In this post I will let out a secret, which i have NOT revealed till today.
Two weeks ago I went to Chennai to do my Master's Certificate of Competency revalidation. During the course, the College arranged for an ILO medical exam. The doctor came to the class room hall, and during this process we needed to take X Rays, where all had to strip to the waist.
A couple of Masters asked me " Ajit, you don't have signs of ageing on your face or body, at the age of 55. what is the big secret?"
I chose NOT to give a straight reply . I said " I guess I am a happy guy!. For more punch into Google search HAPPINESS FROM WITHIN , VADAKAYIL " .
Later when i came back to my hotel, i decided i would post on my big secret GRATITUDE.
No psychologist has ever paid any importance to this huge word. It shows what they are worth or what the science of human psychology is worth.
Here we go. I will keep it short, as things of greatest value must be kept short and sweet.
When my wife was 8 months pregnant with my elder son , she went to the Sarpa Kavu ( snake temple ) in Kannur for offerings . She had in a dish , eggs and milk, which she put one by one into a dark hole teeming with King Cobras.
I was a bit afraid, as I stood to lose both my wife and child. She reassured me " This is our family tradition. A Cobra snake does NOT bite the hand that feeds, only a human being does that.!"
This is an ancient Kerala practice to reprogram the DNA blue print of the baby inside the mother's womb, for the better-- it makes a champion.
I will NOT go any further on this subject.
I will transgress briefly into human psychology.
Gratitude is the noblest of all virtues.
Gratitude has the strongest link with mental health of any trait. Grateful people experience very deep levels of happiness.
Gratitude is not only the greatest virtue, but is is the parent of all other human virtues. This makes ingratitude the greatest of all vices , right?
If a grateful man is the North pole, the ingrate is the south. Such is the difference between these two denizens of this planet.
Grateful people have memories stored inside their hearts. When you take care of your old and helpless parents , you are a grateful guy, and the ultimate in courtesy. Gratitude is the most beautiful and fragrant flower, in the garden of your soul.
Ungrateful people are the scum of earth. They are always jealous and greedy.
I personally know a lot of ungrateful people, who have bitten my hand which fed them. Such people will always lick the boots of those who kick their backsides. These people are deeply unhappy and their WRINKLED faces show their wrinkled souls..
An ungrateful guy has only one vice, the rest of all his vices and crimes can pass off as virtues.
Greed's worst and darkest point is ingratitude.
We talk about forgiveness to be happy. Well i will put it in another way. The only time you should get even is with a person who helped you when you were in deep trouble, and you ass was on the line--without any expectation of reciprocity.
Even concealing a kindness received is ingratitude. Conveniently forgetting it is even a greater sin.
Caesar, said that the stab of Brutus was the unkindest cut of all--and it burst his mighty heart, at the cruelty of the stab.
It was indeed a fine poet who wrote" Blow, blow, thou winter wind, and chill my bones- thou art not so unkind as man's ingratitude" .
A grateful dog is better than an ungrateful man.
Gratitude has a unique relationship with your mental and physical health. Grateful people are happier, less stressed and happier with social relationships.
Grateful people have better self acceptance and are at peace with themselves ( now don't ask me how many pieces !) .
They have more positive ways to cope up with difficulties, and are more likely to seek help. They are less likely to avoid a problem, blame themselves and then get drunk or use drugs--for they sleep better, having less negative chatter in their minds.
Spread this secret around with your well wishers!
Do you know how animals express gratitude?
Grace and peace!
CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL