

USA has overthrown about 50 legally elected democracies, in the modern era .  “Globalization” is nothing but a empire building strategy in this age , when you cannot  go around brazenly colonizing countries.  

China’s is full of sweat shops .  They do slave labor for the WEST.   China has polluted her rivers ,land and air, by manufacturing stupid things like toys , clothes, electricals for the West.  The real important things like critical chips and vital electronic circuits are not given to China for manufacture.

USA has just realized that they have struck a hammer on their own feet.  For all this Chinese smoke rises high up,  goes across the pacific ocean like a balloon in 3 days flat and rains down on California in the form of acid rain .  This is the reason why all yanks prefer Chilean wine to Californian wine. 

USA will need to move the polluting industries from China to India.  I have been all over the West.  They have gone back to clean rivers, green fields and clear skies.   Third world countries are expected to pollute their land and decimate their fish in rivers , to produce for the West.

The new mantra of the modern messiah and prophet to control you,  is to keep you in fear,  distract you ,  marginalize you  . By doing this they will not allow you to use your perception in a rational manner . 

Don’t despair, we in India have less corruption and are more free than USA.  For in USA Democrat or Republican president means the same thing.  Both are chosen by the Bilderberg club, and Rothschild well in advance .  People are surprised when they see what is happened to Donald Trump.   Before the presidential elections Bilderberg puppet Hillary Clinton tried all her NP stunt of Donald Trump. It did NOT work—ths is why she lost

Check out our foreign funded TV channels, at prime time. This is sheer tamasha and it happens every day . The anchor will ask you a question. If he/she  smells an answer which does NOT suit his foreign master, or his own " delusional " perception he will will keep throwing you off track by interrupting loudly again and again.  

And mind you this dumbo with low IQ, but is articulate and clever with words,  did NOT choose "communications" as a subject at college ( donation quota ) by rejecting IIT. 

When you pull yourself together and get back on track, he will again derail you, by cherry pickin' in between . Finally again when you get back on track with the truthful and correct answer, he will shoot off a sub question to some one else on the discussion panel and ignore you.  You can never get the truth across to the nation.

This brings me to the meaning of a "polarized vote" .  One of my Muslim officers from UP  told me this.  

He had gone to pray on a Friday , in one of the large mosques, while on leave . Half way through the maulavi's discourse, he tells everybody to take out their mobiles and send a SMS vote for a Muslim singer , who had reached the finals of a National singing competition, with 2 Hindus . He literally dictated the operation, press this number then press * then press this alphabet--

Since my officer did NOT want to get ex-communicated he complied. He was very surprised to know that this fatwa was given in a lot of mosques of UP and Bihar.  95% of the audience did NOT even know the singer. 

So, does this polarized sham vote mean a thing?  Think over it.

We has a sham "greatest Indian" poll conducted by CNN IBN, which declared BR Ambedkar as the most valuable Indian. 

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2012/08/cnn-ibn-poll-greatest-indian-since.html

NLP HAS USED DAMAGING HYPNOTIC TECHNIQUES WHICH RAPED THE SUBCONSCIOUS MIND

CONMEN WHO CREATED NLP BORROWED FROM GESALT THERAPY WHICH IS LIFTED FROM VEDANTA WITHOUT ANY UNDERSTANDING

Below: Sanatana Dharma is abut spirituality--not religion

Gestalt therapy focuses on process (what is actually happening) over content (what is being talked about).  The emphasis is on what is being done, thought, and felt at the present moment (the phenomenality of both client and therapist), rather than on what was, might be, could be, or should have been.. In Gestalt therapy  the major goal is self-awareness. 

In Gestalt therapy, the goal is to discover people connected with a patient's unresolved issues and try to engage those people (or images of those people) in interactions that can lead to a resolution.

I WARN – Gesalt therapy has raped the minds of disturbed people with severe mental illness.

NLP teaches that our mind-body (neuro) and what we say (language) all interact together to form our perceptions of the world, or maps (programming). 

Each person's map of the world determines feelings and behavior.  Unrealistic  maps will restrict choices and result in humongous  problems.

In NLP the Meta-model is a set of specifying questions or language patterns designed to challenge and expand the limits to a person's model or 'map' of the world. 

When a person speaks about a problem or situation, their choice of words, (or ‘indicators’), will distort, generalize, and delete portions of their experience. 

By listening to and responding to these language patterns the practitioner seeks to help the client to recover the information that is under the surface of the words. A therapist who ’listens’ on the basis of their existing belief systems may miss important aspects.

NLP used the "reframing" technique .  It functions through "changing the way you perceive an event and so changing the meaning.   When the meaning changes, responses and behaviors will also change.  

Reframing with language allows you to see the world in a different way and this changes the meaning. This may work to subdue anger  in a limited manner.  

To reframe something is to change its meaning by putting it in a different setting, context or frame. For instance, a nasty experience can seem funny when put in a long- term frame. The meaning of any event depends on how we frame it. 

When we change the frame we change the meaning and with it our responses and behaviors.  

Reframing is a part of Vedanta philosophy.   

In Panchatantra princes would be given tales to derive the moral and reframe behaviors.  Princes were prepared for the throne by intelligent stories of animals and birds in the deep forest

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2011/02/super-panchatantra-capt-ajit-vadakayil.html

Every behavior is useful in some situation. By thinking of a useful context, you can change your response to that behavior.

In evolutionary terms, our brains don’t do anything without some underlying purpose. Our brain’s functioning is always of benefit overall to the survival of the species. We might feel it isn’t acting in our short-term personal interest sometimes, but there is always a purpose for our behavior and responses.

Putting a positive spin on ideas in politics is a typical use of reframing. Finding the positive intention of a behavior is the other kind of  reframing in Hindu philosophy

Vedanta recognizes that generally, people do NOT intend to harm other people with  words or  actions

The frames we have developed limit us, and prevent us from having what we want. In life, nothing is intrinsically good or bad, positive or negative. Events or experiences don’t, of themselves, have any meaning whatsoever, they have only the meaning we give to them. That meaning is determined to a large degree by the frame in which we perceive it.

Syncretism of Vedanta says that when the frame changes so does the meaning, and our response to it – the way we feel and how we act.    

Indian philosophy thrived only due to be abundant wild life in our jungles and the abundant cultures and thousands of languages in a single  land steeped in spirituality —all in harmony .  

Eclecticism is a fusion of knowledge from all sources--  conscious and unconscious .  

There lies the charm --we learnt from mute creatures created by god.

Vedanta was a conceptual approach that did not hold rigidly to a single paradigm or set of assumptions, but instead drew upon multiple theories, styles, or ideas to gain complementary insights into a subject. Vedanta drawing from abundant and priceless variety could have originated only in India .

Ancient Indian philosophy was not a potted plant.  Philosophy in Vedanta included  life as connected with existence, knowledge, values, reason, mind, and language.  

It is the nature of man that he likes change. He wants new and novel ways in every field of work. The same is the case with learning process. Learners always like something new and exciting. 

Our Panchatantra stories which  gave moral education to our Kings provided it.  Sanatana Dharma is steeped in cosmic allegories  --it can  communicate with the subconscious . 

There cannot be any "sleight of mouth" or "sleight of hand" in our Dharma.  The white invader tried his best to convert saffron to a conmans color—they failed.  

Now I see Commie Arnab Goswami ( employed by BJP Rajya Sabha MP Rajeev Chandrasekhar ) trying the same thing on his Republic TV channel.

Vedic philosophy was embedded in wisdom and love of knowledge – it can never be killed .

Anger management is effective when a nag nag PMS laden woman perpetually in faalthu rage can be taught to reframe.

Reframing involves seeing things from a different perspective, in another light, from an alternative point of view and different perspective —and is useful to quench rage..  Reframing  can be used consciously and deliberately, in Vedanta to teach young prince the value of tolerance and not jumping into conclusions –all this using a medium of simple animal and bird stories. 

Reframing is not about mindless optimism – the  aim was  to achieve a realistic perspective on reality.  If you know how to reframe , it is easy to win debates. The starting point in context reframing is the presupposition that every behaviour is useful and appropriate in some context. 

Identifying where or in what situation a behaviour or event would be useful is context reframing. The purpose of reframing is to help a person experience their actions, the impact of their beliefs, etc. from a different perspective (frame) and potentially be more resourceful or have more choice in how they react.

In the west parents ( shorn of spirituality ) are unable to reframe when their see their young children “misbehaving “.  Assuming every behaviour has a positive intention, the parent may choose to discover the positive intention. The parent may point out where or in what context that type of behaviour is acceptable; thus validating to the child that his behaviours are useful in certain contexts.

PEOPLE TRAINED BY NLP CONMEN TEND TO USE IT ON THEIR CHILDREN AND LOVED ONES.  

ONCE THE GLASS OF TRUST IS SHATTERED , IT IS TOO LATE

Framing is a mental structure that is built upon the beliefs you have about yourself, your roles, your circumstances, and about other people. It is a structure you use to ascribe meaning to given circumstances. 

In other words, the meaning you ascribe to any event is dependent upon how you frame it in your mind. As such, your frames shape how you see the world, how you see yourself, how you view others, and how you interpret your life.

The frames of reference you use collaborate with your beliefs and values. You will therefore frame things in a certain way that corresponds with what you believe and value most in life — irrelevant of whether your beliefs are helpful or unhelpful.

 This basically means that every frame you make is linked to an underlying belief and/or assumption that is implied by your thoughts. In this way your frames provide you with a context in which you can assess your progress. 

This is helpful, but at the same time can be unhelpful. It is helpful because it allows you to unlock new opportunities and explore other possibilities that might be advantageous. However, it is unhelpful if your frames are built upon your limiting belief systems. 

In such instances — and without much objective thought — you might unconsciously be setting boundaries and putting limitations on yourself regarding what you can or can’t do; and this therefore limits your perspective, opportunities and the possibilities that lay before you.

There is however a positive intention behind all your thoughts. Therefore all the frames of reference you use are there to help you in some way, or at least in some specific context. This of course doesn’t mean that these thoughts are right or that they are acceptable, however it does mean that they have some value, and therefore can be used in a positive way

Reframing is very much like changing a picture in a picture frame. The frame hasn’t changed, however the picture within the frame is now different. In other words, the situation hasn’t changed, however your view of the situation is now different then what it was before. 

You are therefore not changing the situation, but rather changing your view of the situation in a more helpful and optimal way.

Reframing is easy to do to shift anything from a negative or blocked state into a clear or positive state.

Frame provides a context or focus for your thoughts and actions. Just as a picture frame puts borders or boundaries on what you can see in a picture, the frames of reference that you choose as a result of your beliefs about yourself and others, your perceived role in life, your perceived limitations in skills/abilities, etc. can limit what you see as possible or can open up all sorts of possibilities. 

You (and if you allow them, others) are continually setting time frames, boundaries, limits, etc. on what you can and can’t do – often without any real thought about the consequences or if the limitations are true.

Reframing is when an undesirable behavior or trait is conferred a positive intention. Alternatives to satisfy the positive intent are found, followed by negotiations with (parts of) self to resolve conflict, check for ecology and to implement the new behavior. Reframing can also be used to describe changing the context or representation of a problem.

Frame provides a context or focus for your thoughts and actions. Just as a picture frame puts borders or boundaries on what you can see in a picture, the frames of reference that you choose as a result of your beliefs about yourself and others, your perceived role in life, your perceived limitations in skills/abilities, etc. can limit what you see as possible or can open up all sorts of possibilities. 

You (and if you allow them, others) are continually setting time frames, boundaries, limits, etc. on what you can and can’t do – often without any real thought about the consequences or if the limitations are true.

Changing the frame of an experience can have a major influence on how you perceive, interpret and react to that experience. 

Being told that you have one hour to complete a task will most likely result in a different emotional state, approach and quality of work than if you are told that you have one week to accomplish the same task. This illustrates how a change in frame can have a significant impact on the choices you make. 

The purpose of reframing is to help a person experience their actions, the impact of their beliefs, etc. from a different perspective (frame) and potentially be more resourceful or have more choice in how they react.

 Reframing is a process through which a problematic behaviour is separated from the positive intention of the internal program or “part” that is responsible for the behaviour. 

New choices of behaviour are established by having the part responsible for the old behaviour take responsibility for implementing other behaviours that satisfy the same positive intention but don’t have the problematic by-products. You can change the meaning of almost anything. 

When you get stuck, in road rage , it is because your ability to change meaning is limited. Context reframing acknowledges the fact that any sensory representation is valid - given the appropriate context.

A context reframe takes the ‘problem’ experience and places it in a context in which it is no longer a ‘problem’ or where that experience actually has a useful or positive benefit or even becomes an asset or a skill.

Content Reframe is giving another meaning to a statement by recovering more content, which changes the focus. It is also called Meaning Reframe.

Each individual's perception of the world is their 'map'.    

NLP teaches that our mind-body (neuro) and what we say (language) all interact together to form our perceptions of the world, or maps (programming).  

BALLS !   

Each person's map of the world and his unique past experiences and SOUL SAMSKARAS determines feelings and behavior. Impoverished – and unrealistic – maps can restrict choices and result in problems. 

NLP knows shit about soul samskaras and phobias, inherited from a previous birth. NLP gurus are mere conmen. They are the street magicians who convince you that they do miracles on you

WE WARN THE MODI GOVT.     NLP HAS INVADED INDIA—  THIS IS WHY I WRITE THIS BLOG POST

EVEN IN MANAGEMENT JOB INTERVIEWS THEY ASK QUESTIONS WHICH CAN BE ANSWERED ONLY IF YOU KNOW NLP CON TECHNIQUES .     

INDIA DOES NOT NEED THIS NONSENSE

SOME OF THESE NLP QUESTIONS CANNOT BE EVEN UNDERSTOOD BY THE BIGGEST GENIUS ON EARTH

ONE SUCH QUESTION ASKED A COUPLE OF DAYS AGO FOR A GOVT JOB WAS -

QUOTE:  Can you give me an example of two socially unethical actions combined to have a result of a socially ethical outcome  : UNQUOTE

NLP conmen swear --  When a person speaks about a problem or situation, their choice of words, (or ‘indicators’), will distort, generalize, and delete portions of their experience. By listening to and responding to these language patterns the NLP practitioner seeks to help the client to recover the information that is under the surface of the words.

BALLS !

NLP teaches 'mirroring' or matching body language, posture, breathing, predicates and voice tonality. Listen , NLP cunts-- you cant even fool a kid with this

Check out NLP shit-- Memories are closely linked to sensory experience. When people are processing information they see images and hear sounds and voices and process this with internally created feelings. Some representations are within conscious awareness but information is largely processed at the unconscious level.  When involved in any task, such as making conversation, describing a problem in therapy, reading a book, kicking a ball or riding a horse, their representational systems, consisting of images, sounds, feelings (and possibly smell and taste) are being activated at the same time.  The way representational systems are organised and the links between them impact on behavioral performance.

Many NLP techniques , NLP conmen swear --rely on interrupting maladaptive patterns and replacing them with more positive and creative thought patterns which will in turn impact on behavior.

Oh Yeah ?  How come I have seen nothing of this sort—except in hot NLP air ?

NLP teaches that we constantly make "anchors" (associations) between what we see, hear and feel and our emotional states. While in an emotional state if a person is exposed to a unique stimulus (sight, sound or touch) then a connection is made between the emotion and the unique stimulus. If the unique stimulus occurs again, the emotional state will then be triggered.   NLP teaches that anchors (such as a particular touch associated with a memory or state) can be deliberately created and triggered to help people access 'resourceful' or other target states.   

Oh yeah ? I saw Hillary Clinton doing hajaaar anchoring with her finger tip ,  in her debate with Donald Trump.   She fell PHUTT on her fuckin’  face


Below: IDEA ! can we make a gay white padre imagine his small altar boy's asshole as a donut ?    BOLOH TOH---  

Below:   Hey  NLP cunts-- can we have a 7 step reframe--BOLOH TOH eight --these NLP conmen who fleece their clients , deserve a place in jail

NLP uses this staged process to identify the intention and create alternative choices to satisfy that intention—fucking around with human intention .

Below: More of NLP con .

'Visual/Kinesthetic Dissociation' designed by NLP to eliminate bad feelings associated with past events by re-running (like a film, sometimes in reverse) an associated memory in a dissociated state. It combines elements of Eriksonian techniques, spatial sorting processes from Fritz Perls, reframing and 'changing history' techniques.

BALLS IT WORKS !

NLP techniques of Bateson /  Erikson--  'metaphor' in NLP ranges from simple figures of speech to allegories and stories— lifted out of our Panchatantra methods – to be used in conjunction with the skills of the Milton model,  to create a story which operates on many levels with the intention of communicating with the unconscious and to find and challenge basic assumptions.  A mindless NLP hotch potch created by mad men and half wits

NLP's creators claim there is a connection between neurological processes (neuro-), language (linguistic) and behavioral patterns learned through experience (programming), and that these can be changed to achieve specific goals in life. 

They claim as well that, often in a single session, NLP can treat problems such as phobias, depression, tic disorders, psychosomatic illnesses, near-sightedness, allergy, common cold,and learning disorders.

BALLS YOU CUNTS  !

INDIA NO LONGER GETS IMPRESSED WITH NAMES LIKE JOHN . MARY AND DICK –NAY - PRICK .    

TRY THAT WITH OUR CHUTNEY MARYs AND PICKLE JOHNS  WHO COME ON BENAMI TV AS ANCHORS .

ANGREZ CHALE GAYE AULAAD KO CHODKE !

THE REAL NLP FOUNDED IS JEW ROTHSCHILD WHO MADE HIS TWO AGENTS GANDHI AND KING USE IT SUCCESSFULLY

THE GANDHI TOPI WAS CREATED BY JEW ROTHSCHILD WHEN GANDHI WAS IN SOUTH AFRICA.

Martin Luther King Jr’s  NLP laden speech I HAVE A DREAM was written by the Tavistock institute, created by Jew Rothschild.    

Behind him stood 8 black men wearing GANDHI TOPI .    It was the idea of Tavistock institute to have eight men wearing GANDHI TOPIS stand behind him while delivering his I HAVE A DREAM SPEECH.

Martin Luther King Jr  used the phrase 'I have a dream' eight times in his address to about 2,000 people at Booker T. Washington High School in Rocky Mount, eight months before electrifying the nation with a much touted extempore speech  at the March on Washington.

He also referred to 'the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners,' saying he dreamed they would 'meet at the table of brotherhood.'

On the steps of the Lincoln Memorial, King changed that to 'sit down together at the table of brotherhood.'

In both speeches, LET FREEDOM RING  served as his rallying cry . 

I WOULD CALL THEM ROTHSCHILD TOPIS.

This was to be the symbol of NON-VIOLENCE .   Once you wear this cap you cannot raise your arm against anybody.

While in India,   Gandhi urged his followers  “be prepared to die for the khadi cap”

Nehru made a huge attempt to keep the Gandhi cap in fashion, sporting it everywhere. 

Project MKUltra is Rothschild’s NLP mind control program, later adopted by CIA

MK stands for the initials of two agents of Jew Rothschild Gandhi ( Mohandas Karamchand ) and King ( Martin King ).

PRODUCTS OF TAVISTOCK INSTITUTE INCLUDE GANDHI AND MARTIN LUTHER KING JR. 

IT IS NOT BY ACCIDENT THAT GANDHIs STATUE IS ON TAVISTOCK SQUARE IN LONDON.

A short walk from Tavistock Square is University College London, where Rothschild sponsored Kathiawari Hindu cum Jain , Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi’s education in 1888,  when he was still a teen.

The Tavistock Institute has its India chapter and we know who their products are – THE PERCEPTION MOULDERS and the CONSENSUS MANUFACTURERS who come on prime time TV.

Their methods have a SIGNATURE to it and it is so easy for a man of PERCEPTION to sniff them out from a distance.

When CNN conducted a poll in India , they did NOT allow Indians to choose who the GREATEST INDIAN is.   We could only choose the SECOND GREATEST INDIAN .

This is pure Tavistock Modus Operandi—their signature.  

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2012/08/cnn-ibn-poll-greatest-indian-since.html

Today nobody on this planet trusts a poll by Zionist owned media or their BENAMI Indian main stream media.

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2015/10/the-only-dalit-freemason-of-india-capt.html

NLP TECHNIQUES WERE USED IN MARTIN LUTHER KINGs “I HAVE A DREAM SPEECH “—TRAINED BY JEW ROTHSCHILD 

In the first half of his speech Martin Luther King  uses negative emotional words, like "captivity," "poverty," "exile," "persecution," "despair," " lonely island of poverty" and "dark and desolate" and talks of the "manacles of segregation" and the "chains of discrimination" in an obvious reference to slavery.

The second half of the speech is packed with positive emotional words, such as "freedom," "justice," 'faith" and "hope" as he begins to outline what could be if blacks and whites learned to work together and not fear each other. He speaks of a "table of brotherhood," "an oasis of freedom and justice" and "beautiful symphony of brotherhood" and the hope that black and white children will be able to hold hands, and be judged "not on the colour of their skin but on the content of their character."

King ends with NLP-- "And so let freedom ring -- from the prodigious hilltops of New Hampshire. Let freedom ring -- from the mighty mountains of New York. Let freedom ring -- from the heightening Alleghenies of Pennsylvania. Let freedom ring -- from the snow-capped Rockies of Colorado. Let freedom ring -- from the curvaceous slopes of California.

But not only that. Let freedom ring -- from Stone Mountain of Georgia. Let freedom ring -- from Lookout Mountain of Tennessee. Let freedom ring -- from every hill and molehill of Mississippi, from every mountainside, let freedom ring!

And when this happens, when we allow freedom to ring, when we let it ring from every village and every hamlet, from every state and every city , we will be able to speed up that day when all of God's children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics , will be able to join hands and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual,

"Free at last, free at last. Thank God Almighty, we are free at last!""

King used a large number of embedded commands in pushing forward his views.  He made it highly emotional: Direct your words to the emotions and stir them vigorously.  He used  lots of repetition: persistently repeat your point over and over—an NLP method .  Forget beauty, literary criteria, scientific reasoning, balance, and novelty. The focus solely on convincing people and creating zealots.  His NLP slogans drove his movement forward.

King’s speeches were full of lyrical metaphors that took the listener on a timeline journey, from the past, to the present, then into the future.

In his ‘I have a dream’ speech, he moves the listener from summer into autumn and the element of time is reinforced by saying ‘1963 is not an end but a beginning.’ MLK uses a metaphor for his subject matter and through his metaphorical journey he leads the recipient by doing a series of modality reframes:

“ Dark and desolate valley of segregation to the sunlit path of racial justice”

“ From the quicksands of racial injustice to the solid rock of brotherhood”

“ The sweltering summer of the Negro’s legitimate discontent will not pass until there is an invigorating autumn of freedom and equality”

“ Let us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred”

“ Every hill and mountain shall be made low, and rough places will be made plains, and the crooked places will be made straight and beautiful”

King  repeats ‘I have a dream’ eight times, ‘We can never be satisfied’ six times, and ‘Let freedom ring’ seven times, each one a powerful reframe on past, present and what is hoped for the future.

ALL TO MAKE A CHOOT OUT OF ENSLAVED BLACK MEN IN USA, WHO WANTED TO START A VIOLENT REVOLT.

GANDHI WENT FROM SOUTH AFRICA TO LONDON AT THE BREAK OF WW1 BEFORE HE WAS UNLEASHED ON INDIA BY JEW ROTHSCHILD—TO RECRUIT INDIAN SOLDIERS FOR WW1

Gandhi held forth an extreme either-or, black-and-white call to action.

WHEN RECRUITING SOLDIERS FOR JEW ROTHSCHILD GANDHI ADVOCATED VIOLENCE 

Gandhi recruited 13 lakh ( 1.3 million ) Indian soldiers in the first world war – out of which 111000 ( 1.11 lakh ) Indian soldiers were killed .

Gandhi recruited  25 lakh ( 2.5 million ) Indian soldiers in the second World war.   Out of this 243000 ( 2.43 lakh)  soldiers were killed.

Till this blogsite revealed this , this was a kept as a great secret.

Today even Wikipedia agrees with the 1.3 million and 2.5 million figure of participation, but they have reduced the number of death by half 111, 000 / 243,000.

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2012/09/mahatma-gandhi-re-writing-indian.html

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2012/09/the-diabolical-brain-washing-process-of.html

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2017/01/mahatma-gandhi-and-his-endless.html

GANDHI / NEHRU DID NOT GIVE US INDEPENDENCE.     

THE WORLD WAR BATTLE HARDENED INDIAN ARMED FORCES FIRST MUTINIED.

BUT ROTHSCHILD STILL HAD A LOYAL INDIAN POLICE.   

THEN THE TOUGH , KALARI TRAINED  MALABAR SPECIAL POLICE REGIMENT  (  600 MEN ALL ABOVE 6 FEET IN HEIGHT )  BASED IN CALICUT , FORMED IN 1921 ,  REVOLTED --

--AND ROTHSCHILD KNEW HIS TIME WAS UP

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2013/02/the-indian-navy-mutiny-of-1946-only-war.html

Herd behavior describes how individuals in a group can act collectively without centralized direction.

The term can refer to the behavior of animals in herds, packs, bird flocks, fish schools and so on, as well as the behavior of humans in demonstrations, riots and general strikes,  sporting events, religious gatherings, episodes of mob violence and everyday decision-making, judgement and opinion-forming.

We have seen such mind control on Anna Hazare’s ANSHAN programmes--

-- and 22 yer old  Hardik Patel who has crawled out of the woodwork— his followers wearing SARDAR PATEL MASKS.

All Tavistock techniques have a single goal---to break down the psychological strength of the individual and render him helpless to oppose the dictators of the New World Order. 

The BENAMI main stream Indian media and their TV prime time EMINENT debaters and newspaper columnists (who blog nowadays on printed media)  , are a potent tool.

Tavistock Institute was a psychological warfare machine which partnered with UN agencies , Free Masons, spy agencies . It did a project by CIA code name, "MK-Ultra.'' – it was about  brainwashing.   

MK stood for Gandhi and King .    

SABKO CHOOTIYA BANAYA ! 

WE ALLOWED ROTHSCHILD TO SHIT ON OUR COLLECTIVE SLAVE FACES --AND ROB BHARATMATA BLIND

NOT ANYMORE !!

ROTHSCHILDs APCO BRANDED GUJJU NO 2  MODI --  WE WONT BE SPINNING CHARKHA WHEN CHINA ATTACKS  

WE WILL FOLLOW THE ADVISE OF KRISHNA IN BHAGAVAD GITA-- MOONH TODD JAWAAB !!

Martin Luther King painted a picture of a future where black and white children were ‘judged by the quality of their character, and not by their skin color.”

Language creates behavior.

THE FALSE ETHOS OF GANDHI AND KING WAS CREATED BY JEW ROTHSCHILD MONOPOLISED MEDIA

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2015/06/ethos-logos-pathos-capt-ajit-vadakayil.html

EVERY STATUE OF GANDHI AND KING ALL AROUND THE PLANET IS SPONSORED BY JEW ROTHCHILD 
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NLP has been used to BUILD RAPPORT so that hardcore anal sex receiving white gays can gain access to HUGE BLACK DONGS  and that too by a written contract

Peter Roebuck had enough black dongs to have his asshole humped

Peter baby ran his cricket academy , and the contract specified that he could give physical punishment.

This involved the budding black cricketer strip nude and allow Peter baby to beat the black stud , and then fondle and kiss his asshole, balls and prick—before he demanded the humping service

“BUILDING RAPPORT” WHITE ASSHOLE TO BLACK PRICK

http://www.smh.com.au/sport/cricket/the-roebuck-tragedy-a-tale-of-love-beatings-and-blackmail-20111231-1pgmk.html

NLP TALKS ABOUT MIRRORING,  TO CREATE RAPPORT.   THIS IS BULLSHIT

If the other guy scratches his nose, you also scratch your nose

If the other guy quivers  his left leg, you also quiver your left leg

If the other guy gives a loud fart, you also give a loud fart of same duration

DIGRESSION ( true story )

Four decades ago, on my ship, the young Second Engineer was a Telugu guy.   His wife was Veena Gayatri a music maestro—just married .     She was very young and in Singapore and Malaysia--Indian dispora would stand and gape from the quay, waiting for her to come and wave

The Chief Engineer was a senior Bong.

After watch at 2015 hrs ( at the end of his watch ) this second Engineer would daily go to Chief Engineers cabin to give feedback

He would remove his soiled boiler suit , wear a towel around his waist and stand in Chief Engineers day room and talk to him

On day the Chief Engineer suggested “ You can come in your soiled work clothes — or you can finish you bath,  wear civilian clothes and then come “

This suggestion was ignored

After a couple of days when the second Engineer came for giving feedback—the Chief Engineer said “ Give me a minute “ and he disappeared into his bed room.

He came out after a minute , wearing a towel around his waist , swung his arm-- and spAke “ AB BOLOH “

That was the last day the second Engineer went to Chief Engineers cabin in a towel

If there is one person on this planet qualified to talk about RAPPORT sans NLP deception  – it is Capt Ajit Vadakayil

Commanded men --  not 9 to 5— but 24 x 7 for 6640 days on dangerous ships  at sea.

Rapport sits at the heart of NLP as a central pillar, or essential ingredient, which leads to successful communication between two individuals or groups of people. But NLP methods are laden with deceit.   To build rapport there is NO need to con people .

In my 30 years as ship captain , I have never conned anybody to building a rapport or to gain trust or to foster team work.   Mind you it is not about my team alone which I command and hold absolute power over.

At every port I have to deal with Customs / Coast Guard / Immigration / Port Health  and port authorities all of who hold tremendous nuisance potential  —  95% of them itching to fleece the Captain off whisky and cigarettes as a quid pro quo.   

People who know me will vouch Captain never surrendered his honour like other Captains 

Rapport is a mutually respectful way of being with others and a way of doing business at all times.   You don’t need to like people to build rapport with them. Rapport is not a technique that you turn on and off at will like a torch, but something that should flow constantly between people.

Don’t kid yourself that you can pull rapport instantly out of the bag for a particular meeting, conversation or problem-solving session. True rapport is based on an instinctive sense of trust and integrity --the ability to relate to others in a way that creates trust and understanding.

It is the ability to see the other's point of view and get them to understand yours. You don't have to agree with their point of view or even like it. It makes any form of communication easier.

BUILDING RAPPORT IS A GENUINE THING.  YOU DON’T NEED TO DECEIVE  PEOPLE TO BUILD A RAPPORT..

It is ‘a sympathetic relationship or understanding’: rapport is about making a two-way connection.

You know that you’ve made such a connection when you experience a genuine sense of trust and respect with another person, when you engage comfortably with someone no matter how different the two of you are, and when you know that you’re listening and being listened to.

Although you may want to spend your time with people who are just like you, the world is full of a huge variety of different types of people to meet, all with special skills, opinions, and backgrounds. Rapport is the key to success and influence in both your personal and professional life, because it’s about appreciating and working with differences.

AT SEA I GAVE PRIME IMPORTANCE TO TEAMWORK. 

I WOULD DISCARD A HIGHLY COMPETENT SAILOR  IF HE HAD ATTITUDE PROBLEMS AND COULD NOT FIT INTO THE TEAM..   

I LOOKED ON A SHIPs TEAM LIKE A SOCCER TEAM, WHERE I WAS THE COACH


IN THE POST BELOW-- 

I CAN WRITE A POWER PACKED 4 PAGE SUMMARY ON EACH YELLOW HIGHLIGHTED "RITD " BOTTOM LINE 

LANDLUBBERS  WONT EVEN UNDERSTAND WHAT I MEAN --  IT TAKES SOME AMOUNT OF BASIC INTELLIGENCE 

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/12/team-work-team-dynamics-capt-ajit.html

Rapport preserves your time and energy.  It is the key to success . You can’t take a magic pill to acquire rapport instantly; it’s something you develop intuitively.   Rapport is a two-way street.

When you have rapport with someone, you can each disagree with what the other says while still relating respectfully to each other. The important point is to acknowledge other people as the unique individuals that they are. 

Hold on to the fact that you simply differ from the person’s opinion and that this difference is no reflection on that person.

Rapport is a close and harmonious relationship in which the people or groups concerned are “in sync” with each other, understand each other's feelings or ideas, and communicate smoothly.

NLP dictates -- Match the tone, tempo, inflection, and volume of a person's voice —BALLS !

Commonality is the technique of deliberately finding something in common with a person or a customer in order to build a sense of camaraderie and trust. This is done through references to shared interests, dislikes, and experiences.   

By sharing personal details or self-disclosing personal preferences or information, interlocutors can build commonality and thus increase rapport. 

I HAVE SEEN MANCHESTER UNITED SOCCER FANS DEVELOP INSTANT RAPPORT. 

In negotiation, rapport is beneficial for reaching mutually beneficial outcomes, Partners are more likely to trust each other and be willing to cooperate and reach a positive outcome.  

This is OK as long as interpersonal rapport in negotiation can lead to unethical behavior, particularly in impasse situations, where the interpersonal rapport may influence the negotiators to behave unethically.

Freemasons are known to behave in an unethical manner.  

We know INDIAN Freemason  collegium judges and Hi Fi  lawyers who do QUID PRO QUO

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/12/dirty-secrets-of-boston-tea-party-capt.html

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2015/11/the-french-revolution-conceived-and.html

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2011/08/freemason-lodge-of-calicut-capt-ajit.html

http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2015/10/the-only-dalit-freemason-of-india-capt.html

When there is rapport communication becomes easier.   Rapport is a state of harmonious understanding with another individual or group that enables productive communication. 

Opening up is a sign of trust.

When people share more information about who they are—likes, dislikes, fears, and goals—you can better understand how they function and how to best interact with them.

Rapport is getting on well with another person, or group of people, by having things in common, this makes the communication process easier and usually more effective. 

Sometimes rapport happens naturally, you ‘hit it off’ or ‘get on well’ with somebody else without having to try, this is often how great and enduring friendships are built.  However, rapport can also be built and developed by finding common ground and developing a bond 

Employers are more likely to employ somebody who they believe will get on well with their current staff.   Personal relationships are easier to make and develop when there is a closer connection and understanding between the parties involved – i.e. there is greater rapport.

The first task in successful interpersonal relationships is to attempt to build rapport.   Use non-threatening and ‘safe topics’ for initial small talk.  .  Avoid talking too much about yourself and avoid asking direct questions about the other person.

WE INDIANS USUALLY START OFF WITH   “HOW MANY CHILDREN DO YOU HAVE “— WHITE PEOPLE HATE THIS .

Listen to what the other person is saying and look for shared experiences or circumstances - this will give you more to talk about in the initial stages of communication.

 Laughing together creates harmony.  Try to maintain eye contact most of  the time without making the other person uncomfortable . Relax and lean slightly towards them to indicate listening

Show some empathy.  Demonstrate that you can see the other person’s point of view. Remember rapport is all about finding similarities and ‘being on the same wavelength’ as somebody else - so being empathetic will help to achieve this.

Use the other person’s name early in the conversation. This is not only seen as polite but will also reinforce the name in your mind so you are less likely to forget it!

Try to show empathy.  Demonstrate that you can understand how the other person feels and can see things from their point of view.  When in agreement with the other person, openly say so and say why.  Build on the other person’s ideas.

Be non-judgmental towards the other person.  Let go of stereotypes and any preconceived ideas you may have about the person.  If you have to disagree with the other person, give the reason first then say you disagree.

Being honest is always the best tactic ( screw slimy NLP shit ) , acknowledging mistakes will help to build trust.

Offer a compliment if warranted , avoid criticism and be polite.   Have you ever known people who have a knack for connecting with others? No matter who they meet, they manage to create a sense of trust and understanding within minutes.

Rapport is the bond that forms when you discover that you share one another's values and priorities in life.  There rises positivism: you're both friendly and happy, and you show care and concern for one another.

Coordination: you feel "in sync" with one another, so that you share a common understanding. Your energy levels, tone and body language are also similar.

When there us rapport and trust within a team , there is success around the corner . When you have a rapport with someone, you're better placed to influence, learn and teach, particularly as the trust that you've built up means other people are more likely to accept your ideas, to share information, and to create opportunities together.

Rapport is similar to trust. You can build trust and rapport simultaneously, but rapport focuses more on establishing a bond or connection, whereas trust relies more on establishing a reputation for reliability, consistency and keeping your promises.

When you have good rapport during a critical conversation, the room is free from unnecessary emotions, yelling, and arguing, and is full of respect and active listening.

If you’re open with how you feel and what you see, others will follow. If you’re honest and do what you say and say what you mean, you build instant credibility.   Be consistent, consistent, consistent – no mixed messages.   Show unconditional regard and acceptance.    If ever in doubt, ask.

Trust means that everyone believes that all parties will do what they say. You can often see trust by noting how willing individuals are to talk about tough issues.

Enter the room and relationship with a positive attitude. In addition, to build trust and rapport, you need openness and honesty. Both of these behaviors are positive, and they set the stage for how you expect the other parties to act.

Try to be as non-judgmental as possible.  Respect others and their own personal beliefs and decisions.   Assist others, in exploring behaviors that hinder progress toward their goals

 Create a safe, comfortable environment for others to speak openly and honestly.  Set boundaries and limits, when necessary.   Monitor your own feelings and attitudes so that interventions are based on member’s needs rather than your own needs

 Avoid personalizing negative feelings, statements and behaviors of others.  Maintain your sense of humor –use whenever  appropriate.  Assist members identify and work toward their goals, not your goals for them

 Positive reinforcement is more successful that negative.  Positive reinforcement involves the addition of a reinforcing stimulus following a behavior that makes it more likely that the behavior will occur again in the future. Positive reinforcement works by presenting a motivating item to the person after the desired behavior is exhibited, making the behavior more likely to happen in the future.

Negative reinforcement occurs when something already present is removed (taken away) as a result of a person's behaviour, creating a favourable outcome for that person. Take note that negative reinforcement is not a bad thing, in fact it's a good thing.. Negative reinforcement strengthens a behavioral response by taking away a negative outcome.. 

Negative reinforcement is most effective when it takes place immediately after a behavior. This is because the longer the amount of time between a behavior and the avoidance of a negative outcome, the weaker the connection between the two will be.

When listening, nod and make encouraging sounds and gestures.  Smile!  Ask the other person open questions.  Open questions require more than a yes or no answer.   Talk about things that refer back to what the other person has said.  Find links between common experiences.

 Let others identify their own needs and issues – avoid making assumptions.   Recognize and respect CULTURE, difference and diversity.    Do not impose your own process or experiences onto another, even if they appear to be the same or similar

 Maintain your composure under all circumstances.  Be a team player—with members and other staff members.   Be flexible, resilient and patient. Building rapport is sometimes as easy as asking questions, actively listening, and then reflecting on what was said. In other words, be present in the conversation.

One of the quickest ways to destroy trust and rapport is to dominate the conversation-trying to be the wise guy all the time.  People will trust you if you do what you say you’re going to do. Actions speak louder than words when

The bottom line: When people feel comfortable with you, they will be more open and trusting. Try to  see the other’s point of view and get them to understand yours. You don’t have to agree with their point of view or even like it. 

Successful interactions depend largely on our ability to establish and maintain rapport. Surprisingly, we make most business decisions based on rapport rather than technical merit.  Dictionaries define rapport as a relationship marked by harmony, conformity, accord or affinity. It supports agreement, alignment, likeness or similarity.

There are two ways to see other people. You can choose to emphasize the differences or the similarities between you. You can always find things you have in common with someone, even if it is just being human. Likewise, there will always be differences between you and another.

If you emphasize the differences, you will find it hard to establish rapport. By emphasizing commonalities, resistance and antagonism will generally disappear, and cooperation will improve. With practice, it becomes easy to find what we share with other people and focus on it. 

There is no need to be a slimy NLP conman cum hypocrite

NLP teaches “pacing “  or matching accepts the other person’s behavior -- It is about reducing the differences between yourself and others at an unconscious level—a con job.

They teach you to  pace or match many different aspects of behavior. Of course, if the other person is aware you are matching their behavior it becomes mimicry. Obvious attempts to “copy” people will break rapport permanently ..  

NLP compares pacing people with running alongside a train. If you try to jump straight on to a moving train, you’re likely to fall off.  So so so-- in order to jump on a moving train, you need to gather speed by racing alongside it until you’re moving at the same speed, before you can jump. 

TEE HEEE !

Rapport has been shown to have benefits for negotiation,.  A mutually beneficial working relationship, or what is often called a “working alliance”.  Rapport is a mutual phenomenon, where the  client will have to meet you halfway.

Make sure the other person feels included but not interrogated during initial conversations. Put the other person at ease, this will enable you to relax and conversation to take on a natural course.   Try lowering your tone, talk more slowly and softly, this will help you develop rapport more easily

Authentically trying to understand another person’s beliefs and values without judgment can create very deep rapport. Once again, you do not have to agree with them or change any of your own values; the goal is to understand.

Rapport is a state of harmonious understanding with another individual or group that enables greater and easier communication.   Rapport is getting on well with another person, or group of people, by having things in common, this makes the communication process easier and more effective.

Use non-threatening and ‘safe topics’ for initial small talk. 

SARCASM KILLS RAPPORT

Rapport must be a two-way connection between people, so it's not something that you can create by yourself..   

Be sure not to use them cynically or dishonestly, to sell people something that they wouldn't otherwise want, for example, or to manipulate them into a course of action that's against their best interests—the way NLP conmen teach you .

First impressions count, and your appearance should help you to connect with people. A good rule of thumb is to dress just a little "better" than the people you're about to meet. Hold your head up and maintain a good posture.

DONT OUTSTAY YOUR WELCOME--USE YOUR GUT FEELING HERE.

Use open-ended questions to discover personal information: to be genuine and sincere, and to avoid overdoing things.   Don't make up an interest or try too hard, just to create rapport. Not only can this seem desperate and off-putting, but it can also dent your credibility!

Use humor with care. Not everyone can tell a subtle joke, and what might seem like acceptable sarcasm to you could cause offense to somebody else—who is rooted culturally , different .

Working collaboratively to define problems, devise solutions, and design strategies, for example, can help to bring you and the other person closer.  Without rapport, there is little chance to influence or to persuade others.

Teams work best and produce success the most when everyone has input and is learning from each other. Humans are social beings and we need to socialise and to talk. 

Granting respect to all group members is one of the most important and determining factors in enhancing group dynamics.

Most quiet critics are not quiet by choice. They remain quiet because they are usually in the minority and hence hesitant to speak up or provide an alternative voice.

Be genuine.  Be yourself.  Don’t try to be anything you are not.  Screw NLP shit .

Be warm and friendly. Chilly people get chilly reactions from other people.  Smile, give a firm handshake, not a limp one

Show interest. Don’t seem too needy.  Show interest, but don’t act subservient, overly friendly, or too pushy or you will only turn the other person off. Don’t come on like gangbusters.

Give genuine compliments. Sycophants get nowhere, but genuine compliments are endearing. Calibrate the rapport to “just right.”

Read the culture.   Don’t change who you are to fit the other culture, but be aware of how the culture works and how it best responds.

NLP dictates -- If they raise their eyebrows, raise yours to acknowledge their emotion. BALLS !

NLP says --Copy their accent . BALLS !

You don’t want to come across as mocking them, but listen to how they pronounce words. There is NO need to mimic them  to hint that you might have lived in their part of the country at some point in your life

INDIAN DO IT IN JAPAN AND THEY HATE IT.. NO WHITE MAN WILL DO THIS 

When people like each other – whether in business, friendship, or both – they tend to help each other.

A way to build trust is to demonstrate that you're interested in their well-being -- beyond your own profit potential.

Nobody wants to feel trapped in an awkward conversation with a stranger.

Reciprocation is deeply wired into human nature. When you offer people something, they will naturally feel the need to help you in return.  

The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.

Rapport is that invisible bond you feel when you’re getting along with another person.   It helps people lower their walls and get comfortable enough to network. 

Understand that rapport is idea grease.  It lubricates the exchange of projects, plans, problems, solutions, and personal interests.

Human beings don’t have quality control checks. 

Nothing repeats perfectly. Real life is rife with subtle variations. But subtle variations are the building blocks of rapport. 

Your ability to play off of variable human behavior is precisely what will allow you to speed up the rapport process.

With the right tools, you can squeeze a lifetime of chemistry into a few, short seconds.

ON SHIPS I HELD PARTIES TO BUILD RAPPORT BETWEEN SAILORS OF DIFFERENT CULTURES 

YOU WOULD HAVE NOTICED THAT IF YOU HAVE BOTH ATTENDED THE SAME SCHOOL— OR STAYED IN THE SAME TOWN IN YOUR CHILDHOOD IT IS EASY TO BUILD A RAPPORT

High chin angles make someone feel like you're looking down at them.  Suspending your ego is nothing more complex than putting other individuals' wants, needs, and perceptions of reality ahead of your own.

Gift giving, or reciprocal altruism, is hardwired in our genetics. 

Rapport, like lubricating oil, reduces the friction and makes the interaction work smoother.

Speak simply and with conviction.  Approach your presentation from your audience’s perspective — not your perspective.  

Address their concerns. Speak to their interests, values, and aspirations. Help them solve problems that bother them, or achieve goals that are important to them. 

Avoid words — jargon and acronyms — they don’t understand. Cite evidence they find credible. There is NO need to use NLP heating tools .

Look the part.   There is NO need for a peon to meet the CEO in a swank suit and greet him by the first name.   Whatever you wear, make sure it’s neat and clean.  Once you offend them, you’ll rarely regain their trust or goodwill.

Building rappport will help you make others want to work with you

Below: BAAAP RE !

NLP IS A REACTIVE APPROACH –ACCESSING CUES AND ALL THAT SHIT.  IF HE DOES THIS THEN YOU DO THIS .

IN BHAGAWAD GITA, 6000 YEARS AGO,  KRISHNA EXHORTS ARJUNA TO BE IN THE MOMENT AND BE PROACTIVE .

DIGRESSION: True story

In an SCI passenger ship all noticed a 12 year old girl with huge tits.  She was attractive

One day at sea, she was eating a mango on the deck

A Tamilian guy on the way to Singapore went to her eating a banana

He offered “ If you give me your mango, I will give you my banana “

Suddenly this girl started crying very loudly.

The Tamilian guy was in the ship’s jail, till the ship reached Singapore 

Krishna compares the material world to an ocean, wherein storms of desires can drive us off-course at any moment. Reactive people are driven by nature’s mode of passion, wherein, as the Bhagavad-gita (14.12)  indicates, insatiable desires keep them flitting from one thing to the next. People in ignorance are even more reactive, with their reactions characterized by confusion, inaction and overall illusion (14.13).

People in goodness are proactive – the Gita (14.11) indicates that their senses are illumined with knowledge, implying that they know how to thoughtfully process the inputs coming from their senses and intelligently respond to them.  Of course, being fully proactive requires rising beyond the influence of the modes that impel us towards reactive behavior, acting as if programmed by our conditionings. So only those who are transcendental, who can see the actions, perceptions and emotions triggered in the world and in the mind as the result of the modes (14.19), can be fully proactive.

NLP says that reactive people tend to talk with incomplete sentences with missing verbs or subjects. BALLS !

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