Sometimes I wonder why my 28 years of marriage has gone smoothly without a single fight.
Especially when yours truly is a super strong character, who does not take anything lying down.
One of the factors definitely is -- that i went for an arranged marriage.
Of course we saw each other and gave our consent. Our parents gauged our compatibility. Our horoscopes were matched to see if the most intelligent force blessed the union.
Being a handsome young sailor i had my share of opportunities for a love marriage -- but i knew that love marriages do NOT work.
I wanted a girl who could blush, for the blush is the most powerful charm of a girl's beauty. And is not a blush the color of virtue?
I was acutely aware of the worry and strain of the Western marriage concept where sex plays a major role. When the feelings wane we all know what is in store.
The western marraige is based on lust and feelings , the Eastern on TRUST honour and committment. An Indian woman does NOT go for silicon implants to SAVE her marriage.
An arranged marriage is a compromise. It is a 51:49 relationship.
When a cup of tea has to be made there is no doubt who is gonna make it. When it comes to security of the family there is no doubt who will provide that.
In India the divorce rate is less than 1% while in the west it is greater than 50%.
Country
/ % Divorce
Albania
/ 19
Armenia/ 17
Australia/ 48
Austria/ 47
Azerbaijan/ 12
Bahamas/ 5
Belarus / 45
Belgium/ 71
Bermuda/ 25
Bosnia
& Herz/ 8
Brazil/ 24
Bulgaria/ 47
Canada/ 49
Chile/ 3
China/ 22
Colombia/ 9
Costa
Rica/ 47
Croatia/ 25
Cuba/ 53
Cyprus/ 28
Czech
Republic/ 66
Denmark/ 49
Dominican
Rep/ 41
Ecuador/ 20
Egypt / 17
El
Salvador/ 23
Estonia
/ 58
European
Union/ 47
Finland / 47
France / 55
Georgia/ 19
Germany/ 49
Gibraltar/ 49
Grenada/ 22
Greece / 25
Guatemala/ 5
Hungary/ 67
Iceland / 37
India/ 0.08
https://youtu.be/e3-5YC_oHjE
I have climbed the highest mountains
I have run through the fields
Only to be with you
Only to be with you
I have run through the fields
Only to be with you
Only to be with you
I have run I have crawled
I have scaled these city walls
These city walls
Only to be with you
But I still haven't found
What I'm looking for
But I still haven't found
What I'm looking for
I have scaled these city walls
These city walls
Only to be with you
But I still haven't found
What I'm looking for
But I still haven't found
What I'm looking for
I have kissed honey lips
Felt the healing in the fingertips
It burned like fire
This burning desire
I have spoke with the tongue of angels
I have held the hand of a devil
It was one empty night
I was cold as a stone
But I still haven't found
What I'm looking for
But I still haven't found
What I'm looking for
Felt the healing in the fingertips
It burned like fire
This burning desire
I have spoke with the tongue of angels
I have held the hand of a devil
It was one empty night
I was cold as a stone
But I still haven't found
What I'm looking for
But I still haven't found
What I'm looking for
I believe when the Kingdom comes
Then all the colors will bleed into one
Bleed into one
But yes
Then all the colors will bleed into one
Bleed into one
But yes
Iran/ 14
Ireland/ 15
Israel/ 30
Italy
/ 27
Jamaica/ 9
Japan
/ 36
Jordan
/ 25
Kazakhstan/ 27
Kuwait / 42
Kyrgyzstan/ 16
Latvia / 52
Lebanon/ 17
Libya / 5
Liechtenstein
/ 48
Lithuania/ 53
Luxembourg
/ 62
Mauritius/ 17
Mexico
/ 15
Moldova/ 42
Mongolia/ 32
Montenegro
/ 14
Netherlands/ 46
New Zealand / 45
Nicaragua/ 17
Norway/ 46
Panama/ 27
Poland / 28
Portugal/ 69
Qatar
/ 29
Rep of Macedonia/ 11
Romania
/ 28
Russia / 51
Saudi Arabia/ 20
Serbia / 22
Singapore/ 28
Slovakia/ 47
Slovenia/ 38
South Africa/ 17
South Korea/ 35
Spain
/ 62
Sri Lanka
0.19
Suriname/ 31
Sweden/ 49
Switzerland/ 52
Syria
/ 9
Tajikistan/ 6
Thailand/ 25
Trinidad nTobago/ 35
Turkey
/ 20
Ukraine/ 42
United Kingdom/ 51
United States / 56
Uzbekistan
/ 8
Venezuela/ 27
Vietnam/ 4
Wise men say - Only fools rush in,
But I can't help falling in love with you.
Wise men say - Only fools rush in,
But I can't help falling in love with you.
Shall I stay - Would it be a sin,
But I can't help falling in love with you.
As the river flows
gently to the sea
Darling so we go
some things were meant to be
Take my hand - Take my whole life too,
But I can't help falling in love with you.
As the river flows
gently to the sea
Darling so we go
some things were meant to be
Take my hand - Take my whole life too,
But I can't help falling in love with you.
I can't help falling in love with you.
I can't help falling in love with you.
I can't help falling in love with you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vUdloUqZa7w
Wrigley's chewing gum and perfumes are a must before a western date-- for the boy and girl must taste their mutual fruits -- before saying YES.
In the Eastern concept the boy gets to taste the fruits , only after the ceremony. It is an exciting period of discovery. Love will follow.
On the GRAPH of love versus time-- on X / Y axis, a love marriage starts at zero time ( wedding night ) on the horizontal axis and 100% love on the vertical axis.
What is already on top cannot go up any more--remember you had been surviving on love and fresh air and showing only your best behavior and profile to each other , hiding all your warts, BO with perfume and MO with Wrigleys.
Within two months the index falls like an asymptotic curve.
Everything in life is relative. In one , the index keeps falling , while in the other it has to rise.
For what was this love--just an arrangement of convenience.
If you were staying in Mumbai you fall in love with a girl from Mumbai--if you were in Timbuctoo you fall in love with a girl from there. True love knows no barriers of race, religion or age.
My arranged marriage started with the index on zero love at zero time. What is already at rock bottom cannot fall any further. It can only go up. Ego does not play a huge role.
Marriage is an institution which must be respected.
I remember when my crew was Jamaican , and if they did something extraordinary , like winning a race at the Flying Angels athletic meet --
I would pose a question. " Brown , whom did you run for" .
Pat comes the answer " I ran for Maaamma " .
Naturally-- Brown did NOT run for Paaapa because his mother never married,-- she just lived in with lot of men.
digression:--
However here is my self proclaimed answer to the first question --the first line of this piece. At our honeymoon hotel , they had a package for honeymoon couples. There were 12 newly weds in a nice luxury coach.
Our first stop was the Ooty lake. All the eleven couples went for the foot paddle boats. I went for the rowing wooden boat with the heavy oars-- declined the services of a professional rower, and shot off to the other end of the huge lake like an arrow.
Very soon i could see 11 envious ladies cajoling their husbands to be more romantic ( like me ) and row serenade them , instead of forcing them to use their delicate leg power.
So we had 12 rowing boats in the lake -- pretty soon--with NO professional rowers in them.
Out of these 12 , 11 got stuck in the slush with the grooms unable to row further due to enervated tendons fatigued muscles and blistered palms -- triggering off a huge rescue operation which took two hours, in front of a huge sniggering crowd.-- what with so much of smeared lipsticks and smudged mascaras--
All 11 genteel brides had panicked and were in tears--some of them wailing loudly.
All 11 grooms gave me dirty looks, for spoiling their party -- Their brides were giving me side glances of admiration.
I could see that my wife was proud of me , for she started holding mE hand -- and she had reprogrammed her DNA to respect me for ever HA! ;-).
Below : This picture was taken immediately after the lake rowing incident- my nostrils are dilated and I am sweating and breathing hard -
PSSST, secret -- Why should i tell her than i was a champion team rower of whaler and cutters while in our Training ship which had 250 cadets . We practised almost daily for 2 years. I used to be the bowman , who had 1:6 ratio on the crutch pivot while the rest of the team had 1:3 ( boat is narrow at the bows )
--and my rowing tendons, were seasoned and tough -- like steel wires..
TEEE--HEEEEEE !
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https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/pm-to-receive-award-from-bill-and-melinda-gates-foundation-for-swachh-bharat-abhiyaan/articleshow/70946546.cms
IT WAS CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL WHO ASKED MODI TO GO FOR A "QUICK WIN" AS SOON AS HE SITS ON THE PM CHAIR, BY A HYGIENE MOVEMENT..
AND ONE MONTH LATER, WHEN PM MODI DID NOTHING, CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL HAS BOLLOCKED HIM SEVERELY..
ON EVERY SHIP I COMMANDED , THE FIRST THING I DO IS TO GIVE A VISUAL DISPLAY THAT A NEW BANDMASTER HAS ARRIVED..
TOILETS, ALLEYWAYS AND CABINS GET CLEANED TO SURGERY THEATRE STANDARD IN THE FIRST 24 HOURS..
CREW WOULD SAY THAT UGLY STAINS WHICH HAS BEEN AROUND FOR YEARS HAVE DISAPPEARED LIKE MAGIC.. OVERNIGHT..
TODAY THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE WHO CLAIM THAT THEY STARTED THIS "SWACHCH BHARAT" MOVEMENT..
THE SECOND THING I WOULD DO, WAS TO TAKE A THOROUGH INSPECTION OF THE SHIP,INCLUDING MACHINERY SPACES..
EQUIPMENT WHICH HAD NOT WORKED FOR YEARS WOULD COME ALIVE WITHIN A WEEK.. AC WOULD BE COLDER..CREW SHOWERS WOULD GIVE MORE WATER.. FOOD WOULD BE BETTER.. SHIP WOULD BE SAFER , WITH "FEAR FACTOR" REMOVED--
WE HAD WILD PARTIES..
ONE OLD RUSSIAN OFFICER WHO HAD NEVER EATEN BEEF T BONE STEAK ASKED ME " CAPTAIN, AFTER YOU SIGN OFF , WILL WE EVER GET TO EACH SUCH FABULOUS FOOD?"..
YES-- CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL WAS A HARD TASK MASTER..
BUT CREW DID NOT MIND WORKING FOR SUCH A MARTINET CAPTAIN, IF THEY WERE PART OF A WINNING EXCELSIOR TEAM..
EVERY HUMAN HAS A BASIC NEED ..
HE YEARNS TO BE "WANTED" IN A TEAM.. THIS IS A NEED OF THE SOUL..
I MADE SURE ALL MY BOYS FELT WANTED..
CAN ANY AI MACHINE EVER BE A LEADER ?
NEVER !
http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.com/2015/06/ethos-logos-pathos-capt-ajit-vadakayil.html
http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.com/2010/11/blue-ocean-leadership-capt-ajit.html
MANY OF MY READERS BUMP INTO SAILORS WHO HAVE ONLY HEARD OF ME -- NEVER KNEW ME PERSONALLY ..
THEY WILL VOUCH " THERE HAS BEEN ONLY ONE LIVING LEGEND SHIP CAPTAIN AT SEA. HE RETIRED WHEN HE WAS AT THE CREST OF HIS CAREER . THERE CAN NEVER EVER BE ANOTHER CAPTAIN LIKE VADAKAYIL AT SEA , WHO KICKED HIS SHORE BOSSES BALLS DAILY " ..
https://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.com/2019/08/what-artificial-intelligence-cannot-do.html
I WOULD SEND VIDEOS OF MY WILD SHIPBOARD PARTIES -- BASICALLY VICTORY LAPS -- COPIED TO THE TOP GUN..
capt ajit vadakayil
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WOW.. what an awesome post.. loved it sir..
ReplyDeleteYou are the greatest and best, Captain!
ReplyDeleteAjitji,
ReplyDeleteIn arranged marriages, we have very less time say 5 to 10 minutes to meet and understand the other person.
What questions to be asked or traits you suggest so that we can judge within those 5 minutes.
ho yogesh,
Deletei have completed 30 years of successful arranged marriage.
my wife duck tailed her walk in talked to me for 3 minutes and then duck tailed her walk away to the kitchen.
while coming in i could see that she had a good figure and face.
after she kept the tea , i had a conversation for 3 minutes.
her voice was not like mr wolf.
She answered my 3 or 4 questions with a smile. i noticed she was not a dehati behenjee.
--and i would NOT be shy of taking her with me on my ship as "OLD MAN'S WIFE" , for i was a captain of ships.
i already knew the answers to these questions.
--while she walked away, i could see she had hair almost till her knees.
after i got married one day i pounced on her " did you entice me with your long manicured nails- for i reckon you flashed them a wee bit?
so after a bit of a coaxing she said " yes!'
and then i said " what about the duck tailing like on a ramp/"
so after a bit of coaxing she said "yes!"
MOST OF THE DETECTIVE WORK AND INQUIRY INTO HER CHARACTER AND FAMILY WAS DONE BEFORE HAND.
you dont use your head here, you use your heart.
and you use your gut feeling too.
punch into google search GUT FEELING AND INTUITION VADAKAYIL
capt ajit vadakayil
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True, sir.
DeleteWell you are right on the intuition part.
ReplyDeleteBut for the spying, I think mostly it produces wrong results. The family enquires through neighbors. Good grooms are portrayed as bad due to jealousy by the neighbors and vice-versa. Like you want to know about India from Pak and Bangladesh. I have seen a few prospective marriages undone specially in villages.
hi yogesh,
Deletein such matters you dont rely on just one source.
you must be able to see through jealousy if you are smart.
THE MOST IMPORTANT IS -- DOES THE GIRL TAKE MEDICINES TO CONTROL PARANOIA OR HYSTERIA ?
IS SHE THE TYPE WHO OPENS OUT HER LEGS TO ANY BOY SHE FANCIES?
there are questions you do NOT ask in a direct manner.
capt ajit vadakayil
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In my humble opinion:
ReplyDeleteLove marriage is an arranged marriage managed entirely by PARA PARA SIVAN + PARA PARA SIVAI (Original & never changing parents of Aathma)...
In arranged marriage, they choose...
In love marriage, they decide...
A crude rhyme...
Arranged Marriage is MATRIMONIAL
Love Marriage is MATRIPINEAL
Thank you for this space, Respected Ajit
This is too good.
ReplyDeleteNice article. Just re-read it again. Do you anything else to add vis-a-vis the same topic?
ReplyDeletehi s,
Deletepunch into google search-
NAGGING, UNHAPPINESS AT HOME , DEATH OF MARRIAGE VADAKAYIL
capt ajit vadakayil
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Captain, I have a question.
ReplyDeleteMy mother recently brought a match for me.
The girl's father and my mother share the same grandfather.
Is this permissible in Sanatana Dharma? Will there be any issues with children?
I would deeply appreciate your advice in this matter, please do let me know.
Thank you!
hi n,
Deleteif you do NOT love the girl -- AVOID !
capt ajit vadakayil
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Captain, I met her only once. There is no love or lack of love involved here. I wanted to know if marriage between us is allowed, and if there would be any issues with children, since my mother and her father share the same grandparents.
ReplyDeletehi n,
Deleteavoid it !
punch into google search-
GOTRA SYSTEM , KHAP RULES , Y CHROMOSOME , DNA , GENETIC BIRTH DEFECTS VADAKAYIL
capt ajit vadakayil
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Really great post captain ji.
ReplyDeleteA lesson for the newly married couples and present generation to understand the real meaning of marriage and not just a legal contract to live together and have coitus.
Captain ji, I would feel pride if you write an article "comparing women in hinduism and in western civilization since antiquity"
This is the need of the hour to enlighten the juvenile girls and women about the realities and how our scriptures were fabricated to suit the vested interest of a few. I will wait for your this post exhuming the truth out of falsehood.
God bless you
namaste sir
ReplyDeletecongrats on account of your elder son engagement. wishing your family that this be the start of a long and wonderful journey.marriage is on which date. can i attend the marriage.
regards
Nelson Singh
HI Captain
ReplyDeleteSomewhere in comment column of urs blog I came to know that day marriages are actual hindu vedic way rather than night marriages.
Would you please write post on our ancient vedic way of marriages from the beginning starts from matching horoscope till the end greh pravesh of bride?
HI CAPT. WHO IS RT'S ANISSA NOUAI?
ReplyDeleteIf horoscopes of a couple didn't match, they may or may not engage in fights and nagging eachother all the time or sometimes.
ReplyDeleteBut if a couple fights and nag all the time, surely their horoscopes didn't match, right?
I find these pages more sanctum than any real life Temple within my current reach
ReplyDeleteHence I pray here
may that dusky damsel and me sail this and and every coming prospective life together till we get moksha
Dear sir,
ReplyDeleteI am having a problem with my wife.
she is very short tempered,and becomes very angry for simple issue, and also having suspicious over me that i may having some affair with some body ..It's now 4 yrs our marriage happened and we are having 2 kids ,now this short temperament is very severe.she is also having little jealousy , but if she is in good mood she is a good homemaker.. how to handle her ??
pls help.
hi n,
Deletegod created women this way.
marriage is a compromise-- if you must make it work.
capt ajit vadakayil
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Thank you sir for this great post.
DeletePlease record all conversation.Get a BPD test done on her.Start collecting all evidences from today.
Deletehttp://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/bengaluru/More-couples-inking-prenups-to-avoid-ugly-divorce-battles/articleshow/51771597.cms
ReplyDeleteONLY PICKLE JOHNS AND CHUTNEY MARYS SIGN PRE NUPITIAL AGREEMENTS.
BECAUSE FOR THEM SEX IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN A SENSE OF BELONGING.
BELIEF WORKS BOTH WAYS.
TILL DEATH DO WE PART
OR
TILL FAILED BLOWJOB DO WE PART
SUCCESS OF MARRIAGE IS A SELF FULFILLING PROPHECY-- WHAT YOU EXPECT WITH CONFIDENCE IS WHAT YOU GET .
TO EXPECT DIVORCE - IS ALMOST DIVORCE ITSELF RIGHT AT THE STARTING BLOCK.
capt ajit vadakayil
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when i broke with my ex girlfriend i saw it coming.
Deleteit was a lot heart breaking for me. but it made me wiser.
theoretically i knew about relationships and women, but practically i kept failing. one klpd for me was her dad was a big shot. that fear always loomed in my mind and really killed the relation. also all the fear back then made me a khargosh. today am close to a cave man ...... TEEEEEEE HEEEEEEE
if i knew this blog back then things would have been different or maybe not.
all things happen for good ?
Hi Captain Ji,
ReplyDeleteWhy has this come to pass???? -
DC Special: Kerala is India's divorce capital
http://archives.deccanchronicle.com/130403/news-current-affairs/article/dc-special-kerala-indias-divorce-capital
hi v
DeleteHINDUS IS KERALA ARE NOW A MINORITY
WE HAVE CHRISTIANS / MUSLIMS AND COMMIE ATHEISTS MORE.
capt ajit vadakayil
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Hi Guruji,
ReplyDeleteAs I told you earlier My wife has put 498A and the case has just started.I got bail and the chargesheet will be filed by next month.My life,job,personal feeling everything has shattered and feeling very hopeless sometimes. Could you write a article on how to fight 498a cases . What is your personal suggestion to me .
Please give your suggestion.
hi j
Deletefile for divorce
get rid of this woman from your life
start a fresh life
judges are now aware of false 498 a cases--
she has to produce evidence--
from where is she gonna get it ?
capt ajit vadakayil
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Guruji,
DeleteIts NOT easy to file divorce and get it as she will claim that because I want divorce I was torturing her.I agree she is a BITCH. I have 2 half girl kid which she has taken. I have to fight in JFMC court first .Long battle ahead.Putting 498A on husband has become a tool to extract money .WCD is working for these kind of fake law.this is my 6th year of marriage.Waiting for some kind of miracle.
Thnaks
J
Sir there's one doubt that when marriages in Maharashtra we throw rice (Akshada called in marathi) on Wedding couple while Pandits reciting mantras..is it right ritual??if yes then what is the iimportance of throwing rice??
ReplyDeleteFOR MY ELDER SONs WEDDING --BEFORE THE WEDDING CEREMONY --EVERY IMPORTANT RELATIVE AND WELLSWISHER SPRINKLED UNBROKEN RICE ON HIS HEAD
DeleteAFTER THE WEDDING SAME IS DONE ON THE COUPLE AS SOON AS THEY ENTER THE HOUSE
Showering Akshata on the bridal couple is associated with fertility. Rice is a symbol of fertility.
When akshata is offered to them, benevolent energy and vibrations develop in the akshata.
COUPLE OF DAYS AGO WHEN I DID SHRADDH FOR MY MOTHER ( INSIDE THE HOME ) I SPRINKED AKSHATA RICE ON THE LAMP AND FOOD OFFERED .
AKSHATA ( UNBROKEN RICE ) IS THE FINEST OFFERING IN SANATANA DHARMA
Thanks Sir for clearing my doubt....and sorry i mispronounce the word(Yes it is Akshata).i got a post message in Whatsapp in the Name of from Nana patekar's blog said that don't throw and waste Akshata in weddings ceremoney's by throwing on couples and donate same for hungry peoples and instead "throw Flowers on wedded couples"..will it have any effect??
DeleteIs throwing Flowers really makes any sense??
Deletea relaxing instrumental - https://disk.yandex.com/d/qTEs3SH6xhePV
ReplyDeletejustice is done with a good quality headphone
courtesy: from 01:28 to 09:28 of https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-6B2zyoFsI
Namaste Ajith Garu, here is good news to share with you, my engagement got fixed. It's on 9th Dec'16. There is perfect match between mine and girl's birth kundali and stars. My pandit also told with my amma garu that post marriage my career will moves up, plenty prosperity with presence of this girl. Guru garu, want your blessings and my humble request to share few lines - how one should perform engagement as per Hindu dharma, please. In fact, I searched for it.. instead I found above subject. So, iam posting from this comments section. Thanks
ReplyDeleteJAGADISH
DeleteI AM NOT A GURU
I AM A RETIRED SHIP CAPTAIN WHOSE BEER IS RUNNING OUT -- BECAUSE ROTHSCHILDs APCO BRANDED MODI HAS CHOOTS TO ADVISE HIM...
ANY WAYS--
YOU HAVE MY BLESSINGS-- SHRESTHAM PUTRAM LABASWAHAH
MARRIAGE IS A COMPROMISE -- DROP YOUR EGO ON DAY ONE
GIVE LOVE AND GET LOVE IN RETURN
HARMONY AT HOME IS THE THE GREATEST GIFT
DO NOT DO ANYTHING WHICH CAUSES YOUR WIFE TO LOSE RESPECT
http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/05/marriage-sans-fights-capt-ajit.html
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Capt. Ajit Vadakayil
ReplyDeleteDecember 16, 2016 at 8:26 PM
http://indianexpress.com/article/sports/badminton/pv-sindhu-beats-carolina-marin-in-straight-games-at-bwf-world-super-series-final-4430713/
SUPER SINDHU KEE JAI...
IMAGINE THAT EGO LADEN FEMALE ""DEEPA MALIK " ( RIO PARALYMPICS SHOTPUT SILVER ) WANTS TO BE TREATED SAME SAME AS DIPA KARMAKAR.
FOR ME DIPA KARMAKAR IS INDIAs DARLING NO 1 ATHLETE.
THIS GIRL FULL OF HUMILITY MADE US INDIANS BELIEVE IN OURSELVES .
NOBODY CAN TAKE THIS AWAY FROM HER..
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UyNxHWc4rPM
BALLS TO "SPEACIALLY ABLED " DEEPA MALIK WHO WANTS EGO MASSAGE GHADI GHADI--AND GOES TO TOWN WITH ENDLESS SELF PRAISE
WE DONT MIND WHEN HERO USAIN BOLT BOASTS. HE IS WORTH IT...
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rajesh maurya
December 17, 2016 at 4:50 PM
Capt Shri,
Deepa malik has too much superiority syndrom like many army wives have. Without substance they just hung on falthu authority and try to claim superiority. Pathetic
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Capt. Ajit Vadakayil
December 17, 2016 at 7:57 PM
AS SOON AS SHE WON THE RIO PARALYMPICS SHOT PUT SILVER , SHE HAD HER DAUGHTER ON TV, STATING THAT HER MOTHER WANTS TO START A SPORTS ACADEMY.
I WAS WATCHING THIS WITH MY WIFE
I TOLD MY WIFE " THIS IS AS STUPID AS A MANDHA BUDDIs SON , WHO WON MATH OLYMPIAD ( GOT THE CLOSEST ANSWER 2+2=5 ) STATING ON TV THAT HIS FATHER WANTS TO START A MATH ACADEMY -- SO GOVT OF INDIA-- PLEASE DONATE 100 ACRES LAND"
SHE WAS NOT HAPPY TO HEAR THIS ANALOGY. SHE IS MORE POLITICALLY CORRECT THAN ME.
AT EVERY SINGLE OPPORTUNITY DEEPA MALIK LAYS IT HAJAAAAR THICK.
QUINTESSENTIAL PNJAAAABI ARMY WIFE --WHO DREAMS OF KNEDAAA ..
IT ALL ABOUT HERSELF AND HER HUMONGOUS "SPIRIT " WHICH COULD GIVE CHE GUEVARA A INFERIORITY COMPLEX --IN HIS GRAVE
ONE OR TWICE IT IS OK-- BUT YOU CANT HAVE THIS SHIT EVERY SINGLE DAY.
http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/12/spirit-and-che-guevara-capt-ajit.html
I DARE THIS WOMAN DEEPA MALIK TO HAVE A SHOTPUT COMPETITION WITH MY WIFE .
WHEN A SPECIAL OR NONSPECIAL WOMAN SITS ON A WHEEL CHAIR, THE EQUATION IS THE SAME. PLAYING FIELD GETS LEVELLED.
once myself and my wife was armtwisted by my elder son's school headmaster , to come for the sports day--
--according to this muslim headmaster, my wife was the most respected and worthy parent .
so i was around doing the medical bit ( i am certified as a ship captain ) ... all attractive school girls over the age of 15 developed some medical problem or other .
the cardiologist ( my elder son's class mate's father ) with me said "ajit, they are faking it-- they just want attention, --we in the medical profession know what this type of malingering is -- just play along -let it be "
anyway time came for mother parents sports event.
female teachers arm twisted my wife to participate in shot put.
so she gave my two year old younger son to me.
he was a heavy child.
today he is 126 kg--the strongest in the gym, -- brute strength--yet very soft hearted , without ego.
anyways to cut a long story short--my wife threw the shot- almost 4 times further than the 2nd placed mother.
ALL STARTED LAUGHING -- EVEN MY WIFE STARTED LAUGHING .
IT WAS SO GODDAMN FUNNY. A THIN FRAIL WOMAN , SO STRONG.. AND THEY ALL LOOKED AT MY HUGE 2 YEAR OLD BABY GLARING AT THEM.
EVERYBODY AROUND CAME RUSHING TO FIND OUT WHY ALL ARE LAUGHING LOUDLY -- AND THEY ALSO STARTED LAUGHING
my wife's shoulders were strong --carrying a heavy baby.
my wife can kick anybody's ass. she won first prize on my ship among young sailors for the high kick .
THAT TIME TOO ALL STARTED LAUGHING LOUDLY.
check out the picture of my wife kicking high-- last photo
http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2012/06/equator-crossing-ceremony-at-sea-capt.html
capt ajit vadakayil
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Abcindiagogo
ReplyDeleteFebruary 23, 2017 at 11:21 AM
Captain,
Patton movie is being telecast right now on Star Movies Select HD.
The actor is very good !
And, his "balls of steel" and "don't give a damn" attitude reminded me of you !
If we have leaders like this, loyalty of people will skyrocket !
Imagine, if an actor can pull this off in such a consistent manner, inspiring loyalty amongst the movie watching audience,
Then, it is no wonder that you were, are and will be the most popular Captain ever !!!
Strict in disciple and other matters but still loved by all !!!
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Capt. Ajit Vadakayil
February 23, 2017 at 11:58 AM
hi a,
DEEP INSIDE PEOPLE LOVE A STRONG LEADER WHO ENFORCES DISCIPLINE
THE TRICK IS NOT TO SHOW PARTIALITY
YET --I GAVE MY OFFICERS "PRIVELAGE OF THE POST"
AT THE END OF THE MONTH OFFICERS AND CREW LINE UP OUTSIDE MY CABIN TO SIGN THEIR SALARY SHEETS AND PORTAGE BILL
NO CREW MEMBER DARES TO COME INTO MY CABIN AHEAD OF EVEN THE JUNIOR MOST OFFICER
IT IS A RECORD I MAINTAINED-- I ALLOW ONLY 20 SECONDS FOR A CREW MEMBER OR OFFICER TO COME IN TO MY CABIN, SIT DOWN BY MY SIDE, SIGN TWO SHEETS ( CREW HAS TO SIGN OVER TIME SHEETS TOO )--
TAKE A TOKEN PRESENT LIKE A MACKINTOSH QUALITY STREET CHOCOLATE FROM ME- AND BUZZ OFF WITH HIS SALARY SHEET
I TIME THIS - THIRD MATE IS IN CHARGE OF PHYSICAL MOVEMENTS -I JUST SIT THERE
I DONT USE COMPANIES SOFTWARE --I USE MINE
EVERY COMPANY OBJECTED-- I TOLD THEM FUCK OFF .. BECAUSE MY SOFTWARE WAS SUPERIOR ..
AT SEA NOBODY LIKE A WEAK CAPTAIN-- A SHIT ASS DRIPPING CUNT ...
THEY LOVE A STRONGMAN WHO PROVIDES A ROOF -- WHO KICKS ASS --WHO MAKES SURE THEY WILL REACH HOME SAFE WITH THEIR HARD EARNED MONEY ..
I HAVE NEVER BEEN MEAN -- ALL KNOW THAT
IF SOME SAILOR SCREWS IT UP AND I DONT PUNISH HIM ON THE SPOT--HE WILL FALL SICK
THEY LOVE MY PUNISHEMNT AND GO BACK TO THEIR CABINS --WITH A SONG ON THEIR LIPS
WHEN YOU CAN DO THIS-- YOU HAVE ARRIVED AS A LEADER WITH SPIRIT.
http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/11/blue-ocean-leadership-capt-ajit.html
IF YOU ASK SAILORS WHO KNOW ME OR HEARD OF CAPT VADAKAYIL--THEY WILL TELL YOU, THERE HAS NEVER BEEN A CAPTAIN AT SEA WHO BLED SAILORS ( WHO DESERVED TO BE BLED )
I WAS A MENTOR AT SEA —NOT A MERE LEADER . .
http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/12/mentoring-at-sea-capt-ajit-vadakayil.html
capt ajit vadakayil
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hi ajit,
ReplyDeleteMe and some of my family members have become avid readers of your blog and it is both fascinating and enlightening to read your own anecdotes. My cousin sister who reads your blog considers you no less than a brother herself.
Anyway since you are enjoying the fruits of a happy marriage i wanted to ask you and hoped you would help me in finding the right groom for my sister or at the very least point me in some direction. We have been trying to find the right alliance for nigh on 4 years now and she is 28. As far as personality is concerned, she is quite strong willed to the point of being a hardline feminist and wants an alpha male as her groom, frequently bemoaning the fact that men nowdays just don't cut it in the arranged marriage market. She belongs to dhanur rasi and is going through sadesati currently. A satisfactory alliance from both abroad and within India has not yet presented itself because apparently many of the boy's families have too much of demands from wanting working wives, dowry, bearing the full brunt of marriage expenses and having to live with the in-laws etc and hence is of the opinion that a career minded woman doesn't and shouldn't settle down to start a family. What advice can you give her and what kind of a groom should we look for since you yourself got your son married off not too long ago? Thanks.
YOU MUST KNOW THAT AGE IN NOT ON HER SIDE
DeleteSHE MUST GO FOR A MAN WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF HER LIKE GOLD --
LOOKS DO NOT MATTER MUCH --THE ONLY CONDITION BEING THAT SHE SHOULD NOT BE ASHAMED OF GOING WITH HER HUSBAND TO MEET HER FRIENDS ( THIS IS A PERSONAL THING )
I HAVE ASKED SEVERAL GORGEOUS WOMEN WHY THEY SETTLED TO MARRY AN ASSHOLE
ALL GAVE THE SAME REASON-- MOST WOMEN ARE FRANK WITH ME --I DONT KNOW WHY
REASON: SET THE BAR TOO HIGH BETWEEN THE AGES OF 20 TO 28.
ONE THEY SEE ALL THEIR FRIENDS AND PEERS HAPPILY MARRIED AND HAVING KIDS -- DESPERATION SETS IN --AND THEY LOWER THEIR STANDARDS --
BUT IT IS A BIT TOO LATE , AS VERY FEW MEN WANT TO MARRY A GIRL OVER THE AGE OF 30 --WHOSE YAUVAN IS IN TATTERS
WOULD I HAVE MARRIED MIDDLE AGED AISHWARYA RAI --WHEN SHE FINALLY MARRIED ?
NO WAY !
MY WIFE IS A HOUSE WIFE -- SHE COOKS FOR ME --SHE TAUGHT HER CHILDREN --SHE SACRIFICED
MY GROWN UP SONS LOVE HER --AS THEY KNOW HOW MUCH SHE HAS SACRIFICED
women are frank with you caus u don't gossip what they reveal.
Deleteit is different when you reveal things to enlighten people.
plus must be a good listener and non judging.
Loved your post. That pic of yours with the 'nostrils dilated' caption had me laughing to bits. But really... Are career women in your opinion not worthy of love? Don't they sacrifice as much? Specially when it's not a choice?
ReplyDeleteVandematram Vandematram x2
ReplyDelete" use your anger to boost your performance..."
"Manage your anger to make India great and strong.."
Google search "Anger management vadakayil"
For those interested in martial arts: Google search "Kalaripayattu deadliest vadakayil"
World secrets truths vadakayil
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"_____________+vadakayil"
Fill up the blank with any word you want
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I care for my Bharat. Its safety, security, progress, its True children"
I don't even want to spread these powerful knowledge which you hardly find at once place or anywhere. But my fellow patriots need some
weapons,
weapon like resolution of chanakya,
weapon like will of Maharana Pratap,
weapon like words of krishna in gita,
weapon like pride in being an Indian,
Weapon like peace of vedic sanskriti
Jai hind Jai bharat
lol ....... "Very soon i could see 11 envious ladies cajoling their husbands to be more romantic ( like me ) and row serenade them , instead of forcing them to use their delicate leg power."
ReplyDeleteROFL ...... "All 11 grooms gave me dirty looks, for spoiling their party -- Their brides were giving me side glances of admiration.
ReplyDelete"
no one seeing the above picture ll say ------"Below : This picture was taken immediately after the lake rowing incident- my nostrils are dilated and I am sweating and breathing hard -
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i need to develop good stamina ..... everything is taken care of.
you have still not spoken on venous leak?
is copper the solution ?
SOMEBODY CALLED ME AND SAID
ReplyDeleteIF YOU MATCHED 500 HOROSCOPES FOR YOUR ELDER SONs MARRIAGE
THEN YOU CANNOT BE THE BEST WRITER ON THE PLANET AND YOUR ELDER SON CANNOT BE THE BEST CODER ON THIS PLANET.
SO SO SO
WE ARE HEATHEN SAVAGES , RIGHT?
I WILL NOW GIVE A PEEK INTO THE GLORY OF SANATANA DHARMA AND ANCIENT INDIA
BURY A CONCH DEEP IN VEDIC RICE
BOTH THE CONCH ( SHANKH ) AND THE RICE WILL FOLLOW THE GOLDEN MEAN ( LIKE THE VEDAS )
THE CONCH WILL RISE BY ITSELF BY MERE SILENCE--THIS IS DIVINE RESURRECTION
IF YOU RECITE VEDAS IN THE RIGHT MANNER -- THE CONCH WILL POP UP INSTANTLY
SURPRISED ?
http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2016/12/108-numerical-equivalent-of-hindu-king.html
WELL THIS IS A PEEK INTO WHAT I WOULD HAVE REVEALED BETWEEN 97% TO 100%
RIGHT NOW MY REVELATIONS ARE AT 51.60%--AND PROBABLY I HAVE STOPPED BLOGGING..
http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2013/03/secrets-of-shankh-or-conch-product-of.html
http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2015/09/gm-ir8-rice-high-amylose-content.html
SRUTIS OF VEDAS FOLLOW THE GOLDEN MEAN, THE FIBONACCI SERIES AND PASCALS TRIANGLE--ALL DIVINE LAWS
http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2017/04/sanatana-dharma-hinduism-exhumed-and_71.html
WE DONT NEED TO LEARN HINDUISM FROM WENDY DONIGER, SHELDON POLLOCK, BR AMBEDHAR, EVR PERIYAR, UR ANANTHAMURTHY, DHABHOLKAR , PANSARE, KALBURGI, GAURI LANKESH , LITERARY FEST DROHIS, JNU COMMIES, BENAMI MEDIA AND ALL SUCH CHAFF
WE KNOW WHO WE ARE
capt ajit vadakayil
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Capt. Ajit Vadakayil
September 19, 2017 at 9:07 PM
LONG AGO I HAD POSTED ABOUT REIKI-- STATING THAT IT IS COPIED FROM VEDANTA
I WAS RIDICULED
I AM NOT IN THE HABIT OF GIVING PROOF AND SOURCES
IF YOU DONT BELEIVE ME "FUCK OFF" HAS BEEN MY ATTITUDE
I DID MY REIKI SECOND DEGREE INITIATION A WEEK AGO.
THE FIRST DIAGRAM TO DRAW IS CHO KU RE
THIS COIL MUST ESSENTIALLY BE THREE AND A HALF--OR IT IS WRONG
THE KUNDALINI SERPENT IS THREE AND A HALF COILS
THE INNER EAR COCHLEA IS THREE AND A HALF COILS
CUNTS WONT UNDERSTAND ALL THIS
Kundalini is the subtlest of vibrations that generate consciousness in human self.
While the cochlea is the grosser form of the coiled energy, Kundalini is the subtler form
The cochlea spiral passage resonates to 7.83 hertz ( OM frequency and also earth's heart beat )
http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2016/12/108-numerical-equivalent-of-hindu-king.html
BALLS TO ALL THE CUNTS WHO CALL SANATANA DHARMA A HEATHEN RELIGION TEEMING WITH SUPERSTITIONS
NOW YOU KNOW WHY I DONT CARE TO GIVE PROOFS
http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2011/08/reiki-capt-ajit-vadakayil.html
The Reiki power symbol CHO KU RE works as a “switch” that helps to instantly increase Reiki practitioner’s ability to channel the PRANA energies--only if the coil is three and a half.
my revelations now jump to 51.65 %
capt ajit vadakayil
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ReplyDeleteAdriano KruschinskiOctober 3, 2017 at 9:29 AM
Hello iam from Germany big fan of yours
i wanted to know Why Asian girls are so much feminine ?? is it because of high estrogen diet ??
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Capt. Ajit VadakayilOctober 3, 2017 at 10:05 AM
WHEN I MARRIED --MY WIFE WAS A VIRGIN
WHEN MY ELDER SON MARRIED , HIS WIFE WAS A VIRGIN
WE DO BACKGROUND RESEARCH ..THIS IS THE JOB OF THE PARENTS .
99 % OF WESTERN GIRLS ( WHO ARE NOT LESBIANS ) START HAVING SEX AS SOON AS THEY HAVE THEIR FIRST MENSES--I KNOW
I KNOW MORE ABOUT ST PAULI STREET AND REEPERBHAN WHOREHOUSES AND SEX SHOWS THAN YOU WILL EVER KNOW AS A GERMAN
THE MOST POWERFUL CHARM OF A GIRLs BEAUTY IS HER ABILITY TO BLUSH , HER GRACE , HER DOCILITY
IN MY WIFEs ANCESTRAL HOME GIRLS WERE NOT EXPECTED TO TALK TOO LOUDLY. THIS IS OUR CULTURE.. WE GO FOR ARRANGED MARRIAGES.
http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/05/marriage-sans-fights-capt-ajit.html
WHITE MEN COME TO INDIA AS TOURISTS , THEY JUST SIT IN PARKS, BEACHES ETC --AND WATCH INDIAN FAMILIES.
THEY SEE HOW THE WIFE IS LITERALLY LIKE MOTHER HEN TAKING CARE OF HER BROOD -- SHE IS NOT TRYING TO SHOW OFF HER PRIVATE PARTS TO OTHER MEN.
IF A WOMAN IS NOT FEMININE --WHAT IS HE WORTH ?
femininity is the ultimate form of a woman's sophistication. she does not do oneupmanship with her man. she will never force her man to eat CROW.
WHEN A MARRIED WOMAN DRESSES UP TO ATTRACT OTHER MEN --WHAT IS SHE WORTH ?
MY WIFE TAKES ALL MAJOR DECISIONS -- I DO NOT KEEP A RUPEE IN MY PURSE --SHE IS MY FINANCE MINISTER --I DO ALL THE EARNING , THOUGH
UNLIKE JAPANESE WOMEN --INDIAN WOMEN WILL SLAP A PERVERT IF HE TRIES TO GROPE HER IN A CROWD
INDIA HAS THE LEAST DIVORCES ON THIS PLANET "BY PERCENTAGE "
capt ajit vadakayil
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sir,
ReplyDeleteWe have seen a groom for my sister, who is almost 27 now. Their kundali matches between 65-70%. My sister has khumba and shatabisha nakshatra and the boy has vrushaba and rohini nakshatra. According to astrologer the boy has some dosha which can be eliminated by performing pooja. The boy's family seems good and they are quiet religious but they dont believe in horoscope matching. Should we go forward and get them married? And also their ganas are opposite, my sister has rakshasa gana and boy has manushya gana. Captain we are really confused, should we go forward and also she is running out of age.
Hi captain...I sincerely love a girl who's elder to me by 2 yrs...but we don't feel the difference..whats ur take on it? Is it ok to marry an elder girl?
ReplyDeleteHOW OLD IS SHE?
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DeleteHi Captain sir. I have got a proposal for a bride. My father's mother and her father's father are brother and sister (We share the same great grandparents). However we both have different gothras and our horoscopes have matched well. Kindly advice captain sir, if we can proceed further. Thanks a lot for this :)
ReplyDeleteI like the girl because she talks a lot about doing yoga and also helping her mother, which I rarely see anywhere nowadays.Kindly advice captain if the marriage will be suitable according to our Hindu traditions.
GREEN LIGHT..
DeleteGO AHEAD..
Thank you so much captain sir :D :D
DeleteI know we are not supposed to communicate personally with you captain sir. I will tell okay to my parents here. Hopefully we will print wedding invitations soon captain sir.
I hope to send you the first invitation. I will post in this same blogpost captain sir :) If i can get address, I will post it to your home and it will be very discreet :D But I can understand if you cannot give me adress captain sir.
Myy first invitation will be to you captain sir :)
Thank You so much sir :)
Captain Sir Please delete this message after reading.
DeleteHi Captain sir,
This marriage did not work. The girl did not want to proceed. I thought we were very good for each other and I had already constructed a lot of dreams but for some reason the girl rejected. I was feeling very depressed and so I was not very active for the last 3 weeks. I hope I can meet someone compatible soon and get married because my parents are getting very worried.
Thank You for all your blessings and wisdom Captain Sir.
Kindly acknowledge that you have read this message. It will mean a lot to me and my family.
Thank You Dear Captain Sir
ACK
DeleteYou should keep searching for a very nice guy for suman ji , caption....she is so lucky to have you... Her sacrifice is equally big relative to the love you are giving her... I require more than bold brutal courage to did what she is doing... It requires a very unique sense of class ...
ReplyDeleteCapt, when I said I can live in my wife's shadow I didn't mean I will live off her. I mean I have nothing to achieve in life or show myself to the world. I like remaining in the background.
ReplyDeleteI have many underutilized skills. For two years I ran a tuition center alone where I taught up to the Entrance level Physics, Chemistry and Maths alone. Two of my students got through. One of my 10th Std students is a ship captain today (when I last met him a year ago). I was renowned Maths teacher.
Then later in Bangalore I gave home tuition for Engineering Maths Semester I, II and III. I turned around a boy who had back papers in Maths and made him proficient in couple of months. His had mother remarked Lord Krishna came down to save my son. He was a very good guitarist and played me a few good numbers.
For my money I do web designing using Wordpress. Earlier it was Joomla and sometimes Drupal. But I find I like Wordpress very much. My programming skills (C/C++) are all sawed off. I could never really stick to anything. Even in web designing if I have enough money I am loathe to take up new projects and just want to tour around and have a good time. When money runs out again I am off hunting for new work.
For 10-12 years I lived off my Credit card paying my dues very diligently every month. Last 6 months and I went downhill. Some months I paid up to 1.25 lakhs and average for last 1-2 years was 50 to 60 thousand. But I am not out yet. I am planning my way back. My Creator has been too good to me all along. But financially, I have lived on an edge. Saving was never part of my game.
So never did I mean I would live off her. I meant I would be willingly very subdued in my disposition.
One of the few things I dream of doing with my wife (if I ever marry) is drive her around Kerala to the remotest and least visited places in Kerala. And visit as many temples as possible in South India. But everything looks like a pipe dream as of now. My mind ebbs and surges like a roller coaster. Sometimes high and then low. I have no idea what plans my Creator has for me.
ReplyDeleteThis way
ReplyDeleteWe won’t let the other sleep
Astral projection deep
Quivering lips
Palpitating all over
Certain signals relayed
And acknowledged
To keep things going
Two souls
Stretching the limits
Of two bodies apart
A meeting only at the altar
Of the sacred fire
For a new beginning
Of zero index and zero love
Up only the graph can go
Signals over astral
ReplyDeleteTrue or not
But like never before
never so far
Lips are quivering
Body in palpitation
Around the sacred fire
A meeting of souls
First time ever
An oath unto eternity
Time dissolves
Space contracts
The fabric reveals
The true source
Always hidden
of two souls
as one
diverging
to meet again
in an explosion
the Big Bang
A POTENT NEW YEAR'S ODE
ReplyDeleteOnly in the form of a photo post. I deleted the poem I wrote just now. Only this:
https://2018perception.blogspot.com/2021/12/just-trying-to-be-someone-on-new-years.html
What has this Story got to Do With Marriage?
ReplyDeleteThis is the story of a batsman. He loves to score shots of loose balls. He is an adept and has a wide array of strokes. But he has one shot that he plays to perfection. Bending down on the knees and playing the sweep shot to score a six.
He likes bowlers who can bowls loose balls at him. He says it is just a friendly thing. But then he keeps hitting merciless sixes off every loose ball bowled at him.
Just imagine the condition of the bowler after being hit for six consecutive sixes by a batsman who keeps saying it is friendly thing. The bowler would just go into a corner and sulk for days without bowling a single bowl again.
Our batsman goes after other bowlers in the meantime. Those that would never get a hang of his thing and oblige him with loose balls. Some do. They either quit or smash his nose with a nasty bouncer.
But this batsman of ours is adept at ducking. He ducks and escapes without getting hurt. He will never ask this bowler to bowl at him again.
Meantime, our sulking bowler has got over the shocking blues and come out to bowl. There are other batsmen who would let this bowler bowl to the potential. It would be an even game. Very enjoyable. Very uplifting. And something to learn and take away for both after every over.
Then here comes our batsman and queries about the whereabouts of our bowler in a very sympathetic tone and manner. There is a make believe distress in the eyes. "Where you been?" so asks the batsman, "I've been looking for you all along. Come let's play"
Our bowler is taken for by the charm at display. And in no time there they are at it again.
But the batsman, adept that he is, chooses to miss a few balls. It seems the absence of the bowler has made him loose his touch. The bowler feels very sorry for him.
And sends in very loose balls. The batsman just about manages to defend. "Come on now," our bowler eggs him, "you can do better."
The batsman then gets into his elements. He starts hitting sixes again. The bowler is afraid to raise the tempo lest it hurts the batsman.
But the psychological whiplash of this grossly unfair and uneven game starts getting into the nerves of the bowler. The bowler starts to wreck.
Very soon the bowler is back to the dark corner.
This is a cyclic process and each time the bowler resolves to quit the game.
Then comes the COACH, the best the planet has ever seen. The story takes an about turn. In no time, the bowler is back to the peak of skill and talent.
The batsman is watching all this new development from a distance. His unstatiated ego is hurt.
He devises and comes up with a new ruse... to be contd...
PS: This story has everything to do with marriage. I only want to make my wife happy. In as simple a way as possible. As outlined by the Great Coach Himself.
I just want to marry my wife and get her into bed with me. I can't say I Love You to her because I haven't yet. Love is on the zero mark.
ReplyDeleteTime has been kind to me. Time has always been on my side. That's why I quit wearing a watch almost 3 decades ago.
Apart from driving around with her, I also want to take me wife back to her childhood, so she can relive it again - a bit differently - with me by her side. The Great Coach has already prepared her for it. So that memories from the depths of time become sweeter than ever before.
At the moment my brain is frying.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GRJXyn0od9g
ReplyDeleteI love this song. One of my favorites. Never tire listening to it. I like the music very much, esp. at the end. The lyrics are not completely for me.
So I changed them a bit:
Yes, star-crossed in pleasure the stream flows on by
Yes, as I'm sated in leisure, as I watch it fly, yes
And time waits for no one, but it waits for me
Time waits for no one, and it will wait for me
Time can tear down a building or destroy anyone's face
Hours are like diamonds, just play around with them
Time waits for no one, no favours has he
Time waits for no one, but it will wait for me
Men, they build towers to their passing years, to their fame everlasting
Here he comes chopping and reaping, hear him laugh at their cheating
And time waits for no man, it will wait for me
Yes, time waits for no one, but it will wait for me
Drink in your summer, gather your corn
The dreams of the night time will vanish by dawn
Time waits for no one, it does wait for me
And time waits for no one, but it waits on me
No no no, it waits for me
as ever always for me
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GRJXyn0od9g
All I can say (to me and my wife) is to stop being melancholic and be dragged to the past that needs to be buried. Although it is the melancholia that attracts me. The Pathos in that face. The smile that hides a pain. Because it provides the scope for change - for something better.
ReplyDeleteTime is on your side too. It is on everyone's side. Time is not a culprit.
A photo post again:
https://2018perception.blogspot.com/2022/01/stop-being-melancholic.html
I need you much more than you need me
ReplyDeleteOne of the only things you ever wanted from life was: what you are thinking in your deepest thouughts right now - at this very moment. The signal to the Cosmos is clear and strong.
ReplyDeleteA Thought Train Progresses
ReplyDeleteMy brain
It’s been a frying
In its own juices
It was the thought train
Moving in only one direction
To and fro
Intensified
By body triggers
Heart pushing and egging on
What’s the effect
At the other end
Never before so
Pressing the third eye point
Between the eye brow
Surging images of the past
To be dissolved and replaced
New ones afresh
A tingling sensation
A oneness remains to be achieved
It’s been so
Increasingly fervent
Ever since the first words to print
A new beginning
A new chapter
That unfolded
So my thoughts go
To its final destination
Thousands of miles
It rode
On surging waves
To be understood
Only by the one intended
And the eye above that soars
As the clouds clear
The white mountains
Behold
An avalanche of blessings
Descend
From above
The Mighty Preserver
He smiles
This Leela as it unfolds
His Consort by his side
Let it be
Is whispered
A Divine whisper
All heavens hear
Two souls in tandem
Trying to bridge
In an effort
That shan’t go in vain
It is
ReplyDeletemy only way
of communication
Otherwise a frying brain
bursting at the seams
and back into the womb
of my Universal Mother
I went
Trying to find answers
My only love to find
waves upon waves
I can't let go ever
ever ever never
hold on fast I will
hold on tight I will
for you are
all that I seek
every scene
every image
a melody to develop
into a song
of love and hope
The astral high road apart
This the only other way
my only way
to love, hope and fulfillment
a dream to cherish forever
A miracle you are
ReplyDeletein my life
you you you
and only you
it's not we met
just a few days ago
or weeks or months
or even years
aeons would be
a safe guess
In a time beyond time
our thoughts now one
it's the same
here or there
hearts to be one
the same feelings true
one source, one soul
only bodies remain
apart
the final destination
eyes only to meet
before the beginning
of the real journey
from thereon
An Ode to me Wife
ReplyDeleteIt's a dream to cherish
To Marry You
Meet you face to face
At the altar of fire
Take all the vows
Seven times around the sacred fire
We walk, hand in hand
It's still a dream
That elevates the mind
Fires up the cells
An event it would
Anywhere
Before the Sanctum
Of the Preserver Lord
A life that seeks to begin
Only after the rites of passage
Then a world
For you and for me
In the moments of togetherness
Of two beings
So far apart
Opposites in every way
In nature and attitude
The matter and anti-matter
Fusing into one
Into that nothingness
From where it all began
It's a dream for now
Bound by Time
Trying to break the fetters
From the abstract to the real
And now a secret to let out today
I'm the Bee
Collecting nectar for my Queen
Making honey for all
And I like to smell the flowers as I work
Believing in magic and miracles
I Love me Queen
About the Two Ends
ReplyDeleteWhen one end
Twangs with the other
An emotion at one
Immediately registered at the other
Instantaneously
One the transmitter
The other the receiver
and replicator
So keep stable
No matter what
And look towards the bright ahead
The dark is behind
Way too behind
If you are
So am I
Dream, dream on
with passion and energy
When the bee arrives
filled with nectar
The Queen receives, ready
Lips still twitch
Body palpitates
But a dissonance
Causes the heart to flutter
Sensing something amiss
A despair, never ever to be
Because the Cosmos Wills
it to be
So I believe
at my end of this synchronicity
It'd be good to remember
The Queen
is the Bee's energy
The very life purpose
And the bee senses
any agitation in the Queen
any denial of Her self
For this longing is just too deep
The Delete Button
ReplyDeleteWhatever
You do
Whenever you do
Should be fine
By anyone who cares to know
Even if it is someone
You care about
No need to take their trash in
Just press delete
And off it goes - flushed
A powerful button
Delete is
The use of which
You came to know
Much later than usual
The Cosmos
Belongs to you
Backs you to the hilt
Is always around you
And it wants you to use
The Delete button
More often than not
The rest it takes care of
It's your world now
Shown by the power
in the Universe
That picked you up
From among millions
You are rarest of the rare
Shining bright
Shining from dizzying heights
Lighting up the darkest corners
Shine on,
Shine on forever
And the sky will never be gray again
It's a fact
ReplyDeleteYes, it's a fact
Emotional fragrance
Of two lives so deeply enmeshed
It can't do without the other
Can Time be a factor?
Can Space be a factor?
When one knows and yet one doesn't
If the deep anguish experienced is of love
Leading to an altered state
A rescue is in order
The surging emotions
Leaving the mind in a disarray
intermittent be that as it may
A necessity nevertheless
That the juice it flows on
When the twains have not met yet
The heart, it is that is weighed down
By the intensity of it all
An endurance called upon
To work things out
As slow and dull it may appear
The day, we both should know,
Isn't far off
When this emotional knot is set loose
Untangled and then
once again entangled
Never ever to be undone
A powerful entity
ReplyDeleteThat you are
In my life
I can't come
Face to face
Unless it is on the Altar of Fire
Or at the least
Before the book
Of a registrar
Pen in hand
Ready to sign
Until then
You are in my dreams
in the most intense of thoughts
Connected only through the medium of the Aether
Snug in the feeling
That you feel for me
As intensely as I do
With only my Soul
As a witness unto myself
I am your moon
ReplyDelete'cause I reflect your feelings and emotions
You are my Sun
'cause your light it is I shine with
I am your lyrics
And you are my tune
The rhythm and the melody
of our song synchronized
In fluid togetherness
Merging harmoniously
Night changing to day
and the day to night
Time flows on by
This dream, it transforms to reality
And the butterflies are everywhere
Dancing to the soft music of your love
An intoxication
That I feel this very moment
Heart is light, the spirit is free
And it seeks to fly
All I can say
My love, you have come for me
From the Now and the Beyond
On a path forged by Destiny
There is no goodbye in Love
ReplyDeleteThere is no Time in Love
Love tunes the heart's yearning
Love can pierce through the eyes
And tug at the Soul beyond
It's more than the candy in the baby's hands
Love won't let go
Now or ever
Only space contracts
And the merging is just the beginning
Love is never lost
The bridge yet to be crossed
The yearning, it increases
As I looks into your eyes
Your lips cause a flutter
The flowing hair intoxicates
The more I see,
The etching goes deep
It's just more than the candy in the baby's hands
Yes, there is pain, there is fear
There is trepidation
It is that what increases the urging
Spurs me on
I have dived into the depths of your soul
I have seen all that I wanted to see
Heard all that I wanted to hear
Now I seek you
To be mine
Forever
Like arrows I send
My pangs of Love
To pierce your heart
Not to cause you pain
Only to let you see mine
And this is just
The tip of the iceberg you see
Only the smoke plumes
Of a volcano
The lava is still beneath
So you see darling
It's more than the candy in the baby's hands
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2gMhbWeo30o
ReplyDeleteThere is fear in my eyes
But they are also full
with tears of intoxication
As I yearn to drink in your love
Now there is no tomorrow
And this night may never end
As I sleep in my feelings of love
This night is sweet and fragrant
So is the beautiful moon above
But you are the sweetest, my love
And what could be sweeter than you
Only your love, my love
And you don't know it yet
My eyes in fear, ever
In Love only it is
The happiness of life
Even the pain of Love
It gives happiness
And sometimes
This longing
It may seem to ebb
But your love it is
That keeps me going
And so tonight I sleep, my love
in my feelings of love
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_DLXmzoaoE
Alone
ReplyDeleteI've never felt lonely ever
Until now.
I need you.
Your face
every bit of it
haunts.
Chiseled to perfection
Divine poetry in view
My feelings
No longer
converts to words.
I am drowned in your being.
Totally immersed.
Your love
I fervently seek
Like the bee
That seeks the flower
Your love is all I need
Your caress. Your touch.
Fathomless
A depth beyond perception.
Everywhere I see
It is you
And only you
A transformation
I know it not
Where it all began
It's that moment
When the I become you
There is nothing else in mind
Today
Whatever I do
It's you
Dispersed throughout my cells
All over my being
Dispositor of my soul energy
In a lightning
To be with you
The more I read about you
ReplyDeleteThe more I get involved
As if my brain
Getting sucked into an air pressure cabin
Have never read anything like this before
Someone so chillingly open about her own life
After divorce will you marry me?
I'm more than a couple of decades ahead
But a chronic bachelor
Who never took to marriage as such
Not until now
Your kinkiness surprises me
But I think I can match it
Level to level
My Venus keeps my mind involved in women
Saturn keeps it limited to one at a time
Mars keeps it solid as long as it lasts
Moon doesn't want to let go
Jupiter promises a land and culture afar
Mercury secures her intellect and depth
The Sun gives her glory
Ketu promises fun in the dark
Rahu a virtual entry from illusion to reality
It all points towards you
All apart, it's my heart
Now hell bent to acquire your love
My mind like a straight arrow
Taut and ready to go
Will you marry me?
ReplyDeleteI am your shadow
You can never keep me away
If you're shining bright
I'll only remain hidden
Do you think you could marry me?
You are much more than
I can ever imagine
I can no longer
Hide my desire in poetry
Marry you. Marry you. Marry you.
This is the only sound
I hear inside of my head
It is my Soul voice
Speaking to me
Leading me on my Soul journey
To be one with you
In body, mind and spirit
I love the light
And the darkness too
If your light enamors
Then the darkness thrills me all the more
I love everything
I know about you
The unknown excites me even more
My journey, this pilgrimage
Knows no other destination
A culmination that I seek in you
You are my intoxication
https://youtu.be/hpna91cR6ZU
ReplyDeleteSince time eternal
I've been awaiting your call
Why don't you call me
Call me, call me, my love
My nights and my dreams
They await you
They are restless
and so am I
Why don't you call me, my love
Quivering, my lips
They carry your name
From the deepest recesses of my heart
Through all these restless nights
It's plain in sight, my love
I am in love with you
So call me, for I'm awaiting
Only for your call
For now
My heart
It takes solace
That at least our destinies have met
Otherwise, in this darkness and solitude
My nights are restless
For you
Always in waiting, always for you
Call me, my love, call me
https://youtu.be/f1DZxkiMjRo
ReplyDeleteThese misty nights,
as well as the dazy days
and the lovely moon
now rising in the sky
continues to blaze
the sparkling fire of yearning and longing
the seasons are now sweet these days
suggesting more sweetness to come
but as of now I pass these sleepless nights
Then I see your dark flowing hair
with the dancing breeze around
seeing your face emerge from the deep blue
and then covered again in the mist that arise
My heart is now suddenly restless
Till you become mine
Everything would be missing in life
The fire will continue to burn
Fanned by the moonlit rays and the starry nights
My heart will continue to search for the dream
By brightness of the day
and by the darkness of the night
My yearning for my beloved
Never to subside
by radiance or by the dullness
fleeting by with changing seasons
dazed autumns and misty winters
by scorching suns nor the rains in torrents
Now your blush has sparkled another fire
And like the parched desert
I yearn for a few drops of rain
Will you not be mine, my beloved
Be the someone to light up my life
Fill me dreams with your blissful smile
As the seasons pass and the moon continues to shine
When finally, Time relents and stands still
To catch a glimpse of our playful Love
In your garden of Eternity
Yes Sir
ReplyDeleteSir, the more I think and feel the more I become immateurish in my thinking, feeling and disposition. Is also not more than 13 to me. Frolicking like deer, hither and thither.
ReplyDeleteApplying for the vacancy in Srinivasan style of Pattanapravesham (koolie venda, sir, bachchonam venda):
https://youtu.be/NjG5m7Tw5Y8
(25 secs only)
Sir, sitting here I composed a poem which after reads and re-reads, and many a edit later, I think is good enough to be shared here:
ReplyDeleteIn my heart,
I hold close all my feelings of love for you
It's the yearning for you that keeps me going
And I sit here as I watch the daylight
Turn into the night's darkness
I sit here alone with all my thoughts
Then the night passes and the morning comes
Watching the rays filtering through the leaves of the tree outside
As the sunlight it begins to fill my room
I lie in my bed thinking of our future together
And all the things that we will do
Picking flowers in the garden, rolling in the grass
You holding me in your arms, your heart beating against mine
I close my eyes
As the Time, it slips by
As I dream of that distant place among the blue white skies
The place in serenity engulfed by the white clouds
Where I will find you one fine moment in time
For in my heart you will always be
The one, and the only one for me
Thus pass the the endless hours
The days dragging along by
But I have a wish for you and one for me
I want you always with me
And to bring our love together
Since eternity from now on till eternity
For you see in my heart
You will ever be, an eternal place to be
For in my heart, since the beginning of Time
You're my only one, the only one for me
And I want you with me always,
Till eternity our love together to be