Sunday, May 5, 2013

PEER PRESSURE , JUMPING INTO THE BANDWAGON - CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL

THIRD WAVE RADICALIZATION , TO BE OR NOT TO BE COOL ,  CONFORMIST COWARDS,  CARRYING YOUR OWN LAMP ON YOUR OWN PATH -  CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL




Above picture- How cool is that?


Below is what US president Abraham Lincoln wrote to his son's teacher. 

He will have to learn, I know,
That all men are not just, all men are not true. 
But teach him also that for every scoundrel there is a hero
That for every selfish politician there is a dedicated leader 
Teach him for every enemy there is a friend
It will take time, I know
But teach him if you can that a dollar earned is of far more value than five found
Teach him to learn to lose and also to enjoy winning
Steer him away from envy if you can
Teach him the secret of quiet laughter 
Let him learn early that the bullies are the easiest to lick
Teach him if you can the wonder of books
But also give him quiet time to ponder the eternal mystery of birds in the sky
bees in the sun and the flowers on a green hillside
In the school teach him it is far honorable to fail than to cheat
Teach him to have faith in his own ideas even if everyone tells him they are wrong
Teach him to be gentle with gentle people And tough with the tough
Try to give my son the strength not to follow the crowd when everyone is getting on the band wagon
Teach him to listen to all men
But teach him also to filter all he hears on a screen of truth and take only the good that comes through
Teach him if you can how to laugh when he is sad
Teach him there is no shame in tears
Teach him to scoff at cynics and to beware of too much sweetness
Teach him to sell his brawn and brain to the highest bidders but never to put a price-tag on his heart and soul
Teach him to close his ears to a howling mob and to stand and fight if he thinks he’s right
Treat him gently but do not cuddle him
Because only the test of fire makes fine steel 
Let him have the courage to be impatient
Let him have the patience to be brave
Teach him always to have sublime faith in himself
Because only then he will have sublime faith in mankind
This is a big order but see what you can do
He is such a fine fellow
My son!

The two lines highlighted in RED is neglected by all teachers.  This post intends to educate these teachers (and parents too) what it means.


Below video- The wave.

The Third Wave was an experiment to demonstrate that even democratic societies are not immune to the appeal of fascism— only thing is that it was rigged in a US school by Jews .


A lot of people think that this event “the wave” was a real thing.   It was just a Jewish propaganda movie to show that the German people were hypnotized by Adolf Hitler to be servile to him , and that he was NOT a great mass leader at all . 

In such a bad situation ( for the Jews ) it was necessary to carve out the state of Israel, in Palestine right? That the “third wave” psychology involved in the originals Hitler’s youth movement is a sort of evil peer pressure.

Below video : Hitler and German youth.


MIM leader Asadullah Owaisi had made a “third wave radicalization of Muslim youth” call from the safety net of Lok Sabha.   He has NO idea that this movie about school children was a fake and rigged event.  


But it looks like he has done his homework, as pretty soon we have ugly Muslim riots in Mumbai, where they destroyed the Amar Jawan Jyoti memorial which NO desh bhakt will do. 



These are the people ( ex-Razakers ) our waitress turned empress calls secular.


Let us check out the psychology. 

The peer pressure effect is called "the identity shift effect". 

Your internal sate of harmony is  disrupted when faced with the threat of external conflict or social rejection , for failing to conform to a group standard.  

So you conform to the group standard,  but as soon as you do so, eliminating this external conflict, an internal conflict is introduced because you have violated your own standards and conscience.

To rid oneself of this internal conflict ( self-loathing ), an "identity shift" is undertaken, where one adopts the group's standards as one's own,  thereby eliminating internal conflict (in addition to the formerly eliminated external conflict), returning one once again to a state of harmony. How nice!

Even though the peer pressure process begins and ends with one in a state of nil conflict , as a result of conflict and the conflict resolution process, one leaves with a new identity, a new set of internalized standards.

Peer pressure is something we all go through in real life.  

If one man comes on bicyle for donation (chanda) for Durga Puja or some event  people will tell him to FO. But if the same man comes in a SUV with 10 more people , you will give them more that what you wanted to give or even afford to give.

If you have to make a donation for flood relief, you will not donate much.  But if your office says that the donation list will be put up on the canteen notice board, you will make sure that your name is among the top list of donors.  You have become most compassionate all of a sudden.


When you write a letter to an authority, to get something done, it will be ignored.  But if you CC and BCC the letter to several sister departments and to his boss , this letter will NOT be ignored.(There is a special piece about this , at the end of this post )

Today we see so many riots and rallies sponsored by foreign funded main stream media. They just make sure there are plenty of TV video cameras.  

People who have NOT cried when their own parents died , or even taken care of them in their old age,  are now shedding copious tears (for the camera ), for some unknown rape victim or some vague environment issue..

This is why on my ship, if there is a disaster I will NOT allow video cameras.  All have a job to do.  We don’t want mice pretending to be lions.  This is NOT the time to play to the gallery and earn brownie points or medals.

Making decisions on your own is hard enough, but when other people get involved and try to pressurise you one way or another it can be even harder.  People who are your age, like your classmates, are called peers.  

When they try to influence how you act, to get you to do something, it's called peer pressure.  It's something everyone has to deal with — even adults. 

Peers influence your life, even if you don't realize it, just by spending time with you. You learn from them. It's only human nature to listen to and learn from other people in your age group.

Mature people can resist peer pressure and he will NOT burn up from inside due to anxiety or make knee jerk reactions.  A mature person lives according to the dictates of his own higher intelligence, not by whims caused by internal or external pressure. 

He knows the difference between what he cannot change and what he can. He knows that there is good and bad in all people and in all things he will think in absolutes, and is able to be objective even when deeply stirred emotionally. He will not allow anybody , even his best friend to  covertly attempt to straitjacket him..  

A mature man has the capacity to endure uncertainty. He can communicate freely and understand the others point of view. No one can be a threat to him as he is the fountainhead of his own solutions. A mature man believes in himself and he is not dying or craving for the approval or gratitude of others. He will not let criticism or public opinion upset him. He will reject what others say— but in a logical manner. 

He will maintain his self respect— and respect others, who deserve his respect. A mature man knows the principles of dynamic risk assessment and can imagine the WCS ( worst case scenario ). 

When people talk about you behind your back, for swimming upstream, it confirms that you are important enough. Mature people can be themselves . They are good in listening to their own drummers. 

The reason this blog site exists is to make you listen to your own drummer , and NOT that of big brother.

Good parenting involves telling your children the meaning of peer pressure and showing them the ways to resist it.  I have two sons who do NOT get affected by peer pressure. Probably it is in their genes.

People who have sailed with a hard core captain by the name of Capt Ajit Vadakayil, will tell you that he is probably the last on the planet to succumb to peer pressure.


Let me narrate a true incident.

We were doing our revalidation courses for the Master Mariner’s Certificate of Competency. This meant staying at NIPM Chennai for 5 weeks.  There were 78 of us—all ship captains.  

( By the way , NIPM campus is a beautiful place on the sea shore, with swimming pool etc and you feel proud of being a part of it.  During the tsunami the swimming pool got filled with sea water.)

We reached the institution the previous day, and went to the mess for a meal.  I noticed that there were too many flies , as a sewer drain outside was opened up.

So I asked for the Canteen manager. While I did that there were 78 Captains watching me, as well as about 50 officer trainee employees from Mumbai port trust.

The female manager came —she was young , attractive and a divorcee.

I told her “ I will give you 48 hours to get rid of these flies.  I have not come here to get jaundice or typhoid.  All you need to do is to buy two UV fly electro-snappers .  If you don’t do that I will stop eating from this mess. And I also have a few suggestions regarding the food”.

She sat with me for a while and said she will take care of it, and went away.

Immediately the Mumbai port trust party came to me, and said “ Sir, we have been staying here for 2 months , and the food is so bad that we cant eat it.   We have all lost 5 kilos. Complaining has made NIL difference .  But as we can see she is afraid of you”

So I said “ Call her and tell her nicely and she will take care of it .  But you must know that she cannot run a loss making business .  You eat depending on the budget per head, you Mumbai port trust has negotiated ”


The next day I found that the fly smashers were running and there were NO flies on the table.  Rather I could hear the CRACK CRACK sound of the flies getting electrocuted and exploding from the kitchen.

And the suddenly comes the Mumbai port trust party.  They shoved a long scroll of paper in my face and requested me to sign it.  

I found that it was a written complaint, about the poor quality of food already signed by more than 100 souls, which included the sea captains .  Basically it was a daily onslaught of South Indian Sambhar, rasam, rice, idly,  dosa , uppma , all vegetarian stuff , which can get on the nerves of a North Indian .

I said “ I have never encouraged mass signature campaigns on my ship, and hence I will NOT sign it “

My room mate ( my senior and good friend ) had already signed it.

It so transpired that I was the only captain who refused to sign it , along with two Indian Navy ( battle ship ) captains.  The Indian Navy Captains were still in Naval service and signing means they would be court martialled.

So my room mate and friend piled on to me “ Ajit, you are the guy who started it all.  Now all have signed the complaint except you .  Everybody else is talking about you being the black sheep, and some are even saying that the attractive female manager has cast a spell on you ”

And then he refused to talk to me for 24 hours as a mark of protest- to show how much he was hurt by my behavior.

After ten days when the 78 Captains were sitting in the class room, the course head , a senior captain himself came in fuming and he said  “ Captain Ajit , and the two Naval Captains , please carry on . The rest must continue sitting “.

And then behind closed doors he blasted them .

He said  “If you have a problem with food , why have to not told me first ?  Why have you signed a mass signature document, with young Mumbai port trust trainees ,  on the first day itself, a copy of which has gone to the Mumbai Port trust Chairman ( IAS post ) and the ministry of Shipping?  Is this the level of your maturity and professionalism ?  If you want more chicken, fish etc all you got to do is to pay more and this can be discussed and arranged as part of the course fee ”

Needless to say all the 75 Captains apologized and felt like pieces of sh#t.

Later, when they came to the residential quarters I was sitting all alone in the lawn, with the Navy Captains.  
They all grinned and said “Ajit, you are the only smart guy. We just got our balls royally chewed up”.

I replied “ Jumping into the bandwagon, is NOT programmed into my DNA”


There is a subtle difference between “peer pressure” and “jumping into the band wagon”.

Jumping into the band wagon is when you join a growing movement in support of someone or something, in an opportunist way, when that movement is seen to have become successful.

Peer pressure is the outcome of the desire to conform to a group, by acting and doing things as everyone else.  They are forced to change their attitudes, values, or behaviors to conform to group norms.

Kids give in to peer pressure because they want to be liked, to fit in, or because they worry that other kids may make fun of them if they don't go along with the group.  

If your child finds that his friends are determined to do make him something risky, addictive or mean, he must be programmed to walk away, and NOT to rent space to anyone inside his head.

The idea that "everyone's cutting classes " or “doing drugs” or “making out with a gal” can influence some kids to leave their better judgment, or their common sense, behind. .  Some go along because they are curious to try something new that others are doing and having a great time.

It is tough to be the only one who says "no" to peer pressure, but you can do it.  Paying attention to your own values, feelings and beliefs about what is right and wrong can help you know the right thing to do.  

Inner strength and self-confidence can help you stand firm, walk away, and resist doing something when you know better.  It's great to have friends with values similar to yours who will back you up when you don't want to do something.

Parents must pay attention to the type of friends their children hang out with.  You've probably had a parent or teacher advise you to "choose your friends wisely." Peer pressure is a big reason why they say this.

Peer pressure can also have positive effects when people are pressured toward positive behavior, such as volunteering for saving the environment , excelling in academics or athletics, by their peers. You might admire a friend who has a good physique and this may encourage you to join a gym to work out.

If you choose friends who don't lie to their parents, then you probably won't do it either.  Try to help a friend who's having trouble resisting peer pressure and he will be your good friend later.


People who are low on confidence and those who tend to follow rather than lead are more likely to seek their peers' approval by giving in to a risky challenge or suggestion. Learn to feel comfortable saying "no." 

With good friends you should never have to offer an explanation or apology. But if you feel you need an excuse for, say, turning down a drink or smoke, think up a few lines you can use casually. You can always say, "No, thanks, I've got a gym competition  and I'm in training,"

A peer is someone in your own age group . Pressure is the feeling that you are being pushed toward making a certain choice—good or bad. Check out the differences between spoken and unspoken pressures. 

If someone is pressuring you to do anything that's not right or good for you, you have the right to resist. You have the right to say no, the right not to give a reason why, and the right to just walk away from a situation.  Being accepted by a stupid motley group should NOT be taken as the litmus test for  self-confidence .



Don’t be peer pressured into being less than you are. People willing to dilute themselves for the sake of others is one of the great tragedies of our time. When you do something it must be out of our clear choice and never because you got vacuumed in due to peer pressure . 

Peer pressure, is the worst form of excuse. If you give into peer pressure, you are a coward.  Never assume that you're on the right road just because it’s a well-beaten path.

Sages and hermits have no peer pressure. The stress of resisting unhealthy peer pressure can be buffered by good family relationships and a high self-esteem.  Sucumbing to conformity makes you hate yourself and lose peace with yourself.  

Our society is such that the people who walk on the beaten track throw stones at someone who is showing a new better road.  Thinking is a difficult thing.  The conventional view serves to protect people from the painful job of thinking



No price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.  Before you can break out of prison, you must first realize you're locked up.  If you don't control your mind, someone else will. The surest way to corrupt a child is to instruct him to hold in higher esteem those who think alike than those who think differently. Just because something is tradition doesn't make it right.




Children who follow useless fashions like having a ring on the eyebrow have succumbed to peer pressure.They did NOT have the strength of character to resist this ugly fashion. 70 percent of teens who smoke have friends who smoke or started smoking because of peer pressure.

Consider yourself a leader, and know that you have the potential to make a difference. Only dead fish swim with the stream, upside down.

Now about the YELLOW HIGH LIGHTED ITEM.


I have a nice incident to tell about CC and BCC of official letters.

29 years ago, I was the Captain of a huge tanker with a helipad at Bombay High.  This ship was Swedish made and my huge apartment had 5 rooms and 5 telephones, with a huge swimming pool sauna and a hobby room just outside and my wife loved it there..

We has extra accommodation like a hotel for any ONGC officers staying overnight. This accommodation was better than any 5 star hotel. The next morning  they would be ferried by helicopter ashore.

So I had my Chief Officer knocking on the door with a grim looking man in Safari suit.  Chief Officer said that the man has a complaint letter which he would give to the Captain directly, and he would NOT show him the contents. 

And then he whispered into my ear that half an hour ago someone had accidentally triggered off the fire alarm from the wheelhouse ( restricted entry ) , and it was this man. We were discharging cargo into a smaller tanker , which would take it to Chennai for discharge.

So I had a look at the letter.

It started off by a self introduction that he is one of the top fu#kin' cats of ONGC.

Then the latter went to a complaint mode, 8 items in all —that he was ignored—that in the dining room he was not allowed to sit on the captain’s table—that when he arrived on board there was nobody to receive him—that in his cabin the lights do not work BLAH BLAH.

This letter was CC and BCC to about 10 people —the head of ONGC, the head of Indian Oil Corporation, to the MD of my shipping company etc .

So I said “ The biggest problem is that the lights in your cabin does NOT work. Lead me to your room”

His cabin was dark and I put the lights on. All of them worked.

So he says “ Sir, I did not see the switch “ .  These were beautiful sunken switches meant for 7 star hotels.  

And I could see that he had got off his high horse pedestal by calling me Sir, instead of Captain this and Captain that.

I crossed the item with my pen and said “ Now let the solve your other 7 complaints.  I can kick your ass and send you away, for you are the c^nt who triggered off the fire alarm from a restricted area , causing me to suspend cargo work,  but let me be kind to you”.

By now this cocky man was perspiring heavily.  He says “ Sir, I pressed it by mistake”.

I said “ Even a 4 year old child will NOT do that , follow me to my cabin”.

In my cabin I asked him “ Here it says you were NOT received when you came on board”. It was impossible, as he came by crane and basket.


He says “ Yes, when the Captain of the daughter vessel came on board yesterday with his wife,  there were 10 people to receive him, including your Chief Officer and Duty officer.  I am a top ranking officer and only 2 people were there “

So I took him around on a conducted tour of my cabin.  See this bar stocked with the best liquor and wines—you don’t deserve that. See this nice garden – you don’t deserve that BLAH BLAH, and then I tore his letter and threw it on his face. 

I said “ Do your worst.  If I see you outside you cabin you are screwed.  For tomorrow’s breakfast before you leave my ship , I shall make sure that you are seated in the CENTROID of the mess room.  I don’t want a c^nt like you on my table.  And if I don’t see you sitting on the special table at the centroid of the mess, I will be telling your MD ( ONGC ) about the fire alarm, which caused a cargo work delay.

I knew the MD of ONGC and he was my personal friend , as he had enjoyed my hospitality thrice before on previous ships when he came on fact finding missions.

Poor guy, was sitting at the special DUNCE table  in the middle of the room, with my 18 officer cadets smirking at him- and a steward with a huge false moustache serving him , like how you would serve the British Queen..

Just to show that sometimes things can go badly out of script –and you can be called a C^NT , threatened to be kicked on the back side , and you can do nothing about it.


Grace and peace!




CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL
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35 comments:

  1. Hi Ajit,

    I sincerely hope that atleast a few get inspired by this post and start carving an identity for themselves rather than following the herd. It needs a bit of courage initially, ultimately one has to decide if they wish to be happy deep inside or enact their aura of happiness to impress society.

    Regards

    Aneesh

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  2. Good insight captain. I read complete blogpost in single go. Most of advice in this world are MANIPULATED as they are formulated to suit the comfort of adviser. Just like in bhagwat geeta Krishna said arjun,"Believe me else you will be destroyed. I am your true well wisher."

    Most of damage to society is done by people like mulayam singh yadav who would say LIE of all time that our biggest is China and not any other country (Pakistan).

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  3. Dear Captain,

    You are absolutely correct. Parents have high expectations from their children & they can't accept that their children are not on par with others. They don't know how shabby they make their children feel when comparing to others. They can't accept their children as they are & instead of working out their problems, they create even more problems for their children & this creates a lot of emotional disconnection for children from their parents & now we have a lot of broken families all over the world. I think that this post can help a lot of people who think that it is the best thing to do what others are doing. Thank you Caption for the post.

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  4. CaptainJi,

    Brilliant insight ! and true eye opener for the present world.
    I wish everyone read this post.

    -Mahesh


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  5. Greetings Captain!

    Excellent post! 3 cheers for the same:
    1st cheer: for posting the iconic Bruce Lee, who happens to be my biggest inspiration.
    2nd cheer: for posting amazing quotes, including Abraham Lincoln's letter.
    3rd cheer: for inspiring us through your actual experiences and reviving the latent courage that lies within all of us, albeit at times dormant - but never extinct !!!
    I have been suffering the last 2 years for succumbing to 'the others' expectation and now after having chosen to remove myself out of the misery, I feel satisfied with regaining my power to choose and manifest the life I wish to live.
    THANK YOU...
    Salutations! - Regards, Ratish

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  6. Dear captain
    The peer preasure is good way of knowing u r not a coward but this will never work in our corporate world. I decided to stick to a decision which is better for he company and what happene I became a victimof bad politics of management and got sacked. Its not taldnt that your upper management looks for but how well u r a boot licker is what matters.

    Jayan.

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  7. Good one Captain Sir,right up there.
    These days,one dubious form of peer pressure 25-45 year olds are getting enslaved in is about buying property, mostly around urban centers.
    With 20 year tenured EMIs,, and paying the already inflated rates three times over - it has been frenzied at least until 2013 began.

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  8. Dear Sir,

    Thanks for this wonderful post. It made me realize that i have been succumbed to peer pressure in my life, to be honest succumbed more than i resisted(yes i have resisted some of these which i felt were very wrong). But after reading this post, i for now will try my best until i can fully resist peer pressure.

    Thanks again Sir
    Best wishes and Regards
    Gautam

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  9. Hello Sir,

    Not signing an complaint letter with colleagues, do you think such kind of attitude is beneficial at every place.
    Staying away from group, will it ever be beneficial.

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    1. hi sunil,

      you can do that if your do NOT have a mind of your own.

      it all depends on who you are and what you are.

      may gang rapes happen this way-- so that you belong to your group.

      this post exactly answers your question-- so read it again.

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  10. Change.org, Greenpeace.org, Action aid Asia etc etc....Trying to make us jump into the Bandwagon to Eradicate poverty in India, stop Coal mines....
    I got about ten calls from such org's and i asked them for the source where they got my number from normally they said it was given by the management when I asked to point to a person the call was put off saying sorry and thank you.....the calls were from Bangalore........!!!
    Stooges trying to use us and prevent our own developments and Good things in our country...!!

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    1. hi sumesh,

      green peace has been trying to scuttle our kudankulam nuclear plant.

      yesterday a green peace indian woman came on a NDTV debate .

      she said that her NGO is NOT funded from abroad and only from indian money.

      she claimed 75000 indians were regular contributors to indian greenpeace .

      the other panelist member told her bluntly "DONT TELL LIES!!".

      for all you know sumesh , you might be a member who made a financial contribution in their fake account book.

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  11. Dear Captain

    ^green peace has been trying to scuttle our kudankulam nuclear plant^
    In Tamil there is a saying ^Panam pathalam varai payoom^, How do you say this in Malayalam?

    While I understood a lot from your posts, Why alternate routes like, Solar, Wind are not given full potential? A post may be worth ?
    Thanks

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    1. hi mudaliar,

      the future lies in HYDROGEN.

      this reminds me , i have to write about why thousands of japanese committed suicide by inhaling hydrogen sulphide too in 2008, 2009 --all hushed up.

      the planet must know why they did that.

      i will post on it soon.

      meanwhile you can read AGNIHOTRA VADAKAYIL

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  12. Sir,

    In many of your posts you have mentioned that write ups about Rothschild get snooped and deleted at regular intervals. Well, yesterday I saw one such example, with my own eyes. There was an article in Firstpost on Amartya Sen and his misplaced support for Food Security Bill, by it's Chief Editor Mr. Jagannathan ( a fine writer!)

    In the comments section, one person had mentioned that Sen has married into the "R" family and his wife is a descendant of the world's wealthiest and most powerful family. There was some detail in the comment about how they have controlled the world's politics for 400 years now!!

    After 10 minutes, when I again went to see the article, the comment was gone, deleted!!! Poof!!!

    I could only think of you at that time Sir!!

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    1. I too saw same things on TOI !!!!!!!!

      The R word is something like name of Voldemort in Harry Potter Story. Nobody utters it.

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  13. Dear Captain
    Under what circumstances we cannot post for approval? After switching PC to Laptop this message is going for approval, why?
    Regards

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  14. Dear Captain

    I do read all the posts ,sometimes more than once .Conversations are indeed superb.Today I failed more than one post to publish for your approval, reasons not clear.

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  15. Capt.
    I don't believe in these NGOs. On the first place why have these NGOs. Instead work towards solving the core issue which will not even lead to an NGO to grow, which is currently the room for all the unaccounted wealth stack. I agree an orphan should be taken care, but think about why is he an orphan on the first place. Let us FIX that instead of accepting one as an orphan. Perhaps, there are exceptions to it. Your opinion Capt. ?

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    1. hi keeth,

      today we have FREE VISA ON ARRIVAL INDIA.

      as it is we have criminal shelter , drug, pedophile, kidney tourism, christian missionary , foreign NGO tourism -- all sponsored by desh drohi ministers.

      punch into google search-

      WILL INDIAN BE A BANANA REPUBLIC VADAKAYIL.

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  16. Guruji,
    An off-topic question.

    How did Bruce Lee die? & subsequently his son Brandon.

    I've born many years after his death, however I'd have liked to have him around. Read several explanations on internet, however kindly throw some light from your perspective.

    Best wishes as always...

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    1. hi manju,

      Bruce Lee was in the apartment of his mistress for a tete e etete when he had a headache, after eating Cannabis cookies and a sexual romp on the bed.

      His mistress Taiwanese actree Betty Ting Pei gave him a tablet Equagesic, a combination of aspirin and meprobamate, a tablet which she always used.

      He drank a lot of water with it.

      Hyponatremia ,is an electrolyte disturbance in which the sodium ion concentration in the serum is lower than normal. Bruce maintained a dietary restriction, causing low sodium.

      This caused Cerebral edema , which is an excess accumulation of water in the cellular spaces of the brain.

      He then went to sleep, but when she could not wake him up for a dinner appointment with Raymond Chow, the owner of Golden Harvest, Betty called an ambulance.

      Lee was rushed to hospital where he was pronounced dead on arrival.

      Death at the age of 32, was caused by an allergic reaction that resulted in brain edema (swelling of the brain) due to excess accumulation of water in the cellular spaces of the brain.

      The coroner described his passing as "death by misadventure."

      Bruce Lee had made too many enemies due to his ego laden behavior.

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      Bruce Lee’s 28 year old son Brandon Lee was killed by a bullet in his chest, shot during filming a movie THE CROW in the presence of more than 50 people. .

      He was supposed to be shot by a blank .

      But the actor Michael Massee did NOT know that someone had put a real .44 calibre bullet in the gun.

      This was a planned and well executed murder.

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  17. Dear captain!
    Thank you for an eye opening post. As one of the readers posted a comment, parents have high expectations of kids and make them feel miserable when they don't meet them. In this competitive world, its important that one develop necessary skills to survive. If kids are not meeting expectations and parents get mad, the atmosphere in the house is no longer friendly.. as all the occupants are going through various emotions. The healing process is pretty lengthy and is often cut short by another episode of this madness. Its hard to imagine what kids go through emotionally during that time. I have seen families where both parents and kids (mostly teenagers) are unrelenting. The emotional disconnect exists all the time. Fortunately due to deep rooted family values, they are not broken completely yet. Do you have ideas for both parents and kids to deal with these unfortunate but unavoidable situations and earn that mutual respect back?

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    1. hi rama,

      a small child had to be taken care of by the parents -- as if left alone the child will die.

      later on in life, the situation gets reversed. The same child becomes a strong adult and the same parent now becomes weak .

      if there is NO gratitude, the aged parents will be neglected.

      this sorry situation never happened in india before, but you see this happening now.

      at the time of property division, brothers and sisters become enemies.

      the vedas taught us to be grateful-- it is a virtue.

      punch into google search-
      GRATITUDE VADAKAYIL

      in a relationship there must be NIL ego. it is ego which causes all the harm.

      if the child cannot understand maths and physics why is the parent trying to make the child an engineer, against his wishes ?

      is being a doctor or an engineer everything ?

      punch into google search-

      EGO FOUNTAINHEAD OF UNHAPPINESS VADAKAYIL

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  18. Thanks Capt,

    This post makes a lot of sense to me.. i always got in to the peer pressure or band wagon just to be part of crowd now, i will use all my common sense and knowledge to make decision before following the crowd..

    Will teach the same to my kids.. this article makes to my top fav.. and every time i read it it gives me new things i missing reading for the first time.

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  19. Respected Ajit ji, pranaam!
    Your posts inspire me!
    I have one doubt. Wasn't Kerala formed by Parashurama? But then, the vamana avatar which sent Mahabali to patala was before Parashuram. Did Kerala exists before Parashuram? Or have the white Christians tampered with this too?

    Pranaams, Reed.

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    1. hi rb,

      kerala existed thousands of years before parashurama came down with his band of namboodiris.

      hindusim and vedas are full of allegories.

      our vedas have been translated by people who did NOT have perception.

      in the vedic age there was NO caste system by birth-- only by capability.

      parashurama threw the axe to get land.

      this is misread to have been a miracle how how moses made the red sea part.

      but if you look at it , he used axe power and donated the lands to the namboodiris.

      vishnu came as vamana avatar to kill our beloved asura king mahabali , who made the gods jealous thousands of years before parashurama.

      punch into google search-
      EDAKKAL CAVES PHANTOM ROCK VADAKAYIL

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  20. Sir,

    It is a well known fact that there was massive confusion during the FaceBook IPO. NASDAQ has contributed this to a "technical error", due to which lots of peoples orders didn't get executed or got executed at wrong rates. Total confusion prevailed for around a week's time in FB stock.

    It will be foolish for anyone to believe that NASDAQ, or for that matter any financial instituion will change/tinker with their software systems, one day prior to the world's most aniticipated and largest IPO in history.

    The lead bankers for IPO were JP Morgan, Goldman Sachs and Morgan Stanley, all controlled invisibly by the "R" family.

    Was this a planned exercise to defraud the public and gain access to the world's information treasure trove? Because, information i.e. personal information about almost half of the world's population is of enormous potential, especially in cyber warfare!!

    Rgds

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    1. hi sn,

      you dean lacks leadership SPIRIT.

      he is NOT a role model. these type of "POLICING" type people churn out liars, rogues and cheats

      punch into google search-
      BLUE OCEAN LEADERSHIP VADAKAYIL

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  22. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Amnesty-International-advocates-repeal-of-AFSPA-in-notheast/articleshow/48042956.cms

    PUT THIS COMMENT IN MODIs, SWAMYs , PARIKKARs AND RAJNATH SINGHs WEBSITES.

    THIS WILL SAVE BHARATMATA FROM SLIPPING BACK INTO ZIONIST SLAVERY AGAIN.

    Peter Benenson the son of hard core Zionist Jewess Flora Solomon, was the founder of Rothschild funded NGO Amnesty International.

    Flora Solomon ,the daughter of Jew Grigori Benenson, blongs to the Rothschild family.

    British double agent and Bolshevik Jew Rothschild communist spy Harold Adrian Russell "Kim" Philby was controlled by Flora baby.

    Mind you Rothschild had wrangled the Order of the British Empire (OBE) medal for Kim bhaiyya.

    Kim bhaiyya was an advisor to crypto Jew King Ibn Sa'ud of Saudi Arabia

    Jew Rothschild wrangled for Jew Peter Benenson the Pride of Britain Award for Lifetime Achievement.

    Amnesty International now has a membership of over 7 million in over 150 countries and is engaged in HEGLIAN DIALECTIC.

    We do not want Amnesty International and BENAMI INDIAN MEDIA to save India.

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2014/10/hegelian-dialectic-cancer-on-this.html

    Cynthia Rothschild controls Amnesty's international lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender network.

    Amnesty International and Human Rights Watch are, essentially, weapons of the new world order of Rothschild.

    Who better than self-styled human rights activists to justify humanitarian wars?

    They provided much of the propaganda ammunition for the U.S. and European war against Libya, Iraq and Syria..

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2011/10/ethnic-cleansing-of-blackskinned-people.html

    Amnesty International did prcption managmnt that U.S. should remain in Afghanistan as long as it takes, for the sake of Afghan women. TEEEE HEEEEEEEE.

    Amnesty International and Human Rights Watch actively campaign for wars – and they always turn out to be the same wars that Washington is planning to wage.

    Both organizations are imposters on the world scene, pretending to care for human rights while advocating that the U.S. and its friends trample on the national sovereignty of weaker states – as if human rights can exist outside the framework of international law.

    As far as Amnesty International and Human Rights Watch are concerned, human rights are whatever Rothschild / Bilderberg club says they are.

    Amnesty International and Human Rights Watch are simply mercenaries for empire, and sworn enemies of international law.

    WE DO NOT TAKE ORDERS FROM AMNESTY INTERNATIONAL.

    capt ajit vadakayil
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  23. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/Can-adultery-be-a-sign-of-love/articleshow/14529012.cms

    THIS IS THE WAY THE NEW WORLD ORDER BRAINWASHED YOU

    GARBAGE IS ART
    WAR IS PEACE
    CACOPHONY IS MUSIC
    LOVE IS LUST


    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2011/02/modern-abstract-art-and-picasso-capt.html

    THE NEW WORLD ORDER HAS MONOPOLIZED ALL THE ART, MUSIC , WINE , GOOD LIFE MAGAZINES AND TV CHANNELS.

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2011/10/chilean-wine-and-art-of-wine-tasting.html

    THE NWO DOES PROPAGANDA THAT HOMOSEXUALS ARE THE SALT- NAY- BOUNTY OF THIS PLANET

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2013/12/ipc-section-377-love-lust-perversion.html

    THE ZIONIST TV COMMERCIALS ENCOURAGE THE INDIAN WIFE TO DEFY HER HUSBAND

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TN_mGzEP6RM

    INDIAN WIVES ARE MADE OUT TO BE SLUTS

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2014/02/the-best-and-worst-commercial.html

    INDIAN CHILDREN ARE ENCOURAGES TO MAKE A CHOOT OUT OF THEIR PARENTS

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z3Ca2zAFnLI

    LIVING IN TOGETHER IS BEING ENCOURAGED BY INJECTING INTO THE SUBCONSCIOUS--AS A NORMAL THING

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PH3fkeXfqzs

    MEN ARE ENCOURAGED TO STAY HOME AND BREAST FEED THE BABY WHILE WIFE GOES FOR WORK-- TO BE A COMPLETE TATTU MAN

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2hv42havE4w

    INDIAN LITERARY FESTS ARE NOW INFESTED WITH DESH DROHIS IN THE PAYROLL OF BIG BROTHER TO RUN DOWN ANCIENT INDIAN CULTURE.-- POPULAR TOPICS ARE KRISHNAs MISTRESS RADHA, THE FAKE DASAS, HOW SRI RAM ILL TREATED PREGNANT SITA, SEXUAL DEBAUCHERY OF SHIVA , HOW MAHARISHIS ATE BEEF AFTER KILLING COWS, DEVADASIS WHO HAD SEX IN TEMPLES etc

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2014/09/aghoris-corpse-eaters-of-india-capt.html

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2014/11/all-animal-sacrifices-in-hindu-temples.html

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2014/02/devadasi-system-immoral-lie-of-temple.html

    anybody who wears a saffron dress is addressed as a SEER by zionist TV channels

    HUGE AMOUNT OF MONEY HAS BEEN WASTED ON NALANDA UNIVERSITY JUST TO DO PROPAGANDA THAT STALWART HINDU KINGS LEFT BAAAD HINDUSIM AND JOINED GOOOD BUDDHISM.

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2014/08/chanakya-taxila-university-professor.html

    HOW ANCIENT INDIA HAD FREE SEX

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2014/07/kamasutra-by-vatsayana-immoral-sexual.html

    WE WANT GAJENDRA CHAUHAN TO ELIMINATE ROTHSCHILD COMMIES AND NAXALITES FROM ART INSTITUTIONS.

    IIT SC/ ST QUOTA STUDENTS HAVE GOT UNIONISED TO THREATEN THE DEAN AND PROFESSORS , TO WRANGLE PASS MARKS. TROJAN HORSE NGOs ARE INVOLVED IN THIS.

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2014/05/trojan-horse-foreign-funded-ngos-of.html

    WE WANT MODI TO CRUSH FOREIGN FUNDED CULTURAL TERRORiSM IN INDIA

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2014/12/cultural-terrorism-by-benami-media-and.html

    PUT THIS COMMENT IN MODIs, SWAMYs, RAJNATH SINGHs WEBSITES.

    capt ajit vadakayil
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  24. Hari om guruji,
    Love is lust .... This was the last part that I needed to experience and which I did. Thanks to feminism at its peak. If a girl thinks marriage is a steamy sex session every night, fantasize while having sex, dream about multiple partners. It is a disease of mind no doubt and for a greater part of my life such has been a case with me. Diabolical brainwash. Luckily , as a product of marriage I did not succumb into it manifesting it into my life. I burnt every book that psychologists I had. The eye (third)has opened but it is still smug with its perceptive vision as in infants but its been enough to cause a sense of awareness of what actually is vision. There is a difference between an induced and a real perception of reality. Your experience is our wisdom just as our antiquity aimed to give us.
    Om shanti

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  25. Shouri Suman
    September 15, 2016 at 3:42 PM

    Good God Captain,
    Our Hindu brothers have suffered so much. Why on earth did this happen. Is it just the tides of history or is it a strategic flaw. Perhaps it's our disunity. Compared to Portugese the English are almost decent. Maybe there is something we have to change. Kindly share your views and conclusions on how we can ensure this does not happen again.

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    Capt. Ajit Vadakayil
    September 15, 2016 at 4:28 PM

    hi ss,

    BRING AWARENESS

    TEACH PEOPLE TO USE THEIR OWN CONSCIENCE AND METHO OF THINKING

    LONG AGO A BIHARI MUSLIM CHIEF OFFICER TOLD ME-- SIR, I DO NOT BELEIVE ANY WRITTEN CONTENT IN ANY BOOK . . BUT I DO BELIEVE WHAT YOU TELL . .

    i replied-- DO NOT BELIEVE EVEN WHAT I SAY--LET YOUR PERCEPTION , COMMONSENSE AND YOUR CONSCIENCE GUIDE YOU

    I AM THE ONLY WRITER ON THIS PLANET TO WRITE SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT THIS PLANETs MOST EVIL MAN POL POT . .

    READ IT

    DECIDE , USINGYOUR OWN PERCEPTION AND COMMONSENSE

    IS CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL RIGHT ?

    OF IS THE WHOLE WORLD IN THE BANDWAGON RIGHT?

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2015/11/pol-pot-of-khmer-rouge-great-cambodian.html

    MIND YOU I BOLLOCK COMMIES ( LIKE ZIONIST JEWS ) EVERY HOUR-- BUT POL POT WAS A COMMIE.

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2013/05/peer-pressure-jumping-into-bandwagon.html

    ARE YOU IN THE BANDWAGON?

    ARE YOU LIKE MODI WHO PRAYS TO GANDHI ?

    MIND YOU, SINCE MY BIRTHDAY IS SAME SAME OCT 2ND , ONCE UPON A TIME I WAS A GREAT FOLLOWER OF GANDHI

    -TILL I GOT OFF THE BAND WAGON

    capt ajit vadakayil
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