Saturday, February 19, 2011

GRATITUDE, THE NOBLEST OF ALL VIRTUES -- CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL



In this post I will let out a secret, which i have NOT revealed till today.


Two weeks ago I went to Chennai to do my Master's Certificate of Competency revalidation. During the course,  the College arranged for an ILO medical exam. The doctor came to the class room hall, and during this process we needed to take X Rays, where all had to strip to the waist.


A couple of Masters asked me " Ajit, you don't have signs of ageing on your face or body, at the age of 55. what is the big secret?"


I chose NOT to give a straight reply .  I said " I guess I am a happy guy!. For more punch into Google search HAPPINESS FROM WITHIN , VADAKAYIL " .


Later when i came back to my hotel, i decided i would post on my big secret GRATITUDE. 


No psychologist has ever paid any importance to this huge word.  It shows what they are worth or what the science of human psychology is worth.



Here we go. I will keep it short, as things of greatest value must be kept short and sweet.


When my wife was 8 months pregnant with my elder son , she went to the Sarpa Kavu ( snake temple ) in Kannur for offerings . She had in a dish , eggs and milk, which she put one by one into a dark hole teeming with King Cobras.


I was a bit afraid, as I stood to lose both my wife and child. She reassured me " This is our family tradition. A Cobra snake does NOT bite the hand that feeds, only a human being does that.!"


This is an ancient Kerala practice to reprogram the DNA blue print of the baby inside the mother's womb, for the better-- it makes a champion.  


I will NOT go any further on this subject.


I will transgress briefly into human psychology.




Gratitude is the noblest of all virtues.


Gratitude has the strongest link with mental health of any trait. Grateful people experience very deep levels of happiness. 


Gratitude is not only the greatest virtue, but is is the parent of all other human virtues. This makes ingratitude the greatest of all vices , right?


If a grateful man is the North pole, the ingrate is the south. Such is the difference between these two denizens of this planet.


Grateful people have memories stored inside their hearts. When you take care of your old and helpless parents , you are a grateful guy, and the ultimate in courtesy. Gratitude is the most beautiful and fragrant flower, in the garden of your soul.


Ungrateful people are the scum of earth. They are always jealous and greedy.


I personally know a lot of ungrateful people, who have bitten my hand which fed them. Such people will always lick the boots of those who kick their backsides. These people are deeply unhappy and their WRINKLED faces show their wrinkled souls.. 


An ungrateful guy has only one vice, the rest of all his vices and crimes can pass off as virtues.


Greed's worst and darkest point is ingratitude.


We talk about forgiveness to be happy. Well i will put it in another way. The only time you should get even is with a person who helped you when you were in deep trouble, and you ass was on the line--without any expectation of reciprocity.


Even concealing a kindness received is ingratitude. Conveniently forgetting it is even a greater sin.


Caesar, said that the stab of Brutus was the unkindest cut of all--and it burst his mighty heart, at the cruelty of the stab.


It was indeed a fine poet who wrote"  Blow, blow, thou winter wind, and chill my bones- thou art not so unkind as man's ingratitude" . 


A grateful dog is better than an ungrateful man.


Gratitude has a unique relationship with your mental and physical health. Grateful people are happier, less stressed and happier with social relationships. 


Grateful people have better self acceptance and are at peace with themselves ( now don't ask me how many pieces !) . 


They have more positive ways to cope up with difficulties, and are more likely to seek help. They are less likely to avoid a problem, blame themselves and then get drunk or use drugs--for they sleep better, having less negative chatter in their minds.


Spread this secret around with your well wishers!



Do you  know how animals express gratitude?

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DNA can be altered through magnetic fields, heart coherence, Sanskrit mantras, positive mental states and intention.  Genetic determinism is a flawed theory.  Factors like love and appreciation ( positive quantum nutients ) or anxiety and anger ( negative QN ) also influence a person’s DNA blueprint program. 

When we are stressed or negative, our biological energy reserves are diverted from the important task of regenerating and repairing the body. We can counteract cellular quantum nutrient deprivation by focusing on genuine states of care, gratitude , appreciation and love.



Grace and peace!




CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL
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14 comments:

  1. Captain,

    You just rock!!!
    Thank you.

    ~Arjun

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  2. Thanks a lot captain. Revolutionized my thoughts.

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  3. I couldn't agree more. I've experienced being grateful to the people and almighty has the most profound and uplifting effect, so much that I at times burst into happy tears and lose the ground beneath my feet. but at the psychological level why does this happens?

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  4. Sir
    Ur blogs have always inspired and helped me .. I may not regularly comment but read ur blogs every day .. I stumbled upon ur blog couple of years back when I was searching for cure for my kid ...ur suggestions worked .. My kid is better improved .. Thanks for the immediate and positive reply .. Thanks sir ..
    Shruthi

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  5. AN OPEN LETTER TO THE PM ABOUT THE DELHI DEFEAT & A UNITED HINDU ELECTORATE

    Dear Mr Prime Minister,

    First let me tell you that many a times, I felt that some Divine Force was inspiring you – the way Sri Aurobindo said that Churchill was guided by Him to fight the Nazis…

    But then, I have to say, as someone who travels extensively in India & has spent a lot of time in Delhi for the last 40 years (I have interviewed 7 Indian PM’s), that nothing much has changed. Your ministers are still as unreachable as the Congress ones, functioning in the same system with four layers of secretaries.

    Even if you have an important work – there is no way you can meet one of your ministers unless you have some pull. Your MP’s, as the Congress ones before them, once they come to Delhi, with their cars, bungalows, countless aides, and so many sycophants coming for favours, quickly lose sight of why they were elected.

    You need to send them BACK to their constituencies the way Mao Tse Tung sent back all his cadres to the countryside. Delhi is a microcosm of India and you seem to have lost there some of the Hindu electorate who voted for you UNITEDLY, from the Dalit to the businessmen. Some of us had seen this coming for a few months already.

    You need to have around you people who will tell you what the mood of the people is - without ANY FEAR - for I have seen, even with gurus, that their followers always want to please them, flatter them and thus shield them from the truth. It is something inherent to the Hindu psyche. If this had been done, maybe we could have told you that the middle class and lower class Hindus who voted for you, want a change at the grass root level.

    They are not concerned about Obama and nuclear energy, or the way you are skillfully loosening the Chinese encircling grip, or the remarkable unifying of intelligence and their agencies you are doing with Mr Doval, but about the daily problems and the constant bribes that are asked by petty bureaucrats and policemen. I myself experience this in Maharashtra as I am asked bribes for getting permissions for a Museum, which is free, dedicated to Shivaji Maharaj and a sewa project!

    Also they do not understand why you were so fiery and outspoken while campaigning - and now that you are elected, you do not seem any more to be promoting their Hindu causes. They cannot fathom, for instance in their simple minds, why you are being so friendly to Sonia Gandhi, who wanted you in prison or even dead - and why you are keeping away from those who supported you in your darkest hours, when nobody thought that you would become PM. These old friends of yours are still keeping quiet, out of respect for your work, but I know many who are bitter.

    The common Hindu man does not comprehend either why no one in your Government stands by reconversions of Christians or Muslims to Hinduism. During the last Tsunami, at least 10% of the Tamil Nadu fishermen were converted by Christian missionaries, using financial baits, such as free boats. I was there and SAW it. Or why when one of yours says that Hindus must produce more children, he is booed down.

    We know that Muslims produce seven to eight children per couple and in some areas of India they are now in majority and will NOT vote for you. It is true that there have been vandalizing of churches in Delhi, whether intentional, or just by some common thieves. But this is an old trick of Indian Christians to evoke sympathy from Obama and C° and bring pressure & discredit upon you. You should know better than that: Christians have been the aggressors in this country & the Pope still thinks that India is a fair target for mass conversions.

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    1. CONTINUED FROM 1-

      We understand that you must be the Prime Minister of all Indians and that you have to rise above sectarism, but there has to be in the public a perception that you are the PRIME MINISTER OF HINDUS BECAUSE IT IS THEY WHO VOTED FOR YOU – not the Muslims – whatever Ram Madhav told you before the Kashmir elections, which is going to be another thorn in your heel (and if you do not remove article 370 soon, most Hindus will lose faith in your government).

      To cultivate the Muslims, thinking that they will like you in the end, as Mr Vajpayee did, under the influence of the nice but misguided Suddeendhra Kulkarni, is not only a waste of time, but also may ALIENATE YOU HINDU VOTERS, whom you are going to need in four years again and at different state elections.

      Let the Muslims of India know that they possess the same rights as any Hindus, Sikhs or Christians, which they actually have, including total freedom of worship, that Hindus have neither in Bangladesh, Pakistan or Saudi Arabia, but do not go out of your way to please them.

      When the common man of Delhi sees that you received Aamir Khan, whose film PK, is a deliberate insult to all Hindu gurus & Hindus, they think something is not right.

      Also they do not understand why so many Hindu gurus and activists such as sadhvi Pragya and Colonel Purohit, whose innocence has been proved, are still languishing in jail. Congress had no qualms in favouring their people and flouting all decent rules. This isn’t about ethics, but if your aim is just, dharmic, and I believe it is, it does not matter what means are used.

      The Congress got elected and elected again with mostly the Muslims votes, till Kejriwal came, You need to CULTIVATE THE HINDU ELECTORATE Sir, by making gestures, even if you let your people do them and stand back. And that has to be done QUICKLY. If they are convinced that you are working for them, you will have the two or even three terms you need to achieve a real Renaissance of India. Democracy is a beautiful but skewed system, easy to hijack by adharmic forces. To realise all the great things you have undertaken, YOU NEED A UNIFIED HINDU VOTE.

      The trap now is to listen to the Media which says that your party lost in Delhi because of 'communal' reasons - vandalizing of churches, statements by your people about reconversions, or your so-called ten lakh suit. This will prod you and your government to go more secular, let go of more of the pledges you made for the Hindu cause during your campaign, the same way the Vajpayee Government veered away gradually from its Hindu ideals - and lost the elections to Sonia Gandhi.

      But think of it like that: you got elected in May last year with a massive mandate BECAUSE of your dedicated, sincere and fiery HINDU promises. There is no reason why it should not work the same way now that you have the power. You need to stick by what your pledged Sir - whatever the Media, Obama, your bureaucrats or the Foreign Press says...

      Namaste/ Francois Gautier.

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      INDEED IF THE SOCIAL MEDIA HAD NOT SUPPORTED MODI HE WOULD BE IN JAIL, WITH ANNA HAZARE /KEJRIWAL COMBINE RULING -- INSTEAD OF BEING ON THE PM CHAIR .

      MODI HAS BEEN UNGRATEFUL !

      INGRATITUDE IS THE WORST TRAIT IN A HUMAN BEING – WHEN I SEE A MAFIA MAN WHO HAS GRATITUDE IN HIS BLOOD , I SUPPORT HIM .

      I SAY AGAIN- MODI HAS INGRATITUDE IN HIS BLOOD .

      http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2011/02/gratitude-noblest-of-all-virtues-capt.html

      BY THE WAY AUROBINDO WAS PLEA BARGAINED TO R—AND CHURCHILL IS ONE OF THE MOST EVEIL MEN EVER BORN ON PLANET EARTH .

      GAUTIER NEEDS TO BUILD UP HIS PERCEPTION— EITHER HE IS IGNORANT OR HAS AN AGENDA –

      FOR CHURCHILLs JEWESS MOTHER IS FROM R FAMILY .

      CHURCHILL IS AMONG THE TOP FIVE MOST EVIL MEN ON THIS PLANET .

      http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2011/07/winston-churchill-henchman-or-hero-capt.html

      http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2011/09/amartya-sen-gets-nobel-prize-for.html

      I AM WATCHING -

      capt ajit vadakayil
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    2. KP YOHANNAN IS A KERALA SYRIAN JEW – nay - CHRISTIAN.

      He is is the founder and president of Gospel for Asia, a foreign funded Christian organization based in Carrollton, Texas, and the Metropolitan of Believers Church.

      K.P. Yohannan’s radio broadcast, "Road to Reality," is heard on over 800 radio stations throughout the USA, Canada, U.K., New Zealand and Australia.

      K.P. Yohannan welcomed the tsunami of 2004 as “one of the greatest opportunities God has given us to share his love with people”.

      The tsunami in India was indeed a windfall for many American churches which poured in untold billions of dollars to convert large numbers of poor fisherfolk in the Kudankulam area.
      EXPLOITING VULNERABILITY IS THE WORST TRAIT OF A HUMAN BEING.

      TODAY EVANGELIST AGENTS WAIT OUTISDE KIDNEY HOSPITALS OFFERING FREE DIALYSIS , IF THE HINDU MAN CONVERTS TO CHRISTIANITY.

      THEY DARE NOT TRY IT ON A MUSLIM . .

      capt ajit vadakayil
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    3. Respected Sir,
      Sir I don't know if my comment reached you.
      Am grateful and thank you for removing the comments.
      There are 3 comments which are bothering me.
      I have decided to ignore them and work my way out.
      I wish the best for you and your family sir.
      Thank you for everything sir and ma'm.
      Am sorry for troubling you.please forgive me.
      Love and regards

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  6. https://www.facebook.com/pavani.reddy.184881

    This guy is copying everything from this blogsite without even mentioning your name.

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    1. hi jj,

      there are dozens like him

      copy paste after removing my name-

      and when readers congratulate them--

      they boast-

      PIECE OF CAKE.

      capt ajit vadakayil
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  7. trinity
    November 13, 2015 at 4:04 PM
    Respected Sir,
    Sir how to do shraadh on Karkidaka Vavu.is there any site which tells the correct procedure
    my mom-in-law offers choicest foods in a room...
    do we also have to offer sesame rice balls to raven on this day
    thank you

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    Capt. Ajit Vadakayil
    November 13, 2015 at 4:50 PM
    hi t,

    the food kept with lamp in the closed room , on which you throw AKSHATA rice ( unbrone rice ) is removed and part of it is kept outside for the raven to eat. no need for sesame .

    my wife did it for her mother 3 days ago.

    you throw rice on the food and lamp first with a prayer of gratitude--then close the door for 5 minutes-- KNOCK door--enter the darkened room-- throw rice and offer prayer of gratitude again.

    the part of the food is kept in a plantain leaf outside the home- CLAP HANDS and the raven comes.

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2012/11/rip-impossible-with-burial-world-is.html

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2014/11/pitru-paksha-shraadh-pitru-tharpanam.html

    ALL THIS HAS A QUANTUM EFFECT ON THE HUMAN DNA.

    capt ajit vadakayil
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  8. People have betrayed me and still it was me who tendered apology and ask for forgiveness for even hating them in my mind. You know why? Because somehow I felt relieved. Sometimes I took the beating and left defeated without retaliation.you know why? For the happiness of my family. I was full of thankfulness to my parents for giving me a home full of love and care. I can take hundred beatings without retaliation if that means peace for my parents. I am not coward. Had I been all along I would have fkd my opponents. It is all because of this gratitude towards my parents that I take the beatings.

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  9. EATING IN THE RIGHT STATE OF MIND

    https://profgrant.com/2013/06/05/eating-in-the-right-state-of-mind/

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  10. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/This-Diwali-wish-our-soldiers-who-keep-us-safe/social/55014003.cms

    WE INDIANS ARE GRATEFUL TO OUR BRAVE JAWANS ..........

    WE TWANG THE CHORDS OF OUR COLLECTIVE GRATITUDE-- LET IT BE THE MUSIC IN YOUR MANLY HEARTS .. .

    TWAAAANNNNGGGGGGGGGGG !

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    WE ASK PARRIKKAR TO GLEAN FROM THE THOUSANDS OF DIWALI WISHES

    CREATE A POSTER FOR THE JAWANS

    PEOPLE WORK FOR MONEY-- BUT THEY GO THE EXTRA MILE FOR PRAISE AND ADMIRATION

    AN ARMY WITH A LOW MORALE CAN WIN NO WARS .

    AT SEA, EVEN MY WORST DETRACTORS WILL CY THAT CAPT AJIT VADAKAYILs CREW HAD THE HIGHEST MORALE

    WE WORKED HARD , WE PLAYER HARDER

    http://ajitvadakayil.blogspot.in/2010/12/team-work-team-dynamics-capt-ajit.html

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