Sunday, May 23, 2010

A MARRIAGE SANS FIGHTS -- CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL



Sometimes I wonder why my 28 years of marriage has gone smoothly without a single fight.

  
Especially when yours truly is a super strong character, who does not take anything lying down.

One of the factors definitely is -- that i went for an arranged marriage.

Of course we saw each other and gave our consent. Our parents gauged our compatibility. Our horoscopes were matched to see if the most intelligent force blessed the union.

Being a handsome young sailor i had my share of opportunities for a love marriage -- but i knew that love marriages do NOT work.

I wanted a girl who could blush, for the blush is the most powerful charm of a girl's beauty. And is not a blush the color of virtue?

I was acutely aware of the worry and strain of the Western marriage concept where sex plays a major role. When the feelings wane we all know what is in store.

The western marraige is based on lust and feelings , the Eastern on TRUST  honour and committment.  An Indian woman does NOT go for silicon implants to SAVE her marriage.

An arranged marriage is a compromise. It is a 51:49 relationship.

When a cup of tea has to be made there is no doubt who is gonna make it.  When it comes to security of the family there is no doubt who will provide that.

In India the divorce rate is less than 1% while in the west it is greater than 50%.



Country  /     %  Divorce  
Albania /                     19     
Armenia/                     17     
Australia/                    48     
Austria/                       47     
Azerbaijan/                  12     
Bahamas/                     5       
Belarus            /           45     
Belgium/                      71     
Bermuda/                     25     
Bosnia & Herz/             8       
Brazil/                         24     
Bulgaria/                      47      
Canada/                       49  
Chile/                           3       
China/                         22     
Colombia/                    9       
Costa Rica/                  47     
Croatia/                       25     
Cuba/                          53     
Cyprus/                       28     
Czech Republic/           66     
Denmark/                    49     
Dominican Rep/           41     
Ecuador/                     20     
Egypt   /                     17      
El Salvador/                23      
Estonia /                     58     
European Union/          47     
Finland    /                   47     
 France            /           55     
 Georgia/                     19     
 Germany/                   49     
 Gibraltar/                    49     
 Grenada/                    22     
 Greece              /        25     
 Guatemala/                 5       
 Hungary/                    67     
 Iceland           /           37     
India/       0.08          
    

https://youtu.be/e3-5YC_oHjE

I have climbed the highest mountains
I have run through the fields
Only to be with you
Only to be with you
I have run I have crawled
I have scaled these city walls
These city walls
Only to be with you
But I still haven't found
What I'm looking for
But I still haven't found
What I'm looking for
I have kissed honey lips
Felt the healing in the fingertips
It burned like fire
This burning desire
I have spoke with the tongue of angels
I have held the hand of a devil
It was one empty night
I was cold as a stone
But I still haven't found
What I'm looking for
But I still haven't found
What I'm looking for
I believe when the Kingdom comes
Then all the colors will bleed into one
Bleed into one
But yes

 Iran/                           14     
 Ireland/                       15     
 Israel/                         30     
 Italy    /                      27     
 Jamaica/                      9        
 Japan  /                      36     
 Jordan  /                     25     
 Kazakhstan/               27     
 Kuwait           /           42     
 Kyrgyzstan/                16     
 Latvia /                      52     
 Lebanon/                   17     
 Libya /                        5       
 Liechtenstein  /           48     
 Lithuania/                   53     
 Luxembourg   /           62     
 Mauritius/                   17     
 Mexico  /                    15                 
 Moldova/                    42     
 Mongolia/                   32     
 Montenegro    /           14     
 Netherlands/               46     
 New Zealand /            45     
 Nicaragua/                  17     
 Norway/                     46     
 Panama/                     27     
 Poland            /           28     
 Portugal/                     69     
 Qatar  /                       29     
 Rep of Macedonia/      11      
 Romania         /           28     
 Russia /                       51     
 Saudi Arabia/              20     
 Serbia /                       22     
 Singapore/                  28     
 Slovakia/                    47     
 Slovenia/                    38     
 South Africa/              17     
 South Korea/              35     
 Spain  /                      62     
 Sri Lanka                    0.19               
 Suriname/                   31     
 Sweden/                     49     
 Switzerland/                52     
 Syria   /                       9       
 Tajikistan/                   6       
 Thailand/                    25     
 Trinidad nTobago/     35     
 Turkey   /                   20     
 Ukraine/                     42     
 United Kingdom/         51     
 United States /            56
 Uzbekistan  /              8       
 Venezuela/                 27     
 Vietnam/                    4        



Wise men say - Only fools rush in,
But I can't help falling in love with you.

Wise men say - Only fools rush in,
But I can't help falling in love with you.

Shall I stay - Would it be a sin,
But I can't help falling in love with you.

As the river flows
gently to the sea 
Darling so we go
some things were meant to be

Take my hand - Take my whole life too,
But I can't help falling in love with you.

As the river flows
gently to the sea 
Darling so we go
some things were meant to be

Take my hand - Take my whole life too,
But I can't help falling in love with you.

I can't help falling in love with you.
I can't help falling in love with you.
I can't help falling in love with you.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vUdloUqZa7w


Wrigley's chewing gum and perfumes are a must before a western date-- for the boy and girl must taste their mutual fruits -- before saying YES.

In the Eastern concept the boy gets to taste the fruits , only after the ceremony. It is an exciting period of discovery. Love will follow.

On the GRAPH of love versus time-- on X / Y axis, a love marriage starts at zero time ( wedding night ) on the horizontal axis and 100% love on the vertical axis.

What is already on top cannot go up any more--remember you had been  surviving on love and fresh air and showing only your best behavior and profile to each other , hiding all your warts,  BO with perfume and MO with Wrigleys.

Within two months the index falls like an asymptotic curve.


Everything in life is relative. In one , the index keeps falling , while in the other it has to rise.

For what was this love--just an arrangement of convenience.


If you were staying in Mumbai you fall in love with a girl from Mumbai--if you were in Timbuctoo you fall in love with a girl from there. True love knows no barriers of race, religion or age.

My arranged marriage  started with the index on zero love at zero time. What is already at rock bottom cannot fall any further. It can only go up.  Ego does not play a huge role.

Marriage is an institution which must be respected.


I remember when my crew was Jamaican , and if they did something extraordinary , like winning a race at the Flying Angels athletic meet --

I would pose a question. " Brown , whom did you run for" .

Pat comes the answer " I ran for Maaamma " .

Naturally-- Brown did NOT run for Paaapa because his mother never married,-- she just lived in with lot of men.

digression:--

However here is my self proclaimed answer to the first question --the first line of this piece. At our honeymoon hotel , they had a package for honeymoon couples. There were 12 newly weds in a nice luxury coach.

Our first stop was the Ooty lake. All the eleven couples went for the foot paddle boats. I went for the rowing wooden boat with the heavy oars-- declined the services of a professional rower, and shot off to the other end of the huge lake like an arrow.

Very soon i could see 11 envious ladies cajoling their husbands to be more  romantic ( like me ) and row serenade them ,  instead of forcing them to use their delicate leg power.

 So we had 12 rowing boats in the lake -- pretty soon--with NO professional rowers in them.

Out of these 12 , 11 got stuck in the slush with the grooms unable to row further due to enervated tendons  fatigued muscles and blistered palms -- triggering off a huge rescue operation which took two hours, in front of a huge sniggering crowd.-- what with so much of smeared lipsticks and smudged mascaras--

All 11 genteel brides had panicked and were in tears--some of them wailing loudly.

All 11 grooms gave me dirty looks, for spoiling their party --  Their brides were giving me side glances of admiration.

I could see that my wife was proud of me , for she started holding mE hand -- and she had reprogrammed her DNA to respect me for ever  HA!  ;-).

Below : This picture was taken immediately after the lake rowing incident- my nostrils are dilated and I am sweating and breathing hard - 



PSSST, secret --  Why should i tell her than i was a champion team rower of whaler and cutters while in our Training ship which had 250 cadets . We practised almost daily for 2 years. I used to be the bowman , who had 1:6 ratio on the crutch pivot while the rest of the team had 1:3 ( boat is narrow at the bows )

--and my rowing tendons, were seasoned and tough -- like steel wires..

TEEE--HEEEEEE !




  1. https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/pm-to-receive-award-from-bill-and-melinda-gates-foundation-for-swachh-bharat-abhiyaan/articleshow/70946546.cms

    IT WAS CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL WHO ASKED MODI TO GO FOR A "QUICK WIN" AS SOON AS HE SITS ON THE PM CHAIR, BY A HYGIENE MOVEMENT..

    AND ONE MONTH LATER, WHEN PM MODI DID NOTHING, CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL HAS BOLLOCKED HIM SEVERELY..

    ON EVERY SHIP I COMMANDED , THE FIRST THING I DO IS TO GIVE A VISUAL DISPLAY THAT A NEW BANDMASTER HAS ARRIVED..

    TOILETS, ALLEYWAYS AND CABINS GET CLEANED TO SURGERY THEATRE STANDARD IN THE FIRST 24 HOURS..

    CREW WOULD SAY THAT UGLY STAINS WHICH HAS BEEN AROUND FOR YEARS HAVE DISAPPEARED LIKE MAGIC.. OVERNIGHT..

    TODAY THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE WHO CLAIM THAT THEY STARTED THIS "SWACHCH BHARAT" MOVEMENT..

    THE SECOND THING I WOULD DO, WAS TO TAKE A THOROUGH INSPECTION OF THE SHIP,INCLUDING MACHINERY SPACES..

    EQUIPMENT WHICH HAD NOT WORKED FOR YEARS WOULD COME ALIVE WITHIN A WEEK.. AC WOULD BE COLDER..CREW SHOWERS WOULD GIVE MORE WATER.. FOOD WOULD BE BETTER.. SHIP WOULD BE SAFER , WITH "FEAR FACTOR" REMOVED--

    WE HAD WILD PARTIES..

    ONE OLD RUSSIAN OFFICER WHO HAD NEVER EATEN BEEF T BONE STEAK ASKED ME " CAPTAIN, AFTER YOU SIGN OFF , WILL WE EVER GET TO EACH SUCH FABULOUS FOOD?"..

    YES-- CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL WAS A HARD TASK MASTER..

    BUT CREW DID NOT MIND WORKING FOR SUCH A MARTINET CAPTAIN, IF THEY WERE PART OF A WINNING EXCELSIOR TEAM..

    EVERY HUMAN HAS A BASIC NEED ..

    HE YEARNS TO BE "WANTED" IN A TEAM.. THIS IS A NEED OF THE SOUL..

    I MADE SURE ALL MY BOYS FELT WANTED..

    CAN ANY AI MACHINE EVER BE A LEADER ?

    NEVER !

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.com/2015/06/ethos-logos-pathos-capt-ajit-vadakayil.html

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.com/2010/11/blue-ocean-leadership-capt-ajit.html

    MANY OF MY READERS BUMP INTO SAILORS WHO HAVE ONLY HEARD OF ME -- NEVER KNEW ME PERSONALLY ..

    THEY WILL VOUCH " THERE HAS BEEN ONLY ONE LIVING LEGEND SHIP CAPTAIN AT SEA. HE RETIRED WHEN HE WAS AT THE CREST OF HIS CAREER . THERE CAN NEVER EVER BE ANOTHER CAPTAIN LIKE VADAKAYIL AT SEA , WHO KICKED HIS SHORE BOSSES BALLS DAILY " ..

    https://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.com/2019/08/what-artificial-intelligence-cannot-do.html

    I WOULD SEND VIDEOS OF MY WILD SHIPBOARD PARTIES -- BASICALLY VICTORY LAPS -- COPIED TO THE TOP GUN..

    capt ajit vadakayil
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89 comments:

  1. WOW.. what an awesome post.. loved it sir..

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  2. You are the greatest and best, Captain!

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  3. Ajitji,
    In arranged marriages, we have very less time say 5 to 10 minutes to meet and understand the other person.

    What questions to be asked or traits you suggest so that we can judge within those 5 minutes.

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    1. ho yogesh,

      i have completed 30 years of successful arranged marriage.

      my wife duck tailed her walk in talked to me for 3 minutes and then duck tailed her walk away to the kitchen.

      while coming in i could see that she had a good figure and face.

      after she kept the tea , i had a conversation for 3 minutes.

      her voice was not like mr wolf.

      She answered my 3 or 4 questions with a smile. i noticed she was not a dehati behenjee.

      --and i would NOT be shy of taking her with me on my ship as "OLD MAN'S WIFE" , for i was a captain of ships.

      i already knew the answers to these questions.

      --while she walked away, i could see she had hair almost till her knees.

      after i got married one day i pounced on her " did you entice me with your long manicured nails- for i reckon you flashed them a wee bit?

      so after a bit of a coaxing she said " yes!'

      and then i said " what about the duck tailing like on a ramp/"

      so after a bit of coaxing she said "yes!"

      MOST OF THE DETECTIVE WORK AND INQUIRY INTO HER CHARACTER AND FAMILY WAS DONE BEFORE HAND.

      you dont use your head here, you use your heart.

      and you use your gut feeling too.

      punch into google search GUT FEELING AND INTUITION VADAKAYIL

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  4. Well you are right on the intuition part.

    But for the spying, I think mostly it produces wrong results. The family enquires through neighbors. Good grooms are portrayed as bad due to jealousy by the neighbors and vice-versa. Like you want to know about India from Pak and Bangladesh. I have seen a few prospective marriages undone specially in villages.

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    1. hi yogesh,

      in such matters you dont rely on just one source.

      you must be able to see through jealousy if you are smart.

      THE MOST IMPORTANT IS -- DOES THE GIRL TAKE MEDICINES TO CONTROL PARANOIA OR HYSTERIA ?

      IS SHE THE TYPE WHO OPENS OUT HER LEGS TO ANY BOY SHE FANCIES?

      there are questions you do NOT ask in a direct manner.

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  5. In my humble opinion:

    Love marriage is an arranged marriage managed entirely by PARA PARA SIVAN + PARA PARA SIVAI (Original & never changing parents of Aathma)...

    In arranged marriage, they choose...
    In love marriage, they decide...


    A crude rhyme...
    Arranged Marriage is MATRIMONIAL
    Love Marriage is MATRIPINEAL

    Thank you for this space, Respected Ajit

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  6. Nice article. Just re-read it again. Do you anything else to add vis-a-vis the same topic?

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    1. hi s,

      punch into google search-
      NAGGING, UNHAPPINESS AT HOME , DEATH OF MARRIAGE VADAKAYIL

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  7. Captain, I have a question.
    My mother recently brought a match for me.
    The girl's father and my mother share the same grandfather.
    Is this permissible in Sanatana Dharma? Will there be any issues with children?
    I would deeply appreciate your advice in this matter, please do let me know.

    Thank you!

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    1. hi n,

      if you do NOT love the girl -- AVOID !

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  8. Captain, I met her only once. There is no love or lack of love involved here. I wanted to know if marriage between us is allowed, and if there would be any issues with children, since my mother and her father share the same grandparents.

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    1. hi n,

      avoid it !

      punch into google search-
      GOTRA SYSTEM , KHAP RULES , Y CHROMOSOME , DNA , GENETIC BIRTH DEFECTS VADAKAYIL

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  9. Really great post captain ji.
    A lesson for the newly married couples and present generation to understand the real meaning of marriage and not just a legal contract to live together and have coitus.
    Captain ji, I would feel pride if you write an article "comparing women in hinduism and in western civilization since antiquity"
    This is the need of the hour to enlighten the juvenile girls and women about the realities and how our scriptures were fabricated to suit the vested interest of a few. I will wait for your this post exhuming the truth out of falsehood.

    God bless you

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  10. namaste sir

    congrats on account of your elder son engagement. wishing your family that this be the start of a long and wonderful journey.marriage is on which date. can i attend the marriage.

    regards
    Nelson Singh

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  11. HI Captain

    Somewhere in comment column of urs blog I came to know that day marriages are actual hindu vedic way rather than night marriages.

    Would you please write post on our ancient vedic way of marriages from the beginning starts from matching horoscope till the end greh pravesh of bride?

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  12. HI CAPT. WHO IS RT'S ANISSA NOUAI?

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  13. If horoscopes of a couple didn't match, they may or may not engage in fights and nagging eachother all the time or sometimes.
    But if a couple fights and nag all the time, surely their horoscopes didn't match, right?

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  14. I find these pages more sanctum than any real life Temple within my current reach
    Hence I pray here
    may that dusky damsel and me sail this and and every coming prospective life together till we get moksha

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  15. Dear sir,
    I am having a problem with my wife.
    she is very short tempered,and becomes very angry for simple issue, and also having suspicious over me that i may having some affair with some body ..It's now 4 yrs our marriage happened and we are having 2 kids ,now this short temperament is very severe.she is also having little jealousy , but if she is in good mood she is a good homemaker.. how to handle her ??

    pls help.

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    1. hi n,

      god created women this way.

      marriage is a compromise-- if you must make it work.

      capt ajit vadakayil
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    2. Thank you sir for this great post.

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    3. Please record all conversation.Get a BPD test done on her.Start collecting all evidences from today.

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  16. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/bengaluru/More-couples-inking-prenups-to-avoid-ugly-divorce-battles/articleshow/51771597.cms

    ONLY PICKLE JOHNS AND CHUTNEY MARYS SIGN PRE NUPITIAL AGREEMENTS.

    BECAUSE FOR THEM SEX IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN A SENSE OF BELONGING.

    BELIEF WORKS BOTH WAYS.

    TILL DEATH DO WE PART

    OR

    TILL FAILED BLOWJOB DO WE PART

    SUCCESS OF MARRIAGE IS A SELF FULFILLING PROPHECY-- WHAT YOU EXPECT WITH CONFIDENCE IS WHAT YOU GET .

    TO EXPECT DIVORCE - IS ALMOST DIVORCE ITSELF RIGHT AT THE STARTING BLOCK.

    capt ajit vadakayil
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    1. when i broke with my ex girlfriend i saw it coming.

      it was a lot heart breaking for me. but it made me wiser.

      theoretically i knew about relationships and women, but practically i kept failing. one klpd for me was her dad was a big shot. that fear always loomed in my mind and really killed the relation. also all the fear back then made me a khargosh. today am close to a cave man ...... TEEEEEEE HEEEEEEE

      if i knew this blog back then things would have been different or maybe not.

      all things happen for good ?

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  17. Hi Captain Ji,

    Why has this come to pass???? -

    DC Special: Kerala is India's divorce capital
    http://archives.deccanchronicle.com/130403/news-current-affairs/article/dc-special-kerala-indias-divorce-capital

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    1. hi v

      HINDUS IS KERALA ARE NOW A MINORITY

      WE HAVE CHRISTIANS / MUSLIMS AND COMMIE ATHEISTS MORE.

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  18. Hi Guruji,
    As I told you earlier My wife has put 498A and the case has just started.I got bail and the chargesheet will be filed by next month.My life,job,personal feeling everything has shattered and feeling very hopeless sometimes. Could you write a article on how to fight 498a cases . What is your personal suggestion to me .
    Please give your suggestion.

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    1. hi j

      file for divorce

      get rid of this woman from your life

      start a fresh life

      judges are now aware of false 498 a cases--

      she has to produce evidence--

      from where is she gonna get it ?

      capt ajit vadakayil
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    2. Guruji,
      Its NOT easy to file divorce and get it as she will claim that because I want divorce I was torturing her.I agree she is a BITCH. I have 2 half girl kid which she has taken. I have to fight in JFMC court first .Long battle ahead.Putting 498A on husband has become a tool to extract money .WCD is working for these kind of fake law.this is my 6th year of marriage.Waiting for some kind of miracle.
      Thnaks
      J

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  19. Sir there's one doubt that when marriages in Maharashtra we throw rice (Akshada called in marathi) on Wedding couple while Pandits reciting mantras..is it right ritual??if yes then what is the iimportance of throwing rice??

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    1. FOR MY ELDER SONs WEDDING --BEFORE THE WEDDING CEREMONY --EVERY IMPORTANT RELATIVE AND WELLSWISHER SPRINKLED UNBROKEN RICE ON HIS HEAD

      AFTER THE WEDDING SAME IS DONE ON THE COUPLE AS SOON AS THEY ENTER THE HOUSE

      Showering Akshata on the bridal couple is associated with fertility. Rice is a symbol of fertility.

      When akshata is offered to them, benevolent energy and vibrations develop in the akshata.

      COUPLE OF DAYS AGO WHEN I DID SHRADDH FOR MY MOTHER ( INSIDE THE HOME ) I SPRINKED AKSHATA RICE ON THE LAMP AND FOOD OFFERED .

      AKSHATA ( UNBROKEN RICE ) IS THE FINEST OFFERING IN SANATANA DHARMA

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    2. Thanks Sir for clearing my doubt....and sorry i mispronounce the word(Yes it is Akshata).i got a post message in Whatsapp in the Name of from Nana patekar's blog said that don't throw and waste Akshata in weddings ceremoney's by throwing on couples and donate same for hungry peoples and instead "throw Flowers on wedded couples"..will it have any effect??

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    3. Is throwing Flowers really makes any sense??

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  20. a relaxing instrumental - https://disk.yandex.com/d/qTEs3SH6xhePV

    justice is done with a good quality headphone

    courtesy: from 01:28 to 09:28 of https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-6B2zyoFsI

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  21. Namaste Ajith Garu, here is good news to share with you, my engagement got fixed. It's on 9th Dec'16. There is perfect match between mine and girl's birth kundali and stars. My pandit also told with my amma garu that post marriage my career will moves up, plenty prosperity with presence of this girl. Guru garu, want your blessings and my humble request to share few lines - how one should perform engagement as per Hindu dharma, please. In fact, I searched for it.. instead I found above subject. So, iam posting from this comments section. Thanks

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    1. JAGADISH

      I AM NOT A GURU

      I AM A RETIRED SHIP CAPTAIN WHOSE BEER IS RUNNING OUT -- BECAUSE ROTHSCHILDs APCO BRANDED MODI HAS CHOOTS TO ADVISE HIM...

      ANY WAYS--

      YOU HAVE MY BLESSINGS-- SHRESTHAM PUTRAM LABASWAHAH

      MARRIAGE IS A COMPROMISE -- DROP YOUR EGO ON DAY ONE

      GIVE LOVE AND GET LOVE IN RETURN

      HARMONY AT HOME IS THE THE GREATEST GIFT

      DO NOT DO ANYTHING WHICH CAUSES YOUR WIFE TO LOSE RESPECT

      http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/05/marriage-sans-fights-capt-ajit.html

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  22. Capt. Ajit Vadakayil
    December 16, 2016 at 8:26 PM
    http://indianexpress.com/article/sports/badminton/pv-sindhu-beats-carolina-marin-in-straight-games-at-bwf-world-super-series-final-4430713/

    SUPER SINDHU KEE JAI...

    IMAGINE THAT EGO LADEN FEMALE ""DEEPA MALIK " ( RIO PARALYMPICS SHOTPUT SILVER ) WANTS TO BE TREATED SAME SAME AS DIPA KARMAKAR.

    FOR ME DIPA KARMAKAR IS INDIAs DARLING NO 1 ATHLETE.

    THIS GIRL FULL OF HUMILITY MADE US INDIANS BELIEVE IN OURSELVES .

    NOBODY CAN TAKE THIS AWAY FROM HER..

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UyNxHWc4rPM

    BALLS TO "SPEACIALLY ABLED " DEEPA MALIK WHO WANTS EGO MASSAGE GHADI GHADI--AND GOES TO TOWN WITH ENDLESS SELF PRAISE

    WE DONT MIND WHEN HERO USAIN BOLT BOASTS. HE IS WORTH IT...

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    rajesh maurya
    December 17, 2016 at 4:50 PM

    Capt Shri,

    Deepa malik has too much superiority syndrom like many army wives have. Without substance they just hung on falthu authority and try to claim superiority. Pathetic

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    Capt. Ajit Vadakayil
    December 17, 2016 at 7:57 PM

    AS SOON AS SHE WON THE RIO PARALYMPICS SHOT PUT SILVER , SHE HAD HER DAUGHTER ON TV, STATING THAT HER MOTHER WANTS TO START A SPORTS ACADEMY.

    I WAS WATCHING THIS WITH MY WIFE

    I TOLD MY WIFE " THIS IS AS STUPID AS A MANDHA BUDDIs SON , WHO WON MATH OLYMPIAD ( GOT THE CLOSEST ANSWER 2+2=5 ) STATING ON TV THAT HIS FATHER WANTS TO START A MATH ACADEMY -- SO GOVT OF INDIA-- PLEASE DONATE 100 ACRES LAND"

    SHE WAS NOT HAPPY TO HEAR THIS ANALOGY. SHE IS MORE POLITICALLY CORRECT THAN ME.

    AT EVERY SINGLE OPPORTUNITY DEEPA MALIK LAYS IT HAJAAAAR THICK.

    QUINTESSENTIAL PNJAAAABI ARMY WIFE --WHO DREAMS OF KNEDAAA ..

    IT ALL ABOUT HERSELF AND HER HUMONGOUS "SPIRIT " WHICH COULD GIVE CHE GUEVARA A INFERIORITY COMPLEX --IN HIS GRAVE

    ONE OR TWICE IT IS OK-- BUT YOU CANT HAVE THIS SHIT EVERY SINGLE DAY.

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/12/spirit-and-che-guevara-capt-ajit.html

    I DARE THIS WOMAN DEEPA MALIK TO HAVE A SHOTPUT COMPETITION WITH MY WIFE .

    WHEN A SPECIAL OR NONSPECIAL WOMAN SITS ON A WHEEL CHAIR, THE EQUATION IS THE SAME. PLAYING FIELD GETS LEVELLED.

    once myself and my wife was armtwisted by my elder son's school headmaster , to come for the sports day--

    --according to this muslim headmaster, my wife was the most respected and worthy parent .

    so i was around doing the medical bit ( i am certified as a ship captain ) ... all attractive school girls over the age of 15 developed some medical problem or other .

    the cardiologist ( my elder son's class mate's father ) with me said "ajit, they are faking it-- they just want attention, --we in the medical profession know what this type of malingering is -- just play along -let it be "

    anyway time came for mother parents sports event.

    female teachers arm twisted my wife to participate in shot put.

    so she gave my two year old younger son to me.

    he was a heavy child.

    today he is 126 kg--the strongest in the gym, -- brute strength--yet very soft hearted , without ego.

    anyways to cut a long story short--my wife threw the shot- almost 4 times further than the 2nd placed mother.

    ALL STARTED LAUGHING -- EVEN MY WIFE STARTED LAUGHING .

    IT WAS SO GODDAMN FUNNY. A THIN FRAIL WOMAN , SO STRONG.. AND THEY ALL LOOKED AT MY HUGE 2 YEAR OLD BABY GLARING AT THEM.

    EVERYBODY AROUND CAME RUSHING TO FIND OUT WHY ALL ARE LAUGHING LOUDLY -- AND THEY ALSO STARTED LAUGHING

    my wife's shoulders were strong --carrying a heavy baby.

    my wife can kick anybody's ass. she won first prize on my ship among young sailors for the high kick .

    THAT TIME TOO ALL STARTED LAUGHING LOUDLY.

    check out the picture of my wife kicking high-- last photo

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2012/06/equator-crossing-ceremony-at-sea-capt.html

    capt ajit vadakayil
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  23. Abcindiagogo
    February 23, 2017 at 11:21 AM

    Captain,

    Patton movie is being telecast right now on Star Movies Select HD.

    The actor is very good !

    And, his "balls of steel" and "don't give a damn" attitude reminded me of you !

    If we have leaders like this, loyalty of people will skyrocket !

    Imagine, if an actor can pull this off in such a consistent manner, inspiring loyalty amongst the movie watching audience,

    Then, it is no wonder that you were, are and will be the most popular Captain ever !!!

    Strict in disciple and other matters but still loved by all !!!

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    Capt. Ajit Vadakayil
    February 23, 2017 at 11:58 AM

    hi a,

    DEEP INSIDE PEOPLE LOVE A STRONG LEADER WHO ENFORCES DISCIPLINE

    THE TRICK IS NOT TO SHOW PARTIALITY

    YET --I GAVE MY OFFICERS "PRIVELAGE OF THE POST"

    AT THE END OF THE MONTH OFFICERS AND CREW LINE UP OUTSIDE MY CABIN TO SIGN THEIR SALARY SHEETS AND PORTAGE BILL

    NO CREW MEMBER DARES TO COME INTO MY CABIN AHEAD OF EVEN THE JUNIOR MOST OFFICER

    IT IS A RECORD I MAINTAINED-- I ALLOW ONLY 20 SECONDS FOR A CREW MEMBER OR OFFICER TO COME IN TO MY CABIN, SIT DOWN BY MY SIDE, SIGN TWO SHEETS ( CREW HAS TO SIGN OVER TIME SHEETS TOO )--

    TAKE A TOKEN PRESENT LIKE A MACKINTOSH QUALITY STREET CHOCOLATE FROM ME- AND BUZZ OFF WITH HIS SALARY SHEET

    I TIME THIS - THIRD MATE IS IN CHARGE OF PHYSICAL MOVEMENTS -I JUST SIT THERE

    I DONT USE COMPANIES SOFTWARE --I USE MINE

    EVERY COMPANY OBJECTED-- I TOLD THEM FUCK OFF .. BECAUSE MY SOFTWARE WAS SUPERIOR ..

    AT SEA NOBODY LIKE A WEAK CAPTAIN-- A SHIT ASS DRIPPING CUNT ...

    THEY LOVE A STRONGMAN WHO PROVIDES A ROOF -- WHO KICKS ASS --WHO MAKES SURE THEY WILL REACH HOME SAFE WITH THEIR HARD EARNED MONEY ..

    I HAVE NEVER BEEN MEAN -- ALL KNOW THAT

    IF SOME SAILOR SCREWS IT UP AND I DONT PUNISH HIM ON THE SPOT--HE WILL FALL SICK

    THEY LOVE MY PUNISHEMNT AND GO BACK TO THEIR CABINS --WITH A SONG ON THEIR LIPS

    WHEN YOU CAN DO THIS-- YOU HAVE ARRIVED AS A LEADER WITH SPIRIT.

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/11/blue-ocean-leadership-capt-ajit.html

    IF YOU ASK SAILORS WHO KNOW ME OR HEARD OF CAPT VADAKAYIL--THEY WILL TELL YOU, THERE HAS NEVER BEEN A CAPTAIN AT SEA WHO BLED SAILORS ( WHO DESERVED TO BE BLED )

    I WAS A MENTOR AT SEA —NOT A MERE LEADER . .

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/12/mentoring-at-sea-capt-ajit-vadakayil.html

    capt ajit vadakayil
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  24. hi ajit,
    Me and some of my family members have become avid readers of your blog and it is both fascinating and enlightening to read your own anecdotes. My cousin sister who reads your blog considers you no less than a brother herself.
    Anyway since you are enjoying the fruits of a happy marriage i wanted to ask you and hoped you would help me in finding the right groom for my sister or at the very least point me in some direction. We have been trying to find the right alliance for nigh on 4 years now and she is 28. As far as personality is concerned, she is quite strong willed to the point of being a hardline feminist and wants an alpha male as her groom, frequently bemoaning the fact that men nowdays just don't cut it in the arranged marriage market. She belongs to dhanur rasi and is going through sadesati currently. A satisfactory alliance from both abroad and within India has not yet presented itself because apparently many of the boy's families have too much of demands from wanting working wives, dowry, bearing the full brunt of marriage expenses and having to live with the in-laws etc and hence is of the opinion that a career minded woman doesn't and shouldn't settle down to start a family. What advice can you give her and what kind of a groom should we look for since you yourself got your son married off not too long ago? Thanks.

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    1. YOU MUST KNOW THAT AGE IN NOT ON HER SIDE

      SHE MUST GO FOR A MAN WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF HER LIKE GOLD --

      LOOKS DO NOT MATTER MUCH --THE ONLY CONDITION BEING THAT SHE SHOULD NOT BE ASHAMED OF GOING WITH HER HUSBAND TO MEET HER FRIENDS ( THIS IS A PERSONAL THING )

      I HAVE ASKED SEVERAL GORGEOUS WOMEN WHY THEY SETTLED TO MARRY AN ASSHOLE

      ALL GAVE THE SAME REASON-- MOST WOMEN ARE FRANK WITH ME --I DONT KNOW WHY

      REASON: SET THE BAR TOO HIGH BETWEEN THE AGES OF 20 TO 28.

      ONE THEY SEE ALL THEIR FRIENDS AND PEERS HAPPILY MARRIED AND HAVING KIDS -- DESPERATION SETS IN --AND THEY LOWER THEIR STANDARDS --

      BUT IT IS A BIT TOO LATE , AS VERY FEW MEN WANT TO MARRY A GIRL OVER THE AGE OF 30 --WHOSE YAUVAN IS IN TATTERS

      WOULD I HAVE MARRIED MIDDLE AGED AISHWARYA RAI --WHEN SHE FINALLY MARRIED ?

      NO WAY !

      MY WIFE IS A HOUSE WIFE -- SHE COOKS FOR ME --SHE TAUGHT HER CHILDREN --SHE SACRIFICED

      MY GROWN UP SONS LOVE HER --AS THEY KNOW HOW MUCH SHE HAS SACRIFICED

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    2. women are frank with you caus u don't gossip what they reveal.

      it is different when you reveal things to enlighten people.

      plus must be a good listener and non judging.

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  25. Loved your post. That pic of yours with the 'nostrils dilated' caption had me laughing to bits. But really... Are career women in your opinion not worthy of love? Don't they sacrifice as much? Specially when it's not a choice?

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  26. Vandematram Vandematram x2

    " use your anger to boost your performance..."

    "Manage your anger to make India great and strong.."
    Google search "Anger management vadakayil"

    For those interested in martial arts: Google search "Kalaripayattu deadliest vadakayil"

    World secrets truths vadakayil
    Health vadakayil
    Hairfall vadakayil
    Wealth vadakayil
    Success Vadakayil
    Ultimate weapon vadakayil

    "_____________+vadakayil"
    Fill up the blank with any word you want

    Reservation unemployment vadakayil
    Happiness management vadakayil
    Best marriage sans fight vadakayil

    Love motherland Vadakayi
    Shifuji is Lion Vadakayil

    I care for my Bharat. Its safety, security, progress, its True children"
    I don't even want to spread these powerful knowledge which you hardly find at once place or anywhere. But my fellow patriots need some
    weapons,
    weapon like resolution of chanakya,
    weapon like will of Maharana Pratap,
    weapon like words of krishna in gita,
    weapon like pride in being an Indian,
    Weapon like peace of vedic sanskriti

    Jai hind Jai bharat




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  27. lol ....... "Very soon i could see 11 envious ladies cajoling their husbands to be more romantic ( like me ) and row serenade them , instead of forcing them to use their delicate leg power."

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  28. ROFL ...... "All 11 grooms gave me dirty looks, for spoiling their party -- Their brides were giving me side glances of admiration.
    "

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  29. no one seeing the above picture ll say ------"Below : This picture was taken immediately after the lake rowing incident- my nostrils are dilated and I am sweating and breathing hard -
    "

    i need to develop good stamina ..... everything is taken care of.

    you have still not spoken on venous leak?

    is copper the solution ?

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  30. SOMEBODY CALLED ME AND SAID

    IF YOU MATCHED 500 HOROSCOPES FOR YOUR ELDER SONs MARRIAGE

    THEN YOU CANNOT BE THE BEST WRITER ON THE PLANET AND YOUR ELDER SON CANNOT BE THE BEST CODER ON THIS PLANET.

    SO SO SO

    WE ARE HEATHEN SAVAGES , RIGHT?

    I WILL NOW GIVE A PEEK INTO THE GLORY OF SANATANA DHARMA AND ANCIENT INDIA
    BURY A CONCH DEEP IN VEDIC RICE

    BOTH THE CONCH ( SHANKH ) AND THE RICE WILL FOLLOW THE GOLDEN MEAN ( LIKE THE VEDAS )

    THE CONCH WILL RISE BY ITSELF BY MERE SILENCE--THIS IS DIVINE RESURRECTION

    IF YOU RECITE VEDAS IN THE RIGHT MANNER -- THE CONCH WILL POP UP INSTANTLY

    SURPRISED ?

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2016/12/108-numerical-equivalent-of-hindu-king.html

    WELL THIS IS A PEEK INTO WHAT I WOULD HAVE REVEALED BETWEEN 97% TO 100%

    RIGHT NOW MY REVELATIONS ARE AT 51.60%--AND PROBABLY I HAVE STOPPED BLOGGING..

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2013/03/secrets-of-shankh-or-conch-product-of.html

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2015/09/gm-ir8-rice-high-amylose-content.html

    SRUTIS OF VEDAS FOLLOW THE GOLDEN MEAN, THE FIBONACCI SERIES AND PASCALS TRIANGLE--ALL DIVINE LAWS

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2017/04/sanatana-dharma-hinduism-exhumed-and_71.html

    WE DONT NEED TO LEARN HINDUISM FROM WENDY DONIGER, SHELDON POLLOCK, BR AMBEDHAR, EVR PERIYAR, UR ANANTHAMURTHY, DHABHOLKAR , PANSARE, KALBURGI, GAURI LANKESH , LITERARY FEST DROHIS, JNU COMMIES, BENAMI MEDIA AND ALL SUCH CHAFF

    WE KNOW WHO WE ARE

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    Capt. Ajit Vadakayil
    September 19, 2017 at 9:07 PM

    LONG AGO I HAD POSTED ABOUT REIKI-- STATING THAT IT IS COPIED FROM VEDANTA

    I WAS RIDICULED

    I AM NOT IN THE HABIT OF GIVING PROOF AND SOURCES

    IF YOU DONT BELEIVE ME "FUCK OFF" HAS BEEN MY ATTITUDE

    I DID MY REIKI SECOND DEGREE INITIATION A WEEK AGO.

    THE FIRST DIAGRAM TO DRAW IS CHO KU RE

    THIS COIL MUST ESSENTIALLY BE THREE AND A HALF--OR IT IS WRONG

    THE KUNDALINI SERPENT IS THREE AND A HALF COILS

    THE INNER EAR COCHLEA IS THREE AND A HALF COILS

    CUNTS WONT UNDERSTAND ALL THIS

    Kundalini is the subtlest of vibrations that generate consciousness in human self.

    While the cochlea is the grosser form of the coiled energy, Kundalini is the subtler form

    The cochlea spiral passage resonates to 7.83 hertz ( OM frequency and also earth's heart beat )

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2016/12/108-numerical-equivalent-of-hindu-king.html

    BALLS TO ALL THE CUNTS WHO CALL SANATANA DHARMA A HEATHEN RELIGION TEEMING WITH SUPERSTITIONS

    NOW YOU KNOW WHY I DONT CARE TO GIVE PROOFS

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2011/08/reiki-capt-ajit-vadakayil.html

    The Reiki power symbol CHO KU RE works as a “switch” that helps to instantly increase Reiki practitioner’s ability to channel the PRANA energies--only if the coil is three and a half.

    my revelations now jump to 51.65 %

    capt ajit vadakayil
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  31. Adriano KruschinskiOctober 3, 2017 at 9:29 AM
    Hello iam from Germany big fan of yours

    i wanted to know Why Asian girls are so much feminine ?? is it because of high estrogen diet ??

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    Capt. Ajit VadakayilOctober 3, 2017 at 10:05 AM
    WHEN I MARRIED --MY WIFE WAS A VIRGIN

    WHEN MY ELDER SON MARRIED , HIS WIFE WAS A VIRGIN

    WE DO BACKGROUND RESEARCH ..THIS IS THE JOB OF THE PARENTS .

    99 % OF WESTERN GIRLS ( WHO ARE NOT LESBIANS ) START HAVING SEX AS SOON AS THEY HAVE THEIR FIRST MENSES--I KNOW

    I KNOW MORE ABOUT ST PAULI STREET AND REEPERBHAN WHOREHOUSES AND SEX SHOWS THAN YOU WILL EVER KNOW AS A GERMAN

    THE MOST POWERFUL CHARM OF A GIRLs BEAUTY IS HER ABILITY TO BLUSH , HER GRACE , HER DOCILITY

    IN MY WIFEs ANCESTRAL HOME GIRLS WERE NOT EXPECTED TO TALK TOO LOUDLY. THIS IS OUR CULTURE.. WE GO FOR ARRANGED MARRIAGES.

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/05/marriage-sans-fights-capt-ajit.html

    WHITE MEN COME TO INDIA AS TOURISTS , THEY JUST SIT IN PARKS, BEACHES ETC --AND WATCH INDIAN FAMILIES.

    THEY SEE HOW THE WIFE IS LITERALLY LIKE MOTHER HEN TAKING CARE OF HER BROOD -- SHE IS NOT TRYING TO SHOW OFF HER PRIVATE PARTS TO OTHER MEN.

    IF A WOMAN IS NOT FEMININE --WHAT IS HE WORTH ?

    femininity is the ultimate form of a woman's sophistication. she does not do oneupmanship with her man. she will never force her man to eat CROW.

    WHEN A MARRIED WOMAN DRESSES UP TO ATTRACT OTHER MEN --WHAT IS SHE WORTH ?

    MY WIFE TAKES ALL MAJOR DECISIONS -- I DO NOT KEEP A RUPEE IN MY PURSE --SHE IS MY FINANCE MINISTER --I DO ALL THE EARNING , THOUGH

    UNLIKE JAPANESE WOMEN --INDIAN WOMEN WILL SLAP A PERVERT IF HE TRIES TO GROPE HER IN A CROWD

    INDIA HAS THE LEAST DIVORCES ON THIS PLANET "BY PERCENTAGE "


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  32. sir,
    We have seen a groom for my sister, who is almost 27 now. Their kundali matches between 65-70%. My sister has khumba and shatabisha nakshatra and the boy has vrushaba and rohini nakshatra. According to astrologer the boy has some dosha which can be eliminated by performing pooja. The boy's family seems good and they are quiet religious but they dont believe in horoscope matching. Should we go forward and get them married? And also their ganas are opposite, my sister has rakshasa gana and boy has manushya gana. Captain we are really confused, should we go forward and also she is running out of age.

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  33. Hi captain...I sincerely love a girl who's elder to me by 2 yrs...but we don't feel the difference..whats ur take on it? Is it ok to marry an elder girl?

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  34. Hi Captain sir. I have got a proposal for a bride. My father's mother and her father's father are brother and sister (We share the same great grandparents). However we both have different gothras and our horoscopes have matched well. Kindly advice captain sir, if we can proceed further. Thanks a lot for this :)
    I like the girl because she talks a lot about doing yoga and also helping her mother, which I rarely see anywhere nowadays.Kindly advice captain if the marriage will be suitable according to our Hindu traditions.

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    1. Thank you so much captain sir :D :D
      I know we are not supposed to communicate personally with you captain sir. I will tell okay to my parents here. Hopefully we will print wedding invitations soon captain sir.
      I hope to send you the first invitation. I will post in this same blogpost captain sir :) If i can get address, I will post it to your home and it will be very discreet :D But I can understand if you cannot give me adress captain sir.
      Myy first invitation will be to you captain sir :)
      Thank You so much sir :)

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    2. Captain Sir Please delete this message after reading.

      Hi Captain sir,
      This marriage did not work. The girl did not want to proceed. I thought we were very good for each other and I had already constructed a lot of dreams but for some reason the girl rejected. I was feeling very depressed and so I was not very active for the last 3 weeks. I hope I can meet someone compatible soon and get married because my parents are getting very worried.

      Thank You for all your blessings and wisdom Captain Sir.

      Kindly acknowledge that you have read this message. It will mean a lot to me and my family.

      Thank You Dear Captain Sir

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  35. You should keep searching for a very nice guy for suman ji , caption....she is so lucky to have you... Her sacrifice is equally big relative to the love you are giving her... I require more than bold brutal courage to did what she is doing... It requires a very unique sense of class ...

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  36. Capt, when I said I can live in my wife's shadow I didn't mean I will live off her. I mean I have nothing to achieve in life or show myself to the world. I like remaining in the background.

    I have many underutilized skills. For two years I ran a tuition center alone where I taught up to the Entrance level Physics, Chemistry and Maths alone. Two of my students got through. One of my 10th Std students is a ship captain today (when I last met him a year ago). I was renowned Maths teacher.

    Then later in Bangalore I gave home tuition for Engineering Maths Semester I, II and III. I turned around a boy who had back papers in Maths and made him proficient in couple of months. His had mother remarked Lord Krishna came down to save my son. He was a very good guitarist and played me a few good numbers.

    For my money I do web designing using Wordpress. Earlier it was Joomla and sometimes Drupal. But I find I like Wordpress very much. My programming skills (C/C++) are all sawed off. I could never really stick to anything. Even in web designing if I have enough money I am loathe to take up new projects and just want to tour around and have a good time. When money runs out again I am off hunting for new work.

    For 10-12 years I lived off my Credit card paying my dues very diligently every month. Last 6 months and I went downhill. Some months I paid up to 1.25 lakhs and average for last 1-2 years was 50 to 60 thousand. But I am not out yet. I am planning my way back. My Creator has been too good to me all along. But financially, I have lived on an edge. Saving was never part of my game.

    So never did I mean I would live off her. I meant I would be willingly very subdued in my disposition.

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  37. One of the few things I dream of doing with my wife (if I ever marry) is drive her around Kerala to the remotest and least visited places in Kerala. And visit as many temples as possible in South India. But everything looks like a pipe dream as of now. My mind ebbs and surges like a roller coaster. Sometimes high and then low. I have no idea what plans my Creator has for me.

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  38. This way
    We won’t let the other sleep
    Astral projection deep
    Quivering lips
    Palpitating all over
    Certain signals relayed
    And acknowledged
    To keep things going
    Two souls
    Stretching the limits
    Of two bodies apart
    A meeting only at the altar
    Of the sacred fire
    For a new beginning
    Of zero index and zero love
    Up only the graph can go

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  39. Signals over astral
    True or not
    But like never before
    never so far
    Lips are quivering
    Body in palpitation
    Around the sacred fire
    A meeting of souls
    First time ever
    An oath unto eternity
    Time dissolves
    Space contracts
    The fabric reveals
    The true source
    Always hidden
    of two souls
    as one
    diverging
    to meet again
    in an explosion
    the Big Bang

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  40. A POTENT NEW YEAR'S ODE

    Only in the form of a photo post. I deleted the poem I wrote just now. Only this:

    https://2018perception.blogspot.com/2021/12/just-trying-to-be-someone-on-new-years.html

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  41. What has this Story got to Do With Marriage?

    This is the story of a batsman. He loves to score shots of loose balls. He is an adept and has a wide array of strokes. But he has one shot that he plays to perfection. Bending down on the knees and playing the sweep shot to score a six.

    He likes bowlers who can bowls loose balls at him. He says it is just a friendly thing. But then he keeps hitting merciless sixes off every loose ball bowled at him.

    Just imagine the condition of the bowler after being hit for six consecutive sixes by a batsman who keeps saying it is friendly thing. The bowler would just go into a corner and sulk for days without bowling a single bowl again.

    Our batsman goes after other bowlers in the meantime. Those that would never get a hang of his thing and oblige him with loose balls. Some do. They either quit or smash his nose with a nasty bouncer.

    But this batsman of ours is adept at ducking. He ducks and escapes without getting hurt. He will never ask this bowler to bowl at him again.

    Meantime, our sulking bowler has got over the shocking blues and come out to bowl. There are other batsmen who would let this bowler bowl to the potential. It would be an even game. Very enjoyable. Very uplifting. And something to learn and take away for both after every over.

    Then here comes our batsman and queries about the whereabouts of our bowler in a very sympathetic tone and manner. There is a make believe distress in the eyes. "Where you been?" so asks the batsman, "I've been looking for you all along. Come let's play"

    Our bowler is taken for by the charm at display. And in no time there they are at it again.

    But the batsman, adept that he is, chooses to miss a few balls. It seems the absence of the bowler has made him loose his touch. The bowler feels very sorry for him.

    And sends in very loose balls. The batsman just about manages to defend. "Come on now," our bowler eggs him, "you can do better."

    The batsman then gets into his elements. He starts hitting sixes again. The bowler is afraid to raise the tempo lest it hurts the batsman.

    But the psychological whiplash of this grossly unfair and uneven game starts getting into the nerves of the bowler. The bowler starts to wreck.

    Very soon the bowler is back to the dark corner.

    This is a cyclic process and each time the bowler resolves to quit the game.

    Then comes the COACH, the best the planet has ever seen. The story takes an about turn. In no time, the bowler is back to the peak of skill and talent.

    The batsman is watching all this new development from a distance. His unstatiated ego is hurt.

    He devises and comes up with a new ruse... to be contd...

    PS: This story has everything to do with marriage. I only want to make my wife happy. In as simple a way as possible. As outlined by the Great Coach Himself.

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  42. I just want to marry my wife and get her into bed with me. I can't say I Love You to her because I haven't yet. Love is on the zero mark.

    Time has been kind to me. Time has always been on my side. That's why I quit wearing a watch almost 3 decades ago.

    Apart from driving around with her, I also want to take me wife back to her childhood, so she can relive it again - a bit differently - with me by her side. The Great Coach has already prepared her for it. So that memories from the depths of time become sweeter than ever before.

    At the moment my brain is frying.

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  43. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GRJXyn0od9g

    I love this song. One of my favorites. Never tire listening to it. I like the music very much, esp. at the end. The lyrics are not completely for me.

    So I changed them a bit:

    Yes, star-crossed in pleasure the stream flows on by
    Yes, as I'm sated in leisure, as I watch it fly, yes

    And time waits for no one, but it waits for me
    Time waits for no one, and it will wait for me

    Time can tear down a building or destroy anyone's face
    Hours are like diamonds, just play around with them

    Time waits for no one, no favours has he
    Time waits for no one, but it will wait for me

    Men, they build towers to their passing years, to their fame everlasting
    Here he comes chopping and reaping, hear him laugh at their cheating

    And time waits for no man, it will wait for me
    Yes, time waits for no one, but it will wait for me
    Drink in your summer, gather your corn
    The dreams of the night time will vanish by dawn

    Time waits for no one, it does wait for me
    And time waits for no one, but it waits on me

    No no no, it waits for me
    as ever always for me


    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GRJXyn0od9g

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  44. All I can say (to me and my wife) is to stop being melancholic and be dragged to the past that needs to be buried. Although it is the melancholia that attracts me. The Pathos in that face. The smile that hides a pain. Because it provides the scope for change - for something better.

    Time is on your side too. It is on everyone's side. Time is not a culprit.

    A photo post again:

    https://2018perception.blogspot.com/2022/01/stop-being-melancholic.html

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  45. I need you much more than you need me

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  46. One of the only things you ever wanted from life was: what you are thinking in your deepest thouughts right now - at this very moment. The signal to the Cosmos is clear and strong.

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  47. A Thought Train Progresses


    My brain

    It’s been a frying

    In its own juices

    It was the thought train

    Moving in only one direction

    To and fro

    Intensified

    By body triggers

    Heart pushing and egging on

    What’s the effect

    At the other end

    Never before so

    Pressing the third eye point

    Between the eye brow

    Surging images of the past

    To be dissolved and replaced

    New ones afresh

    A tingling sensation

    A oneness remains to be achieved

    It’s been so

    Increasingly fervent

    Ever since the first words to print

    A new beginning

    A new chapter

    That unfolded

    So my thoughts go

    To its final destination

    Thousands of miles

    It rode

    On surging waves

    To be understood

    Only by the one intended

    And the eye above that soars

    As the clouds clear

    The white mountains

    Behold

    An avalanche of blessings

    Descend

    From above

    The Mighty Preserver

    He smiles

    This Leela as it unfolds

    His Consort by his side

    Let it be

    Is whispered

    A Divine whisper

    All heavens hear

    Two souls in tandem

    Trying to bridge

    In an effort

    That shan’t go in vain

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  48. It is
    my only way
    of communication
    Otherwise a frying brain
    bursting at the seams
    and back into the womb
    of my Universal Mother
    I went
    Trying to find answers
    My only love to find
    waves upon waves
    I can't let go ever
    ever ever never
    hold on fast I will
    hold on tight I will
    for you are
    all that I seek
    every scene
    every image
    a melody to develop
    into a song
    of love and hope
    The astral high road apart
    This the only other way
    my only way
    to love, hope and fulfillment
    a dream to cherish forever

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  49. A miracle you are
    in my life
    you you you
    and only you
    it's not we met
    just a few days ago
    or weeks or months
    or even years
    aeons would be
    a safe guess
    In a time beyond time
    our thoughts now one
    it's the same
    here or there
    hearts to be one
    the same feelings true
    one source, one soul
    only bodies remain
    apart
    the final destination
    eyes only to meet
    before the beginning
    of the real journey
    from thereon

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  50. An Ode to me Wife

    It's a dream to cherish
    To Marry You
    Meet you face to face
    At the altar of fire
    Take all the vows
    Seven times around the sacred fire
    We walk, hand in hand
    It's still a dream
    That elevates the mind
    Fires up the cells
    An event it would
    Anywhere
    Before the Sanctum
    Of the Preserver Lord
    A life that seeks to begin
    Only after the rites of passage
    Then a world
    For you and for me
    In the moments of togetherness
    Of two beings
    So far apart
    Opposites in every way
    In nature and attitude
    The matter and anti-matter
    Fusing into one
    Into that nothingness
    From where it all began
    It's a dream for now
    Bound by Time
    Trying to break the fetters
    From the abstract to the real
    And now a secret to let out today
    I'm the Bee
    Collecting nectar for my Queen
    Making honey for all
    And I like to smell the flowers as I work
    Believing in magic and miracles
    I Love me Queen

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  51. About the Two Ends

    When one end
    Twangs with the other
    An emotion at one
    Immediately registered at the other
    Instantaneously
    One the transmitter
    The other the receiver
    and replicator
    So keep stable
    No matter what
    And look towards the bright ahead
    The dark is behind
    Way too behind
    If you are
    So am I
    Dream, dream on
    with passion and energy
    When the bee arrives
    filled with nectar
    The Queen receives, ready
    Lips still twitch
    Body palpitates
    But a dissonance
    Causes the heart to flutter
    Sensing something amiss
    A despair, never ever to be
    Because the Cosmos Wills
    it to be
    So I believe
    at my end of this synchronicity
    It'd be good to remember
    The Queen
    is the Bee's energy
    The very life purpose
    And the bee senses
    any agitation in the Queen
    any denial of Her self
    For this longing is just too deep

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  52. The Delete Button

    Whatever
    You do
    Whenever you do
    Should be fine
    By anyone who cares to know

    Even if it is someone
    You care about
    No need to take their trash in

    Just press delete
    And off it goes - flushed

    A powerful button
    Delete is
    The use of which
    You came to know
    Much later than usual

    The Cosmos
    Belongs to you
    Backs you to the hilt
    Is always around you

    And it wants you to use
    The Delete button
    More often than not
    The rest it takes care of

    It's your world now
    Shown by the power
    in the Universe
    That picked you up
    From among millions

    You are rarest of the rare
    Shining bright
    Shining from dizzying heights
    Lighting up the darkest corners

    Shine on,
    Shine on forever
    And the sky will never be gray again

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  53. It's a fact
    Yes, it's a fact
    Emotional fragrance
    Of two lives so deeply enmeshed
    It can't do without the other
    Can Time be a factor?
    Can Space be a factor?
    When one knows and yet one doesn't
    If the deep anguish experienced is of love
    Leading to an altered state
    A rescue is in order
    The surging emotions
    Leaving the mind in a disarray
    intermittent be that as it may
    A necessity nevertheless
    That the juice it flows on
    When the twains have not met yet
    The heart, it is that is weighed down
    By the intensity of it all
    An endurance called upon
    To work things out
    As slow and dull it may appear
    The day, we both should know,
    Isn't far off
    When this emotional knot is set loose
    Untangled and then
    once again entangled
    Never ever to be undone

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  54. A powerful entity
    That you are
    In my life
    I can't come
    Face to face
    Unless it is on the Altar of Fire
    Or at the least
    Before the book
    Of a registrar
    Pen in hand
    Ready to sign
    Until then
    You are in my dreams
    in the most intense of thoughts
    Connected only through the medium of the Aether
    Snug in the feeling
    That you feel for me
    As intensely as I do
    With only my Soul
    As a witness unto myself

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  55. I am your moon
    'cause I reflect your feelings and emotions
    You are my Sun
    'cause your light it is I shine with
    I am your lyrics
    And you are my tune

    The rhythm and the melody
    of our song synchronized
    In fluid togetherness
    Merging harmoniously
    Night changing to day
    and the day to night

    Time flows on by
    This dream, it transforms to reality
    And the butterflies are everywhere
    Dancing to the soft music of your love
    An intoxication
    That I feel this very moment
    Heart is light, the spirit is free
    And it seeks to fly

    All I can say
    My love, you have come for me
    From the Now and the Beyond
    On a path forged by Destiny

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  56. There is no goodbye in Love
    There is no Time in Love
    Love tunes the heart's yearning
    Love can pierce through the eyes
    And tug at the Soul beyond
    It's more than the candy in the baby's hands
    Love won't let go
    Now or ever
    Only space contracts
    And the merging is just the beginning

    Love is never lost
    The bridge yet to be crossed
    The yearning, it increases
    As I looks into your eyes
    Your lips cause a flutter
    The flowing hair intoxicates
    The more I see,
    The etching goes deep
    It's just more than the candy in the baby's hands

    Yes, there is pain, there is fear
    There is trepidation
    It is that what increases the urging
    Spurs me on

    I have dived into the depths of your soul
    I have seen all that I wanted to see
    Heard all that I wanted to hear
    Now I seek you
    To be mine
    Forever

    Like arrows I send
    My pangs of Love
    To pierce your heart
    Not to cause you pain
    Only to let you see mine

    And this is just
    The tip of the iceberg you see
    Only the smoke plumes
    Of a volcano
    The lava is still beneath

    So you see darling
    It's more than the candy in the baby's hands

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  57. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2gMhbWeo30o

    There is fear in my eyes
    But they are also full
    with tears of intoxication
    As I yearn to drink in your love
    Now there is no tomorrow
    And this night may never end
    As I sleep in my feelings of love

    This night is sweet and fragrant
    So is the beautiful moon above
    But you are the sweetest, my love
    And what could be sweeter than you
    Only your love, my love
    And you don't know it yet
    My eyes in fear, ever

    In Love only it is
    The happiness of life
    Even the pain of Love
    It gives happiness
    And sometimes
    This longing
    It may seem to ebb
    But your love it is
    That keeps me going
    And so tonight I sleep, my love
    in my feelings of love

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_DLXmzoaoE

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  58. Alone
    I've never felt lonely ever
    Until now.

    I need you.

    Your face
    every bit of it
    haunts.

    Chiseled to perfection
    Divine poetry in view

    My feelings
    No longer
    converts to words.

    I am drowned in your being.
    Totally immersed.

    Your love
    I fervently seek
    Like the bee
    That seeks the flower

    Your love is all I need
    Your caress. Your touch.

    Fathomless
    A depth beyond perception.

    Everywhere I see
    It is you
    And only you

    A transformation
    I know it not
    Where it all began

    It's that moment
    When the I become you

    There is nothing else in mind
    Today
    Whatever I do
    It's you
    Dispersed throughout my cells
    All over my being

    Dispositor of my soul energy
    In a lightning
    To be with you

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  59. The more I read about you
    The more I get involved
    As if my brain
    Getting sucked into an air pressure cabin

    Have never read anything like this before
    Someone so chillingly open about her own life

    After divorce will you marry me?

    I'm more than a couple of decades ahead
    But a chronic bachelor
    Who never took to marriage as such
    Not until now

    Your kinkiness surprises me
    But I think I can match it
    Level to level

    My Venus keeps my mind involved in women
    Saturn keeps it limited to one at a time
    Mars keeps it solid as long as it lasts
    Moon doesn't want to let go
    Jupiter promises a land and culture afar
    Mercury secures her intellect and depth
    The Sun gives her glory

    Ketu promises fun in the dark
    Rahu a virtual entry from illusion to reality

    It all points towards you

    All apart, it's my heart
    Now hell bent to acquire your love
    My mind like a straight arrow
    Taut and ready to go

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  60. Will you marry me?

    I am your shadow
    You can never keep me away

    If you're shining bright
    I'll only remain hidden

    Do you think you could marry me?

    You are much more than
    I can ever imagine

    I can no longer
    Hide my desire in poetry

    Marry you. Marry you. Marry you.
    This is the only sound
    I hear inside of my head

    It is my Soul voice
    Speaking to me
    Leading me on my Soul journey
    To be one with you
    In body, mind and spirit

    I love the light
    And the darkness too
    If your light enamors
    Then the darkness thrills me all the more

    I love everything
    I know about you
    The unknown excites me even more

    My journey, this pilgrimage
    Knows no other destination
    A culmination that I seek in you
    You are my intoxication

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  61. https://youtu.be/hpna91cR6ZU

    Since time eternal
    I've been awaiting your call
    Why don't you call me
    Call me, call me, my love

    My nights and my dreams
    They await you
    They are restless
    and so am I
    Why don't you call me, my love

    Quivering, my lips
    They carry your name
    From the deepest recesses of my heart
    Through all these restless nights
    It's plain in sight, my love
    I am in love with you
    So call me, for I'm awaiting
    Only for your call

    For now
    My heart
    It takes solace
    That at least our destinies have met
    Otherwise, in this darkness and solitude
    My nights are restless
    For you

    Always in waiting, always for you
    Call me, my love, call me

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  62. https://youtu.be/f1DZxkiMjRo

    These misty nights,
    as well as the dazy days
    and the lovely moon
    now rising in the sky
    continues to blaze
    the sparkling fire of yearning and longing
    the seasons are now sweet these days
    suggesting more sweetness to come
    but as of now I pass these sleepless nights
    Then I see your dark flowing hair
    with the dancing breeze around
    seeing your face emerge from the deep blue
    and then covered again in the mist that arise
    My heart is now suddenly restless
    Till you become mine
    Everything would be missing in life
    The fire will continue to burn
    Fanned by the moonlit rays and the starry nights
    My heart will continue to search for the dream
    By brightness of the day
    and by the darkness of the night
    My yearning for my beloved
    Never to subside
    by radiance or by the dullness
    fleeting by with changing seasons
    dazed autumns and misty winters
    by scorching suns nor the rains in torrents
    Now your blush has sparkled another fire
    And like the parched desert
    I yearn for a few drops of rain
    Will you not be mine, my beloved
    Be the someone to light up my life
    Fill me dreams with your blissful smile
    As the seasons pass and the moon continues to shine
    When finally, Time relents and stands still
    To catch a glimpse of our playful Love
    In your garden of Eternity

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